Why do people think that just because they are family and they cant afford day care, that I have to take care of their baby while they are at work?
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Jeremy-GO-DAWGS
ANSWERS: 12
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Age old question... Also, from the child's standpoint, why did my mother assume that because my uncle was unemployed and available while she was working that I wanted to spend the summer with him?
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Maybe cause you do it for Free. Start charge them no less then $10.00 an hour per child, and see how soon they stop leaving their children at your place for you to watch all the time for them.
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Because you are not speaking up!! It is hard to say no when you know they need help. I am sure something can be worked out if you tell them.
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I feel for ya, I get miffed when I have to pick up the dog crap(not my dog) just cuz I'm writing at home half the day, I would throw a fit if I had to take care of a kid
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because people tend to rely on their family to help them out...dont get me wrong. I wouldnt want anyone asking me to babysit....i feel ya too
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Because people dont seem to realise you have a life and it doesnt include their children...i would speak up and tell them to make other arrangements for their children.
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Because you never said no.
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I dont know what branch of the family you are...mother? Grand mother? Sister? When the babys mother says "baby sit for my baby" she may be desparate for help and cant afford a sitter while she goes to work. Tell her that you can not sit for the baby on a daily basis after this month,and she must make other arrangments within a specific amount of time. She should contact a social service dept and ask them what she can do to find the help she needs. Would you be wiling to sit if she paid you? Or if taking care of the baby is just to exhausting for yu and disrupts your life too much. Tell her the truth in a nice way and help her find someone to replace you. Maybe someone in the neighborhood would like to be paid for sitting. Give her a time limit to find someone even if she has to take a 2nd job to pay them.
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Because family helps each other. And thats how it should be.
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It sounds a bit inconsiderate to me, but you should also try to help out your family as much as you can. Hopefully they would do the same for you.
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perhaps they trust you with their child/children, i had one sister say that to me. However if you don't feel like babysitting i would just say no and explain that you're busy and perhaps just do it every once in a while
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You are not alone. I call this my "being used" time. Once you start it, its there for life. We are good examples, especially with the grandchildren. Not only was the babysitting for them to work, but for their party time also. Wife and if finally said NO. They resented it at first, but they go use to it. I like the sound of the word NO. Are you brave enough??
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