You're not much shorter than me and you're only 58kg - you're not fat at all. Just tell you're mother that you have no desire to be bulemic.

Wow! Your mom is way out of line on this one - 5'9" and 130 lbs is actually quite thin. Your BMI would be 19.5 which is almost underweight. Tell her gently to back off and go to your doctor for confirmation if she persists. She seems to have body image issues that you can do nothing about so you may have to tolerate this for a long time. She might be projecting her own anxieties onto you and you may need help getting her to see that it isn't you who has a problem.

I think your mum is probably: 1-Projecting her own insecurities and unhealthy concepts of body image onto you. 2-Lashing out at you for giving up your modelling career. To venture a guess, I'd say that your mother probably lives vicariously through you a lot, trying to feel successful/attractive/worthwhile, etc. based on you and your life rather than her own. This isn't healthy for either of you. As a long-term course of action, I'd suggest that you confront her about it and possibly try to get into some kind of family therapy for it. This is exactly the kind of mental and emotional abuse which leads to serious body-image issues and even eating disorders, and absolutely needs to be addressed. But that's the kind of major step which takes time and courage to go through with, so for now, I'd suggest that you find use a BMI calculator (You could try this one: http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/dieting/bmi.html ) to tally whether or not you're actually overweight (Which, as far as I can tell, you are absolutely *Not*. In fact, your practically underweight), and show your mother the results it pulls up. And for g-d's sake girl, whatever you do, try not to let her make you feel bad about yourself or pressure you into anything.

I think your Mother needs to rethink what she is saying to her child thats no wasy to build your self esteem and sound to me like your perfectly shape so not sure why she is doing this to you, but I would let her know it hurts your feelings.

Whatever YOU want to do.

You should realize that your mother's harping is about her problems not your weight.

Your mother's comments say far more about her than they do about you.