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by HealthFreak on November 21st, 2007

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I'm a female in my midtwenties who has had many male friends in her life. I want girl friends. I'm real, I'm honest, I love going to the day spa. What do I have to do to make girl friends? Evey time I have a girl friend, she ends up being a bitch & a liar

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  • by Legend In Your Own Mind on September 10th, 2009

    Legend In Your Own Mind

    Don't! All females are evil lying bitches! Well, all except you because YOU'RE SPECIAL!
    Now me on the other hand..I'm not a goil at all so I don't count, but I'm not a liar because liars suck shit.
    You're not alone. Just don't waste time with people who connive. Just move on, but know you're NOT the ONLY honest female on the planet....just one of the few out there who ain't. The rest are though. Let them suffer in their rotteness. They deserve it too and AVOID holy rollers..biggest hypocrites out there!

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  • by Anonymous on November 21st, 2007

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    I can associate with that - I've also always found I have more male friends than female, despite being a fairly girly girl. I have made a small number of very good female friends who I'm really grateful for so maybe I can give you some form of advice.
    First of all don't respond to bitchiness in the way the woman probably expects (more bitchiness) - all too often bitchiness is a defense mechanism, masking some form of insecurity - if you go against you instincts and respond by being really nice and supportive to the apparent bitch, you often find there's a nice girl underneath who's just scared of getting hurt. This sounds ridiculous, but really, it works.
    Second - don't talk about all the guys that are after you - it's annoying, and don't talk about how fat you are when you're really slim. Be confident, but humouresly self-effacing - share your embarrassing moments and your mistakes, show that you can laugh at yourself and people will warm to you.
    Third - same as with anyone, look for link points - what do you have in common with this woman? Do you enjoy the same music? Do you like her shoes and want to know where she got them? Do you both keep dogs or enjoy horse riding? Did you grow up in similar places? Look for things that connect you and you can bond over - we all like to feel that we have someone we can share our unique experiences with
    Fourth - be flattering and be interested. Don't be fake and gushy, but if a girl looks nice - say so. If she's done a good job, let her know. And ask questions, show that you find her fascinating - the principles are really similar to flirting with guys, just without the sex bit.
    Fifth - don't compete over men. Know when to let a guy go if it means keeping a friend. Don't hog the guys when you're in bars, always introduce your friends, don't abandon your girlfriend to go home with a guy unless she's got someone safe with her. Never blow off a friend in favour of a date. Don't be embarrasingly intimate or flirtatious with a guy when you have friends with you.

    Maybe you already know some of this, I confess it won't work all the time - some of us are just naturally inclined to have more male friends - but hopefully it will help a bit.

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