How long is too long to be in a relationship that you know will not end in marriage?
by 
helen schneider
ANSWERS: 4
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I was in a relationship for nearly 6 years and always promised he wanted to marry me but it never happened - I now wish I had finished it so much sooner cos I feel I wasted a long time in my life and regret it so much. If you want to be together for life (which is what marriage should be about) then maybe time isn't an issue, it all depends on how good you are together. My relationship was on and off and he made me feel crap. It shouldn't be just about getting married but the life you will have together afterwards! :-)
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If you're asking this question for "you", then it's already too long (or you wouldn't be asking). Make sense? Don't settle.
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My husband and I lived together for six years before we finally tied the knot. We were happy and committed to each other for several years, but getting married wasn't a priority. At the five year mark, we BOTH reached a point where we BOTH knew that we wanted the security of a legal marriage. We're still very much in love and we don't have any regrets. IMHO, if you KNOW the relationship will not end in marriage, and if being in an emotionally & financially secure, committed, and loving marital relationsip is important to you, then any amount of time that you remain in an unsatisfactory relationship would be "too long" and would only serve as a detriment to your present & future ability to find true happiness.
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I am committed to Arisztid. As he is a polyamorous male, with more than one love, I know we will never 'marry'. Our 'marriage' is one of the heart. A piece of paper won't change that. In the States, same-sex relationships cannot 'marry'. And yet they stay together. The ceremony is not as important as the feelings. I am not a follower of a Christian religion, so see no pressing need to conform to the laws of man in this. My heart, and that of my love, is more important than a piece of paper.
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