Count your blessings! You might currently find yourself "getting sad and disappointed" that you have not yet found the right person, but when you think about how miserable some married people feel when they find their love gone wrong. Being alone for now might not be the best, but it is by far better than being married to the wrong mate. Take your time, look hard and long at any prospects. Today, I watched Oprah. The program was about a man who conned five different women into marrying him. He left them all devastatedm broke or in debt. Each woman had described him as the perfect fiance, but almost the day he married them, he turned into a monster.

Sometimes relationships "just happen" and some you need to work on. Although you may be feeling down about your own situation, there are plenty of things we can do to make you’re presents felt. Whether you're an "out there" kind of person, or a quieter type, there are a lot of people in the same boat, but just to shy to do anything. Now, I'm a guy, (so basically I know nothing!) (Only joking) here's a few thoughts. Try something new. Throw the rulebook away and be spontaneous. Go somewhere different every time you go out for a meal. Take a trip to somewhere new. Buy something different, change your style, if you don't like it, change it again. Meet new people, talk Take the lead role. Life offers us many new experiences, but we rarely try them all out. My brother was on holiday in New Zealand. He meet this girl on the tour, found out she lived in the same city, one thing lead to another, and they got married. The more you meet the better your chances. Try to put your feelings aside. The glass is half full. Remember that!

I totally know what you mean. My friend from Junior High and High School was married a few years ago and recently gave birth to their first child. I have a long term boyfriend with whom I plan on spending the rest of my life, but we just aren't at the marriage point yet. I saw her, with her baby, and became jealous, and disappointed with my own life. I want to be at that point too... and I started thinking all sorts of negative thoughts. It's ok, and in fact, completely normal to feel this way. We all have this idea of where we think we should be in our lives at any given moment. I thought I would be at least married by now, possibly with a home, and maybe (maybe) talking of starting a family... instead, I am not yet done with college, renting a place, and not even engaged. This doesn't mean I am not happy. I love my life, and I love my boyfriend, and its ok that things are taking longer than I would have liked, but I can't help feeling like things aren't what I planned. The most important thing is not to compare your life to other people's lives. We are all at different points. The friends who are married or engaged may not have expected to be at this point right now either... and its hard to be sad for yourself, and happy for them at the same time... but thats probably exactly how you feel. Try to focus on the "happy for them" part. If you keep having the same thoughts, try writing them down. This always helps me acknowlege what I'm feeling without becoming overwhelmed by it, and by writing it down, it reduces the need to think about it repeatedly. Write down the negative thoughts, and then go be happy and supportive for your friends. This new life change may make them feel as nervous as you are sad. Stay supportive. They will return the favor when your time comes.

There's no need to be upset about this. The fact that you aren't engaged or getting married means you can put your interests on other things instead of focussing on losing your money! Ha-ha. I mean, c'mon. Expensive wedding rings? Expensive wedding dresses? Wedding planning? That can be pretty stressful, although it sounds very exciting. A lot of people jump into marriages too fast and then regret marrying the person they've married. You are at an advantage, b/cs you can see what's going on and learn from it.. so I wouldn't sweat it too much.

If marriage is something you want, don't worry, it will happen when it's supposed to. in the mean time, enjoy yourself! go have fun and live it up!

Make sure you have an interest and a goal. Something like, a European vacation next year. It could be bigger, like row the Atlantic single handed. Or smaller, like shed 2#. Then get around and find out everything you can about it, meet people, about your interest. Think about marriage only when you've met the guy and you're certain he's the one. Until then live, plan do things.

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I'm 28 and single so I have been through this a few times! :) I just focus on work and keep an up-beat attitude. Don't try to force a solution by getting in a serious relationship you might not be ready for. Recognizing these feelings is the first step to dealing with them so you are ahead of the game. I always try to make friends with people in my situation so this does give you an opportunity to branch out.