I just got dumped-and i am not a kid-and it still hurts alot. its been so long since i have felt this bad-what do you do?
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sophiesmom
ANSWERS: 19
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well ive just split up with my bf after 10 yrs and you nice people on AB are making it easier for me. just remember you will meet someone who will make you happy and love you and remember you can always talk to us on here. :0)
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Get yourself a bottle of your liquor of choice and get pissed. Try to pick up some chick in a bar and have some fun with her. It'll help. "One drink to remember and another to forget." -Dave Matthews Band
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I am very sorry you are going through that. I know how hard it is. Talking to someone might help. A close friend or family member. Good luck. Hugs!
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When I get dumped which is all the time - I usually get drunk and then sign them up to lots of different porn sites so their e-mail will be choked up - who the hell cares about forgiveness :)
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I know how you feel... It hurts a lot, but I think about the reasons why me and my ex never would have worked out... things that weren't apparent when we were together, but are now. I think of all the things I can do now that I'm single that I couldn't before (I even made a list haha). And EVERYDAY I think about how five years from now I'll be happy with someone new and how I'll look back on this and question why I hurt so much. The pain fades day by day, and so will your feelings for your ex. Cry it all out, then start fresh and keep looking. Good luck :)
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I really really feel for you....i just got dumped and it's so hard to understand that he wants to go on without me in his life.
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every ones goes thru i get ur mates 2gether go out dress up.......get laid!
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keep yourself as busy as possible... exhaust yourself...and surround yourself with your friends in groups..
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go shopping !
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I'm going through the same thing. It comforts me that I'm not the only one going through this when I see all the people here on AB. People will say surround yourself with friends, keep busy, although these things help, I find that you move on when you're ready and it won't stop hurting till then. I went out with my best friend this weekend and we saw Sex and the City (the movie) and it helped distract me for a while. If you want to talk, email me at grab_the_eggs@hotmail.com :)
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Truth be told, it doesn't hurt less when you're older. You're just able to deal with emotions better. To say that it doesn't hurt so much means you're either turning bitter, or you have other things to worry about. Just be glad that you're not bitter. Overpowering emotions hurt, but then again so does lack of emotion. But in the former, it's easier to get emotions back to a level that you like. I know that it doesn't sound like a nice idea, coming from a woman who puts logic before emotion. But maybe I can offer this small bit of advice: Think about what happened (up to that point), how he acted, how you acted, and why it ended that way. At the very least, it'll give you a sense of clarity If that doesn't work, opt to do something artistic that you enjoy. (Yeah, I'm sounding emo. But I'm too old to be emo!) It doesn't have to be poetry. I like to paint my feelings on a canvas. It helps for someone who is better at describing her emotions through pictures (not so much through words).
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Seek out your old girlfriends and go for a weekend away for a start. Pamper yourself. Get out and meet new people. And DON'T be tempted to contact him.
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The loss of love is a very hard thing to go through. Picking up a hobbie can be an amazing solution, video games,sports, other stuff... could all be good things to distract you. just try to avoid destructive habits such as drinking,smoking,eating, self mutilation etc. And I know you don't know me but if you wana get somethin off your chest ya could always pm me. sometimes its helpful to just release emotions to someone. Hope this helped you. -Demon
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You can't really do anything...I hate that feeling...just wait...time is the only thing that will help you go through the break up ...which sucks by the way because, hours feel like days!...Once you do get over it...you will feel refreshed...what helps me is writing.
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if you got dumped then you should be happy you got rid of that guy or woman before it went to far, I mean, do you really want he or she back after they dumped you? then you should know for sure that he or she don't love you. don't you? and why would you want someone around you that doesnt love you? Thats right you certanly DON'T! the world is full of good loving people. Im sure there is someone for you that truly will love you. forget about that guy and moove on. consider your self free now when you know the truth about that person, he can no longer fool you by saying he loves you but in fact not really loves you. take it from there. good luck
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Love may scar ones heart, but take comfort in knowing this: If a flame of love dies between two people it was not meant to be. Somewhere out there someone extra special is waiting to love and appreciate you. By losing this lover you have actually given your heart a chance to love another and an opportunity is presented to maybe discover the one that is meant for you! This too shall pass in time...
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sorry to hear that......i have been through many bad relationships.....and, it sucks to get dumped....but, your ex is an ex for a reason......give it time....you will be okay......take care.....brian.....
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No you did not just get dumped. This question was asked a year and a half ago.
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Dear Friend: Your pain right now seems great over being dumped, but, remember one thing.......never does one door close, but, another one opens. As a Pastor, my comment to you would be, perhaps, just perhaps, God has someone even more special in mind for you. Turn your hurts over to God, and, you will find the pain is far less for you to bear. He does not mind if you are angry, and, want to say what you truly feel when you cry out to Him. Just know that in time, someone special will be sent into your life, and, you will look back upon this, and, say, wow, I can not believe this happened. All the best. There is always a reason for everything that happens. Pastor Patty
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