ANSWERS: 5
  • There's not much you can do other than heal and move on with your life... and that sounds like a great idea! You can't be this man's keeper, especially after he's been abusive to you. You are NOT to blame for his actions before, during, and after a breakup! If you feel compelled to warn the woman, just know that the man is going to tell the woman you're crazy and its likely she won't listen. If you have a mutual friend who knows what happened, have them talk to her... otherwise, stay out of it!
  • Of course you did nothing wrong. He, who was emotionally abusive, is the one at fault. Blaming the victim is a classic technique of abusers, whether emotional or physical abusers. There is nothing you could have done to change him - he wanted to be that way, and will continue to be so - the new woman and her son are undoubtedly in for the same treatment you got. You are so much better off without him, so you can find someone who'll treat you well.
  • My suggestion to you is to move on. 2nd He is her problem now not yours. Hopefully the little kid will not suffer from this, I would pray for him. Dont blame yourself. You my dear can not change the things that have happened. It is hard to break away from an abusive relationship. You need to give yourself time and strength and I assure you that you will be ok. I AM. Therapy might help or talking to others might help as well, realize that you are not alone and that it is not your fault, own the things that you do wrong, not what others do to you. WE can not control how others see us, or treat us, we can only control what we choose to do after the fact.
  • Dont blame yourself. Yea you may of loved him but the guy treated you like dirt. I dont know you, but i know you sure as hell dont deserve that. dont let him get you. If you do, then he owns you, even if he dosent know it. i promise you, that you will find another guy, and SOON you will forget that you ever loved him. I would feel sorry for this new girl, if he did that crap to you, what makes you think he wont do it to her. you will be fine. If you fall in life, you can do four things, look back or look foward, look up or look down.
  • Don't go back! You got away already. The fact that he's moved on to someone else so quickly is a pattern of an abuser. He feels so bad about himself that he needs someone else to "love" him to make him feel worthy. He will most likely abuse her, too, before long. Work on your self-esteem and enjoying doing things you want to do for yourself. Enjoy your freedom.

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