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Let me ask you this - would he be willing to increase the child support if you were the one having financial trouble? If the child support is being collected through any state/provincial collection agency, don't mess with it. If not, letting him off the hook for a few months might turn into a few years, and that's not fair to the children, is it?
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surely it depends on the relationship with your exhusband. If you two are friendly and you can afford him not to pay for 6 months then i would call that being kind...
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i understand wanting to be empathetic to his problems...but "taking a break" just isnt something that applies to the care of children.
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It depends on how often he has the child and the relationship between you and him. If he supports the child part of the time I don't see a problem with it. Just make it clear that it is not going to be permanent.
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I'm not a mom or divorced. but, I've had/have several friends who've spent years fighting with their exes who won't pay at all or won't even pay what they are supposed to. a gal I work with goes to court several times a year (her ex often no-shows). he's having financial trouble? what about his child's needs? maybe he could pay a little less for a while, but I don't think "giving him a break" is wise. I don't know if he's like any of my friend's exes...but, given an inch, they take a mile. I'd be very hesitant about doing such a thing....not without talking to a lawyer.
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it depends on the relationship, the guy, my income and of course my children! if me and my ex were friendly and i had a steady job... and he came and got the kids when it was his turn, and paid for things for them then... but had also never missed a child support payment then sure i would, but only if he despratly needs it. i dont want my kids not being able to see their father because he was in jail from lack of payments. but if he was an ass and just wanted to scam money then id say a big NO!!!!! (i am not married, have no kids and no ex husband!! :)
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I think that would be fair as long as for the next 6 months he supported the child totally and gave the wife a financial break :)
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My ex wouldn't, but if he has bee paying you and never failed you an your children, I think you would be a kind woman. Besides if he's having problem with money, he won't be able to pay you anyways, at least you give him a change to get back on his feet and start paying you child support and shows your children that you and their father can get along and also shows your children that people do sometimes need help and it's okay to help and right to help someone in need. Not many woman like you out there with a heart and understanding of their ex. God Bless You, wish you were my ex
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I would say none I am a mother of three and my ex has it pretty good all he has to pay for three kids is a lousy 557.00. He has a choice of when and how often he wants to get the kids. I am the one left to do everything from taking the kids to doctors appointments, going to school functions, basketball practices and games, potty training, buying food (for boys is pretty expensive),missing sleep and days from work when one of them gets sick which means lost of money, and all household duties. So letting a guy off the hook for child support sounds really stupid to me.
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I didn't request child support for my 3 kids until 13 years after my divorce was final. I didn't want him, I didn't want his money, but it came to a point that I wasn't able to afford all the things my kids wanted, and I felt they had a right to. He lucked out, financially, as he only had to make child support payments for 4 years, and our youngest was 3 weeks old when I left him. It could have been much worse! I say if the child will not go without, and the bio parent can't afford to pay, then why not cut them some slack. This is assuming that the parent is being a parent in all other manners, except for financial support.
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I would say it all depends on your financial situation. If you want to help out your ex by letting him not pay for a couple of months and you can supply your child(ren) with all the support they need and all the support for yourself, then yes it would be okay, but if you and your kids depend on that money to survive and pay your own bills on time then no. You have to do what is in the best interest of the child(ren).
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it's a generous and kindhearted thing to do, but then you loved him once, the guy you are seeing probably feels both jealous and insecure, as it shows you still 'care' for your ex's well being.
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Although i can c were u r coming from, ur ex should supply for his children, even the smallest amount of cash would show that he is trying and that he is not trying to take u for a ride.
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You would be very appreciated by certain ex husbands and abused by others. Listen to your own heart--not your boyfriend's. He can't help being biased. I did stop all child support as soon as I was able to cover our expenses. ( 2 children) My ex-husband responded by being very generous to all of us later on in life. He never forgot.
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Even though I'm not divorced I know that my husband would respond by being very good to me when he could. Good question.
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Given the fact that child support in general is a punitive measure, I would support it's abolition. A woman and a man can successfully make a child together, they can raise a child together, they can maintain a home together, but when they are separated, the financial dynamic changes. The financial success rate drops dramatically when one household splits into two halves. A man can support one house with a wife and a child, but how can the average man support TWO at the same time? This does not make any sense except to say that the purpose of child support is not to support the child, but rather to punish the man. Before anyone decides to call me a liar, first explain to me how it is equitable that more than 97% of all child support payments are handed to women from men. Are men that universally evil that they have no other purpose than to be the slave of a woman in perpetuity even AFTER she decides his presence is not required in the house? No, I say that the reverse is true, women who believe this system is fair are themselves either ignorant, (which can be forgiven) or evil, (which should be extinguished) Says I.
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if he is telling the truth then yes y not? on the other hand you will expect extra 4 6 months if you was having trouble
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I shouldn't maybe say this... But that is STUPID!
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