My grandfather is dying as I type. He lives in WA, and my mom is the only one of her family who lives in the midwest so she traveled to WA to say goodbye...I didn't know him well, but she's a mess..What can I do to help her when I'm not there with her?
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The best thing you can do in these cases is usually just to be available and empathetic. It's likely that your mother will be upset in waves -- fine one minute, then breaking down the next. There's nothing wrong, that's normal grieving... but it helps to have people who can just BE with the grief and pain: if you can listen, and acknowledge that it hurts, and recognize the love she has for her father, that's about all there is to it. Grief and loss take time to "process". Don't try to cheer her up, just allow her to be wherever she is at any given moment. That compassion helps the healing, but there's nothing that can bypass it.
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