Ur all going 2 hate me. I didn't mean it butI've been lying to a girl about who I am for over a year, she said she'd forgive a person if they came clean. We're in love, I don't know how to tell her though, I didn't know we'd fall 4 one another, any ideas?
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Sadly, the best thing to do is come clean. A relationship built on a lie has nowhere to grow. Cowboy up!
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um explain the depth of this lie.... how big is it...and who are you real who are you suppose to be?
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It depends, what did you lie about? I mean a lie is a lie but .............. what is it?
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What part about yourself did you lie about? Occupation? Name? What aspect? You really need to come clean with her, considering she said that she would forgive a person if they did, you have nothing to lose. If your really inlove then nothing will change, as she would be in love with the real you.
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Tell me the lie first so I know how bad it is or maybe it's something that she could easily forgive.
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Depends on the lie. For example; if your really married, and dating her...she should beat you, before dumping you. If its a small lie, it can be worked out at her discretion. If it took you this long to come clean, she might need alittle time to think about the kind of person you are. Is this one of those lies that people do when they first meet someone to make themselves look good? So you did this to "catch her?" Sort of flattering, in a dark egotistical way... If its a year later...guess, it worked.
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I don't hate you for your situation, only your spelling & grammar.
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well how much different from your photo that she has seen???? hopefully she will get over it..but i would start by telling her your name....
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Internet love is based on a whisper anyways. If you've lied about yourself, and most people do in some way, it too easy to do it. You post the best picture you ever had taken, or even of someone else. You tell people you are a PHD when you only barely graduated high school. Talk is easy to manipulate, there is no body language to discredit you. Anyway. You can get to know someone online (if they are basically honest) but you can't really be friends let alone loves until you meet face to face. Then all the online stuff will quicken the connections, provided it wasn't all made up. Come clean with her now. Let the chips fall where they may. Then move forward or move on. Good luck.
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Lying for over a year, and you "didn't mean it?" Hmmm..... Is this one of those "I'll live with being a liar until I HAVE to come clean" things? This is usually referred to as a 'courtroom confession,' when a person refuses to confess until they realize that they're going to be caught and proven a liar. The fact that you think you should hold off longer because she's having problems only suggests that you're willing to stall in imparting the truth. "Oh, the wicked web we weave....." Be a man, answer for what you've done, and take what's coming to you.
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If you don't want to post your picture, as many of us don't, use an avatar or something else that can't possibly be construed as you. You started with a lie. I know that you know that now, but don't do that again. Babycake's advice was good. Come clean now. Immediately. Don't wait, and keep it brief. Let her pick up the idea. Then you can complicate the heck out of it later if you want to.
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Hah, I've gotta give you points for that......... a whole year eh?! Hehehehehehe you git!
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What a wicked web we weave when first we set out to deceive. You will need to just come clean and let whatever happens, happen. A lasting relationship cannot be built on lies. She once said she would forgive a person who came clean. Here is your opportunity. You will need to be comepletely honest with her from now on and earn her trust. :)
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what was the lie about?
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Please tell me your actually an alien!
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i say just rell her that u dont rele like to put ur real picture on the internet so u put up a fake one and then say that u planned on telling her but u couldnt find a way to do it until now. and just an fyi i know what ur going through, i am her to talk if u need it :)
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