Dump him. Cheating will not make your vaginia more or less tight and I am sure he knows this. Get rid of him.

Only cheat on him with women.

I guess I would be wondering, and then also asking him after he makes the comment.."meaning what exactly, as it’s too loose compared to what experience or to whom, or how many have you tested out to know?" Meaning, one would have to had a good number of tries with a good cross section to proclaim such a fact, right? So, if he is with you and only you, how are so many others still fresh there in his mind?? Don't fret about it, as you need no one to define who you are, and know that just as with men, a particular woman’s nether-regions will be just as unique as she, and differ in size, as well as shape and many other such descriptions...Whew, is it getting warm in here.....Gulp, so ANYWAY....don't let his insensitive insults bring you to a belief that he the aficionado unto the world of vaginas, and if he is, then I'd be questioning him about how he got there? Ya Know, maybe it's actually you to whom possesses the worlds most perfect vagina, and it's he that really possesses a millimeter peter! Seriously though, do not ever, no matter who you are with, let anyone define that woman which is you, or be tellimg you what you are, or who you are, as things of that nature come based only upon their insecurities, and/or fears. Life goes on way too fast to be muddled in dark places due to another wanting to keep you there and down with them. I hope things find their way to happier places for you, and be well! Peace!

I am surprised that he feels your vagina is too loose, unless his penis is extremely narrow. The question still needs to be raised as to how he made a comparison to be able to tell that you were 'loose'. I am not sure if you have had any other men, otherwide you would know what size he is compared to other men and would probably have insulted him by telling him that you could hold a pencil tighter than you can hold him. Actually, there's a way to prove to yourself how good your muscle control and 'tightness' are. Insert a pencil, sharp end down, into your vagina partway, and try to grip it. If you can manage that then you have absolutely no problems. You (ex?)boyfriend, however, has some serious issues that you really don't need him dumping on you. I also would suggest you dump him and find someone who isn't paranoid.

Tell him he's parking a skateboard in a one-car garage. This question is great, by the way. I could answer it all day long.

He sounds like a jerk if he's gonna accuse you of something like that just because your body doesn't work for him like he wants it to. A guy who really loved you wouldn't say that.

You can lose the deadbeat.

My short and not-useful answer is to tell him to go screw himself. You are fine as you are.

Gee ladies, nothing like being objective, eh? Vaginal looseness is really fairly common, due often to childbirths, an inactive lifestyle (e.g., not working out), and simple aging - or any combination thereof - which can cause the long, smooth PC muscles of the vagina to loosen. Regardless of your gut emotional advice to "dump the jerk", that's not going to help her with her next relationship if her looseness is real. The basic sexual fact remains: men need to feel a certain amount of pressure against their penis in order to remain stimulated during vaginal intercourse (they can't keep it up by willpower alone). This has nothing to do with being superficial or selfish, it's just basic birds and bees. ((Please also read my additional comments below before rating my answer, since I failed to address part of the original question above.))

Maybe he has some idea you're cheating and he thought maybe a good way to broach the subject would be to pick on your vagina? Most likely, your vagina is just as tight as the next vagina! Regardless, it doesn't say much for his character if he "uses" a part of your body as an excuse to confront you about concerns that ur cheating. Especially a place so connected with what makes us physically female and potentially a good or bad "lay"

Tell him it is an old belief, and if he needs to hear it from a doctor, that it is crap, then take him, and then tell him, if you accuse me again, I will dump you, or truely cheat on you! Oh, and if he does not immediately apologize, and kiss your ass, for being so stupid, then dump him immediately!!!

I have a new one... tell him his ass is too tight. Heh.

ok, before the ya ya sister club drowns u in venom for your lover, id like to give u an educated male perspective of why he is broching this : firstly, having been around the block a few times, you do notice that there are different shaped genetailiy, and this goes for women too. Just like the rest of our bodies muscules can have different strengths and sized based on how much u use them and in what ways. Your boyfriend might be right, and when he makes love to you he may feel less resistance than other females he's been with. I too have been in the same situation, and while I chosed more carefully the line of questioning my line of thought was the same, how many guys has she slept with if her vagina is this loose. The truth is in order to enjoy sex you must feel comftable with each others bodies, and if its less than pleasureable for one person you should not immediately think they are being selfish - would you critisise someone who didnt enjoy it because it was too tight or they felt too much or even pain? (and yes i have been with a girl who was too tight. It was uncomftable for me (even though inm sure she enjoyed it) We tried again in the morning and i was a bit more careful and then it was ok). After being with a few women and trying to understand some of the more not genetic reasons why certain women were tighter than others I can to a few conclusions that are purely based on my own observations rather than scientific resaerch. The women who tended to be more active in aeorbic execersies seemed to be tighter. Also women who were younger and had not given birth seemed to be tighter. While the tightness might be the subject in which your partner raised sexual difficulties - maybe its not the answer anyways - he might be having issues sustaining an erection and may be looking to find a reason (outside himself). I think that rather thank to act rash and be offended you should be mature and discuss your problem with your partner and perhap seek some professional advice.

I speak from experience. If a woman is cheating, depending on the size difference of the two guys,this could create a loosness. I have been with 2 women who were cheating wiht me on there partners. They would only cheat with me when they had no plans of sex with there boyfriends like if they were out of town. They said that there partners would be able to feel a difference in the sex if they did it with them to soon after me because I was larger than them. I dont believe this is a myth, they had no reason to lie to me.

Maybe his pecker is too small. Find a boyfriend that likes you the way you are.

GIRL YOU KNOW WHAT HERE IS WHAT YOU SHOLD TELL HIM. "listen honey, cheating has nothing to do with how loose or tight a vagina is, and by you saying that lets me know how nieve you are...havent you thought that maybe your penis is just too small? well it is, no one else has complain about my vagina before so it has to be you" girl he'll feel so bad and ashamed...dont worry,keep doing your pussy exercises and everything will be ok.

Ok, my best friend had this problem. Her boyfriend of about 4 years kept complaining that her vagina felt looser so she must be cheating on him. You know what ended up happening? He was cheating on her the whole time. Hes cheating ON YOU. Dump him.

Have him followed, prove he is cheating and looking for an excuse, the dump him And send him a card that reminds him you didnt get looser, his D#<% shrunk... I love desktop publishing .

Get a boyfreind with a bigger cock and tell him to stop blaming you for his tiny cock.

tell him it feels loose b/c his unit is too small!

Get rid of this loser!

Find a man with an average size cock. His must be a wee little thing.

This question just pisses me off. I'll tell you what you should do, get rid of him and asap. This is a form of mental abuse and he needs to get a grip. I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you and that is why he has to tell you that your "vagina is too loose". He sounds very immature and insecure. If and I'm sure it is not too loose for him, maybe its his "member" that is the problem.

maybe your boyfriend is too small? Try different positions,or get a bigger boyfriend.

thats strange? I have cheated but mine is still tight. Bag him.

A woman's vagina is elastic enough to accommodate any sized penis. With that in mind, if he is complaining that you're too big, it may be that he's to small. Aside from the anatomy, he sounds like a real loser. Your reassurances that you are faithful should be enough. Unless he has real proof otherwise, he should never accuse you of being unfaithful.

I'd tell him that his pecker probably just got smaller and get rid of him!

He shouldn't do that to u so break up

Sounds like he's trying to make you feel insecure. Does he critize or put you down in other areas too? If he does get rid of him it will only keep getting worse!

dump him he sounds like a dick, theres nothing wrong with u,he just wants to make u feel bad. HE PROBABLY SAYING THAT COZ HES CHEATING ON YOU,

There are two issues here. The first issue is his concern that you are cheating, which is something you two need to communicate with one another about, and try to overcome. Try reassuring him that your vagina size is not a strict indicator of your fidelity, and that he needs to work on trusting you. Now on to the issue of vagina tightness, which men and women both know about, but usually don’t like talking about. Most guys will start to notice after dating a girl for awhile, that her vagina is not as tight as it was when they first started dating. Especially if they have been together for long enough that, the girl has lost the muscle tone of her late teens or early twenties. This loss of muscle tone in the vagina is only one of many causes of vaginal looseness, all of which can be remedied by the frequent use of the Kegel exercise. Look up Kegel exercise on wikipedia, and you will see what I mean. Don’t dump the guy like these bitchy women would have you do. The guy just sounds ignorant, and needs you to educate him on the matter.

I think your man is upset that his dick is too small. But if you want to be with him, just douche with vinegar. But don't do it often. Douching can kill your normal flora that helps in preventing yeast infections. I hope this helps!

The vagina usually retracts to its "normal" size that being the normal size for each individual woman. So there should never have been a question of too loose or too tight. It is a matter of how big is your man. Perhaps he isn't big ENOUGH. Either way it should not be a factor on whether your sex is enjoyable or not. Once the vagina and the penis is wet the sex would be great and the friction should be highly enjoyable, not to mention the foreplay of oral sex and maybe even a finalle with anal sex.

You know women, just as it is possible to have a tiny penis; it is also possible to have a very loose vagina. Now, let us just eliminate the insults. My wife and I have been together for 11 years (no children), and she is my third sex partner. My penis is not absolutely huge, but not small either (7 inches outside diameter by 7.25 inches long ). When my wife and I first started dating (age 17) she was afraid of my penis, and she was so tight that it was almost uncomfortable for both of us. Now, over the years she has become more inactive, gained about 30 pounds of fat, and never practiced kegels. Guess what happened? Her vagina is now much looser, and we have talked about it. She still finds sex to be very satisfying, but I miss her tight and toned days (with regard to her vagina and her body). My penis has not become smaller, and I go to the gym 4 days per week in order to stay in good shape. I’ve suspected her of cheating, and we’ve talked about it, but she assured me that she was not. I did some research, realized that there were other reasons for loss of vagina tightness, and later apologized for my ignorant accusation. Society seems to focus on male penis size without batting an eye, but when women hear about loose vaginas, they immediately take offense. It sounds to me like many women on this forum need to do some research on the issue. It is not a fact that a vagina always shrinks back to it’s “original” size, whatever that means. What is an original size? Was it when she was born, when she was 12, when she was 17, or when she was 25? It’s a stupid thing to claim. Look at the women who are into fisting or extremely large dildos. These women have to train and stretch their vaginas in order to accommodate such items. It is often a painful endeavor at first, but then these women come to enjoy the experience. Do you know why they experience pleasure from it? It’s because there is not nearly the same amount of stretching as there was when they first started attempting fisting. I look at it this way; at least a woman with a loose vagina can tighten it up with exercise. A man with a tiny penis has to have surgery to make his penis any bigger. This girl’s boyfriend was an asshole to accuse his girl of cheating, but it’s no reason to end what might otherwise be a good relationship. None of know the details of this persons relationship, and that is why we should not be jumping to conclusions and encouraging her to dump the guy.

Perhaps he's too small.

Tell him your vagina is normal,Ask him how come he is so small.

Why is a girl knows when a small penis is tapping on her, but its not ok for a man to not want to put his dick in any beaten up pussy that comes his way. A freind of mine has a 12in dick..you could come fuck him for a while, def no complaints from him, but after that every guy you come across will treat you like a trash can. He happens to be the largest person i know and large by far. wtf these hoes need such a large penis for is above me.

You might be doing your kegels wrong, so check into that. If you need an extra kick there is a machine that give your kegels a small electric current kick to jump start it. They use it on peoople who has genetically caused atrophy and can't move the muscle at all (which would make it hard to work it out). If that doesn't work, the extreme fix is to surgically have you vaginal narrowed and tightened (though I don't know how long it last). It took gut for your boyfriend to be that honest to you, and though it hurts....I don't think he should be punished for asying that by dumping him.

I didn't read all the comments as they started to get a little bizarre. But your boyfriend is out of line and that is not the way to approach the issue. Did you have a few pregnancies? Were they delivered normally through the birth canal? It might be true that your vagina is a bit big even though you do Kegals. Maybe you need surgery. It has become very common these days. It is a common issue especially for men with smaller penis's or ones with less girth. It's nothing to be ashamed of or get selfconscious about. Go to your GYN and talk about it, she what he/she says. But for your BF to say those things he is just a jerk and I would think about a replacement.

Tell him you want to get a second opinion.and you'll get back to him ....Eventually!

Passing a baby doesn't necessarily make the vagina to loose and the kegels can help. But it reminds me of a funny (true) story. A collegue of mine (ob) was delivering a baby and the husband kept needling him to put in a few stiches to make his wife tighter. He kept at it and at it until the ob stopped and looked at him and asked, "whats the matter, are you too small?".

You could find a bf with a bigger d*ck!

Dump his sorry ass!!! Go find someone who can appreciate ur perfect pussy just the way it is!

Tell him his dick is too small, and move on...

stop fucking all those black guys

Leave him! What kind of a "man" would say that to his girlfriend. Men who are making weird generalizations like this are probably cheating themselves.

different women have different size va-jay-jays just like different guys have different size dicks. maybe u should find a peg that fits your hole. also i have noticed that if i have sex a lot my vag seems to loosen up a bit, so maybe you should stop fucking him for a while and see if it tightens back up. i know mine does, when my fiance is away for months at a time and i see him again its like im a virgin....touched for the very first time!...uh yeah

Personally, I like the comfortable feeling of a loose pussy. I can last a lot longer when I'm fucking a woman whose pussy is loose than with a really tight one. One possibility is that your boyfriend has a small dick. Only one remedy for that. Get a boyfriend with a big one.

Tell him it's not you, it's his cock. :)

Maybe his dick is too small...did he ever consider this...not to mention a woman's vagina is shaped to go into place...even if u had sex with the whole town...it would feel the same...

DUMP THIS JERK!

Maybe that's his way of asking for a piece of your golden little arse. Let him have some and see how he feels then...

Tell him his cocks too small to satisfy you and dump him.

next time he pulls it out, laugh at it.

Geez, what a sweetheart! I think the problem is actually that his penis is too small. Maybe he can do exercises to try to grow the little thing.

tell him everyone is different and that goes for vaginas. some guys dicks are big and small. just because a guys dick is big doesn't means he's a cheater. If he keeps it up tell him it has nothing to do with the fact your cheating its the fact the guys dick your cheating on him with is way bigger than his. or just saying your just right but his dick is to small will sufice

Vaginal tightness is a standard propagated by ignorance. No one is really 'tight' or 'loose'. Don't believe me, here you go: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/a_few_choice_words_about_tightness

Cut him LOOSE!

MY question is what has he done recentally to compaire you too? Any man that would pull some bullshit comment like that obvousaly is an ass. But if you realy want to know then try this. The muscle that you can use to stop pee is the same one he says is loose. Try doing some contractions on your own in the car or during idle time.Focus on only contracting that pc muscle not your anus or thigs. You'll get tight and verry sexy!!!

GET A BOYFRIEND WITH A BIGGER DICK HES OBVIOUSLY LACKIN DOWNSTAIRS U STAY THE WAY U ARE SWEETHEART..CALL ME LOL..

Get rid of him because he's full of shit.

my ex used to say the same thing funny how a new guy has no problem, and even say's I'm real tight. Dump the jerk you deserve bigger abd better.

Simple answer!!! Go have sex with someone else!!!

dump him if my girlfriend said that my penis feels smaller so i must be cheating i would be out so fast she wouldnt even see me leave or he could very well be cheating himself and displacing it on you as a means of making himself feel better

Tell him to go fuck himself.

I've read somewhere that to make youe vagina muscles tighter, while you are (sorry for the expression) pissing, try to piss and stop, piss and stop, causaly doing this will make your muscles tighter. It's hard at first, but if u keep trying it becomes very easy and it works :)

tell him it's because his dick's too small, not because you're loose.

If your cock is already too thin like mine (I'm a little bit thicker than a broom stick - not much though), as the vagina gets too wet it feels like are hitting no walls at all and could feel even looser. I think that's his problem.

If your cock is already too thin like mine (I'm a little bit thicker than a broom stick - not much though), as the vagina gets too wet it feels like are hitting no walls at all and could feel even looser. I think that's his problem.

I think that like his little penis he has a little mind. He obviously doesn't trust you and obviously is ignorant. Get rid of him and contact me, I'd love to talk to you about your vagina ;)

Get a new boyfriend, what a total ass!

How can anyone assume someone is or isnt an asshole and worthy of someone elses time and love based on two sentences - not even typed by himself. Three years of intimate history between two people - two human beings with -years- of thoughts, feelings and experiences. It's not hard to gather that eventually personal issues are going to become relationship issues at some point/s. This doesn't necessarily make a person evil, as we all have different forms of baggage. My point being that you don't even know these people. Your judgements may as well be guesses as you have no insight into their lives. Anywho.. I only read the first page of this thread.. so I'm not sure if this is a bit redundant now. Ben Wa balls are meant to be helpful for tightening the muscles. I'm sorry I couldn't be more helpful than that, but perhaps trying new positions which give him better penetration might be more enjoyable for you both? I hope for your sake you aren't fretting about this and wishing you had a different body. I've been in a situation before where I was desperately trying to change something about my body because I knew I'd lose my partner if it didnt change - and it obviously wasn't going to. The only solution to these sorts of issues, really, is to accept yourself as you are. If it were me in your situation, I'd be more focused on coming up with a gentle way to approach my boyfriend about why he came to that conclusion. It could simply be that he's caught up in the oh-so-many vagina myths or that he needs to deal with some personal issues. In my opinion, hurtful things can be said in any relationship but there is usually an underlying reason for it that might be able to be worked through. Relationship = at least enough caring to commit to them for any length of time = enough motivation for me for it to be worth attempting to sort out. Sorry if this is all rambling to you. Megan

How can anyone assume someone is or isnt an asshole and worthy of someone elses time and love based on two sentences - not even typed by himself. Three years of intimate history between two people - two human beings with -years- of thoughts, feelings and experiences. It's not hard to gather that eventually personal issues are going to become relationship issues at some point/s. This doesn't necessarily make a person evil, as we all have different forms of baggage. My point being that you don't even know these people. Your judgements may as well be guesses as you have no insight into their lives. Anywho.. I only read the first page of this thread.. so I'm not sure if this is a bit redundant now. Ben Wa balls are meant to be helpful for tightening the muscles. I'm sorry I couldn't be more helpful than that, but perhaps trying new positions which give him better penetration might be more enjoyable for you both? I hope for your sake you aren't fretting about this and wishing you had a different body. I've been in a situation before where I was desperately trying to change something about my body because I knew I'd lose my partner if it didnt change - and it obviously wasn't going to. The only solution to these sorts of issues, really, is to accept yourself as you are. If it were me in your situation, I'd be more focused on coming up with a gentle way to approach my boyfriend about why he came to that conclusion. It could simply be that he's caught up in the oh-so-many vagina myths or that he needs to deal with some personal issues. In my opinion, hurtful things can be said in any relationship but there is usually an underlying reason for it that might be able to be worked through. Relationship = at least enough caring to commit to them for any length of time = enough motivation for me for it to be worth attempting to sort out. Sorry if this is all rambling to you. Megan

Tell him it's not you it's that his dick is too small. Then dump his ass. You don't need that in your life. Besides think about the future and how it will only get worse. Plus it's the theif who always thinks he's being robbed.