Dating a single dad who has full custody of his 2 children. I have three children who live with me. We have been dating for more than two years. We have different opinions when it comes to discipline. Is there any future?
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Yes. Relationships require the three C's: Communication Compromise/concessions Commitment. Irregardless how many children you have how to discipline the child would sooner or later become an issue if you married and had children, or if you both bring in an even dozen each. Either way this "issue" would need to be discussed and you both would have to reach a middle ground (compromise) and the only way that will/would happen is through communication - of course you both need to be committed to finding that mutual understanding and be willing to adjust your ideals and beliefs. The reality is that there are no fast/hard rules as to how to raise children there are plenty of options out there. You two may benefit greatly with couples counseling - yes even at this early stage of the game couples counseling is a good idea. Of course your focus would be on the ideal way to compromise your disciplinarian ways. The truth is if you two pursue this relationship further without one set of rules to go by, the children will quickly pick up on the issue and will turn it to their advantage.
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If you two can agree on a single fundamental approach, life will be much easier if you should decide to marry and combine the families. Otherwise, frictions will develop, trivial at first, then either handled consistently to eliminate jealousy, or allowed to escalate. As grown-ups, it is your responsibility to be more responsible and capable in these matters than your children, and once you figure out how to handle that, then you can expect to have a peaceful household, other issues notwithstanding.
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Every husband and wife will be having at least few difference of opinions. There willnot be a single relationship with both having same opinion in everything. Usually give and take will happen and will balance out. We will all draw our lines little lower in some case and little higher in another. I think you can easily work it out. My friend had two kids and his newly married wife also have two kids. They are having a wonderful life. I know this man was pretty dominating person with lots of love and caring, but his new wife is well adjusted too.
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