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by Trisha Had her baby on December 15th, 2007

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My sister-in-law is having her son's 1st Birthday party. She has invited 40 people but is making her Mother-in-law cook the dinner. Mother-in-law thought it would b just close family. Do u find my sister-in-law wrong? Do you think it is to many people?

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  • by Anonymous on December 15th, 2007

    Anonymous

    First of all inviting 40 people for a baby turning 1 yr. old is way overboard. Second..if she wants that big of a party..dinner..then the mother in law should tell her that she will be glad to help but that the baby's mother needs to do the major part of the cooking..party..etc. It is very selfish for the daughter in law to take advantage of her mother in law...but the mother in law is at fault for allowing it to happen. :)

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  • by Auntie Em on December 15th, 2007

    Auntie Em

    Your sister-in-law is making a mistake. It is too many people.

    One she will pay for soon enough. A one year old, hopped up on sugar and overwhelmed by attention is a terrible thing.

    His embarrassing overwhelmed meltdown behavior will be her own reward.

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  • by Stephette on December 15th, 2007

    Stephette

    I think it depends on when the mother-in-law agreed to do all of this cooking.

    Did the sister-in-law tell her there was going to be 40 people, and then she agreed, or did the sister-in-law just omit that information?

    If the mother-in-law was told about all 40 people and she agreed, then I guess she would have to do it because she said she would. If the sister-in-law just didn't tell her, then I think the sister-in-law should be doing all the cooking, because she is the one throwing the party for her child, not the mother-in-law.

    Either way, with 40 people, maybe it would be best for everyone to bring something, so it saves one person all the work of cooking it all.

    Sorry if this is confusing or anything.

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  • by LANGIE on December 15th, 2007

    LANGIE

    a bit but i have an idea, make it forty one and i`ll help out with the cooking

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  • by dead leaves raked in a pile on December 11th, 2008

    dead leaves raked in a pile

    I find you wrong. It's not your problem

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  • by suzycue on August 18th, 2008

    suzycue

    The party isn't for the baby, is it? The party really is for the mom/dad...to celebrate having this gift. I hope they will all have a lovely day and mother-in-law gets help from some of the other guests. If she is doing it for free, that should be HER gift...and she should feel free to get as many helpers as she can from the extended family.
    Mom may not be a good cook, but she can do the shopping, the preparation, the serving and the cleaning up.....and as families 'pitch in', I hope everyone does just that to make this day as special as the parents obviously think it is.

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  • by Brahmanyan on December 15th, 2007

    Brahmanyan

    I think your sister-in-law is wrong in not telling the number of people she had invited for her son's birthday.Inviting 40 guests may not be wrong,but she should have arranged to get the dinner cooked by professional people.

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  • by Miss Anubis loves this season on December 15th, 2007

    Miss Anubis loves this season

    Sister-in-Law should have ASKED first! How rude! If mom-in-law was planning on cooking, she should have had a general idea before she was forced into a dinner for 40! Really, does a 1 year old have that many friends?

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  • by I love my baby on December 15th, 2007

    I love my baby

    I think it is the Mother in law who is wrong. How can she be made to cook? I find your sister in law rude. I think it is up to whoever is doing the work to decide how many guest.

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  • by Roger Kovaciny on December 15th, 2007

    Roger Kovaciny

    The general rule is the number of guests should equal the child's age.

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  • by altgirl84 on December 15th, 2007

    altgirl84

    I don't agree with 'making' her mother in law do all the work; the mother is the one who decided to have the party for her son and invite all those people (esp. when the mother in law thought it would be fewer). She could ask her mother in law to help but not do everything. I think the number of people is subjective, and depends who's invited. I'd only invite people that are really 'in my life' as opposed to people I only see/talk to a few times a year, just to show off and get presents for the baby. For me, it would be more of an issue of how the party is handled (like how much it costs and how much they're going 'all out' with it). I'd rather have a lot of people with a simple party than fewer people and spending ridiculous amounts of money on a one year old; no offence to the child, but cmon he's ONE! He's not even aware of what a birthday is yet. Some parents go waaaaay overboard. And 99% of the time it's just to show off to say 'Look how much money I can shell out for my child'. Sorry if I went on and on lol but that's my view :)

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  • by kittygoesmoo- engaged...finally on December 11th, 2008

    kittygoesmoo- engaged...finally

    Are those 40 people your sister-in-laws friends?

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  • by val gal on August 18th, 2008

    val gal

    The mother in law should have the party catered then charge it to the daughter in law.

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  • by Possum on February 10th, 2011

    Possum

    I think siter-in-law is one of the increasing number of head cases that think a kid will remember anything about a first (or fifth) birthday party.

    She's eager to spend the time, effort, and imposition to create this jerk-off event. But I'll bet $100 she's not willing to spend the time and money to get a baby sitter instead of taking the little pooper out to annoy people trying to eat in a restaurant.

    I wish I know where the event was so I could firebomb it. Anyone that participates in such stupidity shouldn't be in the gene pool.

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  • by ChuckExAnon on February 10th, 2011

    ChuckExAnon

    Based on the date of the Question, the kid's now three years old. How's he doing?

    [These old, old Questions, by Members who are long, long gone, generated by the AB Computer...bug me!]

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  • by Iceander on June 2nd, 2011

    Iceander

    If she wants to have that many people over for a party, then she should be the 1 providing the meal. Mother-in-law should of made it clear from the start how many she would be responsible for making meals for.

    I notice often lots of people set themselves up for just such a case when it can always be easily avoided if people would just learn how to communicate with each other.

    I constantly see it all the time with my friends. Simply talk about things before hand making sure everything is clear on both sides.

    The mistake every one seems to make is they think every one thinks just like themselves & if they just looked around they could easily see that it's not true. Because if it was every one would be driving the same car, wearing the same cloths, have their houses looking exactly the same etc. if we all did think the same.

    Fact is no one thinks exactly the same as anyone else. There for it's imperative to always be crystal clear when ever making such commitments of any kind always.

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  • by kwack on June 1st, 2010

    kwack

    if they can afford the party.fine.if the mother in law was like mine. make her do the cooking and washing up before sending her home.

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