when you have sex with him, try imagining that your doing it by yourself. if that doesnt work then ask him to do something new to make you orgasm. (oral, fingering...etc.)

Well, some people are different in their sex drives. And, I perceive that you are pretty young. Most women's drive increases with maturity. And, have you ever been really "in love"? It does make a difference. Even with men.

Well I am a man and as such cannot really substantiate my thoughts. However; 1> As the other responses hinted at, pre-coital attention to your personal attitude is a winning strategy. I emotional preparation for the experience of enjoying the most intimate and binding of human experience pays big orgasmic dividends. In practical terms, mentally throw away all your cares and distractions. In your emotional mind create a center with ALL the sexual and intimate sensations, smells of lavender and roses, and what ever else, the colors and lights of warm red and pinks, the tactile of satin sheets, warm Barry White music. Eat lightly. Start softly with touch and caress. 2> The brain - mind is the most sexual part of the human experience. Your task / job is to create a courtship garden behind your eyes. I will not say "should" because it just a way making something wrong. Book a mental passage on the trans-sexual express to a sensual rendezvous, board a express inside your pleasure center. Don't think in terms of something short and sheer, see yourself in terms of a soft caress and shallow breaths. As you begin to respond emotionally, give over to the experiencing and nothing else, not your concerns even though they tug at you. YOU MUST Listen to your emotional body. Having sex in order to stop wanting sex is not good emotional discipline. Its a habit. Develop the new methods mentioned here and you will have a wonderful intimacy. Ed

I doubt it is your sex drive. It may be nerves or maybe now you don't expect to orgasm, so you don't. Have you tried masturbating along with your boyfriend... that can be fun for both partners, along with a little help both ways! And have you tried masturbating while your boyfriend is inside you? That is likely to give your boyfriend pleasure too... after all, he should be happy for you to be happy! What position would you normally climax in? If it's standing, or on your knees, then try and get in the same position with him inside you. Hope it works out!

I think you are in a pretty common situation. Don't believe everything your girlfriends say. They may be struggling, too. It could be your background puts you in a situation where you aren't quite comfortable. If you aren't comfortable, then it may be difficult to relax enough. Even kissing him may worry you because of what it might lead to. Work at really developing a strong emotional connection with him. Talk to him, too. It may be difficult to explain because guys are more linear. To them, it may be as simple as "sex equals love." Let him know that love isn't a simple thing for you. Let him know that it is complex set of emotions and that your religion or your parent's values weigh heavily on you and you need to really build a permanent emotional relationship with him in order to give yourself completely to sex. I think once you know that this is the man for you and that you will be with him forever, your mind will let your body fully enjoy it. Getting married may help, too. But, be patient and just work at letting go. Plus, teach him what works for you. Be patient has he learns. Try different things, too. Everyone is different. My wife masturbastes without ever touching her clit or without inserting anything. She just puts tons of pressure on her vagina. Once she explained that to me, it made our sex life better because I understood what worked for her. Good Luck!

Well, it is reported that 4 out of 10 women can't experience orgasm, just for the record, I fall into the 60% category ;-)

Sounds like you have the wrong boy friend. A woman's body is geared for sexual pleasure- like playing a violin. Your boyfriend just has to learn what strings to stroke. He has to be the man, the one in charge. He has to be dominant and bring you to orgasm, over and over, agian.