So, if you dont want your emails read by your significant other-are you keeping secrets from the person you love?
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sophiesmom
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No -- I just want some privacy in my life. For e.g. if I get an email from by brother telling me my father is in the hospital -- I don't want my S.O. telling me to check my email because there's something important in there.
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Not at all. He could read them if he wanted to, but really he has no desire to be bored with it. We've been together long enough to not care about stupid things like that.
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I don't believe so. In relationships, it is important to have some privacy. My boyfriend and I never open eachother's mail, read eachother's email, and he never reads my journal. I don't feel I'm keeping secrets. We both need that privacy. We share so much together, I need something that is my own.
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No. Everyone is entitled to some privacy. Couples have to agree on where the boundaries are. To not cross them requires trust. I think that just about covers it.
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I think nothing should be private in a long-term relationship/marriage. I mean, this is the person you LOVE, the person you may spend the rest of your life with. Why would there be anything that should be totally off-limits to him/her? Besides, it almost always gives the signal that you have something to hide. But, if it's a new (or beginning) relationship, I think it's okay to hold some things back. You open up parts of your life as the relationship grows stronger.
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I think your s/o is entitled to privacy and trust.
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I think you've put the second part of your question in a negative context. However, few people realize that some secrets and privacy are necessary to maintain your own identity. There are things from my past that I wouldn't tell anyone but my therapist. Does that mean I'm lying to my SO or being deceitful? An another note, however, I wouldn't mind if my SO wanted to read my e-mails, because there's really nothing of any importance in them, anyway.
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Secrets maybe not. An unnecessary somewhat petty boundary, yes in my opinion.
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Not at all. Just because you're in a couple doesn't mean you're obliged to share every aspect of each others lives. In fact I think trying to live as a single entity is far less healthy than retaining some privacy and a sense of seperateness. Besides - if someone's going to cheat on you they're going to cheat on you - having access to their email account isn't going to stop them.
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