Simple your friend is wrong, Its not a choice or an illness, its the way some people are, and thats fine.

I don't believe being gay is a choice, but I'll play devils advocate here. First of all, some people like being "different" and thought of as oppressed (christian fundies and their "war on easter" comes to mind) it makes them feel right and good. Second, They may choose to be gay/bisexual because they just want the sex, that simple. Really those are the only two reasons I can think of.

Being homosexual isn't a chocie any more than being heterosexual is a choice. Your friend is wrong.

It's not a choice. Why would you choose to be gay ?

Just ask your friend "and YOU would know THAT HOW???"

You're friend is a fool who obviously doesn't know anyone LGBT. only close-minded bigots believe such stereotypical garbage. with people like that around, why would we "chose" to be gay? ask him/her when they chose to be straight? or, even, better, when they chose to live in ignorance?

Most sexulity researchers show that it is not a choice and that it is natural to be gay.

Sex is a choice. Who you have sex with, when you have sex, where you have sex, how often you have sex, and everything else about it are choices. It's not always a choice who you are attracted to, but even that is largely dependent on attitude and how you react to it is still a choice. I find that most gay people are a good deal more "open" about sex than straight people, and their attitudes towards it (which again are choices) are VERY different, and in my experience, straight people who are more "open" about sex often tend to move towards being bisexual or gay. Finally, it has been my experience also that folks who hate on gays are a MUCH more hated population in America than the gays themselves. At least where I live in a fairly urban environment (and it may well be different in a more rural area) even mentioning the idea that being gay is a choice is completely taboo and will earn you a lot more bad looks than making out with your same-sex partner in public.

I think perhaps if you are totally 100% straight it's sometimes very difficult to understand how anyone could possibly be any other way - the attraction to the opposite sex, and only the opposite sex feels so natural and normal that it seems as if to be any other way inclined needs to require some sort of concious effort. (A bit like how people who are very good at sport get frustrated with people who can't manage to get a ball through a hoop because it seems so utterly natural to them). It's not a huge leap to understand why some straight people might see homosexuality as choice. I'm not advocating your friend's position here, I'm just saying that there might be other things at play rather than pure prejudice - it would be a mistake to start jumping in with comments about "bigotry" - she just looks at the world through the lens of her own experience.

I agree with "Eltinwe has a life swan". All the "closed minded" comments only proves his latter point. By your logic, the same can be said for a drug addict. Why would anyone choose to do something so bad for them. I think the whole "choice"" arguement is being perpetrated by the same people who claim alchoholism is a disease. Labeling something as a disease or "I was born this way" is an attempt to remove personal responsibility, its' not my fault!. Everything we do is a choice!, Now, before you start in with the "closed minded" comments for me, let me tell you. I had a brother, whom I loved dearly, Die from AIDS several years ago. His lifestyle was accepted by our family, he was not shunned in any way. Through him I was exposed to that lifestyle, I gave it much thought, OPENED my mind to him and his friends, considered what they said. Just because I reached a different conclusion does NOT MAKE ME CLOSED MINDED!! I wish you all well, but if you want me to mind my own business about what you do in the bedroom, Stop telling me. Stop making a spectacle of it (gay pride parade anyone). Furthermore, I think it is about the sex. Whats the one thing a man can get from another man that he cannot get from a woman, Careful now, to say anything else might be considered "closed minded" towards women!! thank you, it is really not my intention to offend anyone, just speaking my mind

it's not a choice it's who I am, but if I did have a choice I'd choose to be gay. I love it! :D

I used to share the same opinion as your friend. You bring up a good point. Let your friend have his or her beliefs. It's no use arguing. There is nothing to explain because you are right and your friend is not. Well, maybe........ well, whatever. I think you're right.

Being gay is not a choice. Nobody would choose to be the object of harassment and discrimination. The only choice is the choice of honesty, where a person is honest with themselves about their sexual orientation and who they are sexually attracted to. Scientific researchers who specialize in human sexuality have shown that homosexuality is linked to biology and genetics. An October 2004 scientific research publication stated that scientists have found that women tend to have more children when they inherit the same genetic factors linked to homosexuality in men & that this fertility boost more than compensates for the lack of offspring fathered by gay men and keeps the “gay” genetic factors in circulation; a 2005 study reported genetic scans showing a clustering of the same genetic pattern among gay men on three chromosomes; a study published in Human Genetics in February 2006 found extreme differences in X chromosome inactivation in mothers of gay sons and mothers whose sons were not gay; and another 2006 scientific study found that a man's likelihood of being gay rises with the number of older biological brothers even if gay men were raised away from their biological families. http://www.newscientist.com/article.ns?id=dn6519 http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/news/20050128/is-there-gay-gene http://www.livescience.com/humanbiology/060224_gay_genes.html http://www.medpagetoday.com/OBGYN/Pregnancy/tb/3641

As far as gay being a choice, it's only a choice as much as free will exists, which I believe does not. You became gay through the influence of experiences from the point of birth. That being said, I would hope people would not be contradictory in thinking that being gay is not a choice and other things are. Some people like to be hated because whether they know it or not. The hated can be considered a group and all people inherently like to be a part of some sort of faction big or small, hated or liked.

Because they don't feel right being anything else. Trapped in the wrong body some feel.

your friend is wrong pure and simple...

Being gay is not a choice. No one would choose to be ridiculed and have a more difficult life. No one would choose to not be able to legally marry their partner. No one would choose the pain associated with an LGBT identity. Not now. Not several decades ago when intolerance was even more intense and severe. In the end, people are strengthened and motivated to love who they love. This is a matter of the heart, and going with what makes an individual happy. I know gay people who knew since they were way too young to articulate or understand that they were, in fact, homosexuals. That's not some decision -- that's a part of who this person is. And anyone who chooses to dislike someone only because of sexual orientation... that person is clearly incapable of respecting a person's right to have his/ her own, instinctive feelings.