I asked my bf to buy me a diamond engagement ring worth $1000,he refused though i know he has means to buy it for me,he was so upset that he's thinking im after the money...is it wrong to asked for my dream ring that the man i love would give me?
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He could be anti-diamond. Have you asked him his feelings toward diamonds? I know many diamonds are "certified" non-blood diamonds, but really... how can you know for sure? I won't wear a diamond for that reason, besides the fact I find them entirely uninteresting as far as stones go. Of course, there's always the chance he's not ready to give you a commitment ring.
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maybe he wanted to surprise you with it and you ruined the surprise by saying that.
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Wow. Why would you care how big or expensive it is? You should have let him choose one for you by his own want. If I was him I would be angry too and turned off by you. sorry
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I think asking your BF to buy this ring is a little tacky. You telling us that he has the means is already a warning sign. It seems to me this was something he wanted to do on his own and I agree with him.
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You should have let him pick the ring on his own. I think that's something guys get joy out of doing, picking a ring out. I know I would.
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he asked me what i want,then when i told him he was upset about the price so i asked him to choose what he likes cos anyway its not what i want,i cud buy that ring for me but he doesnt like...what im after is i will only have that once in my lifetime since it was an engagement ring and ill just get maaried once
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I'm in the minority I guess. I don't necessarily think it was wrong. There are different schools of thought about how an engagement ring is chosen. Many feel that the man should go out and choose the ring on his own. I think that's a very nice sentiment, but it's also old fashioned. Many couples shop for their engagement ring together. I know we did, and several of my friends did also. He may have refused because he has already chosen a ring. Or he may have refused and is going to surprise you later. Or he may simply feel that it's too much money. The two of you need to discuss this. There may be an underlying issue you are not aware of. Be open to what he has to say on the subject. And ultimately, you should be thrilled with any ring that symbolizes your engagement.
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he asked me many times to go with him and buy the engagement ring but we dont have time so i just send him the link in d internet....me myself doesnt like him to buy me a ring in my presence cos i want surprises more than he do.
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He may want you to physically go so that he can see if you like what he has picked out. You picking it out on the internet and linking tells him that you have no interest in doing this together and that it is about the worth of the ring itself. This is probably why he got upset. I would rectify the situation as I could see that turning into a doozy. I seriously doubt it has to do with the money and probably would spend quite a bit more. $1000 on an engagement ring is nothing... 2 of my friends just got engaged and they each spent in the vicinity of $3000 each on their fiances.... Dont just look online (or if you do dont say so) go to the store with him and be part of the process.
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a thousand bucks? dude wont fork up a grand for a ring. Yikes....sucks you're not wrong for asking, your nice for not asking for something better.
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tacky ...tacky...tacky .. you just might as well just said give me the money and I'll buy my own ....tacky ..tacky, you have made the fatal mistake of making your self out to be self centred and money hungry .. so I would be counting yourself very lucky he didn't kick your arse to the street
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You shouldn't ask for gifts. Didn't your mom tell you that. Gives should be freely given -- not asked for.
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Of course it's wrong. An engagement ring is a symbol of love and commitment. It is not something you ask for. Besides, if they don't spend that money on the engagement ring, expect it for the wedding ring. Richard Shines
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girl you dont ask a guy to buy you stuff....a man that you love should buy on his own if he want to spent the rest of his life with you. wow 1000$$
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It's a pure invention by De Beers / Oppenhiemer Cartel. I refused to buy one for my girlfriend too (esp. at $14K / 1.7|E|VS1|Ex] - they are intrinsically worthless http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/198202/diamond -- talk about something mutually valued if you're communication level permits, not something that is commerically "traditional." -- and I agree with richardshines "An engagement ring is a symbol of love and commitment. It is not something you ask for." / centrato "Gives should be freely given -- not asked for."
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Its not wrong, i asked mine the same thing and he didnt give me any answer at first, then a few weeks later he surprised me by asking me to go somewhere and it was to the jewlery store and i got the ring i wanted :P
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The best footing for marriage is to put the relationship first and everything else second. Why would you want to start your marriage $1000 in debt. Remember, this isn't your parents buying something for you with no strings attached. You will be paying for the ring too. If that ring keeps you from having the down payment for a house, is it worth it? Remember that question when it comes to the wedding too. Most marriages reach divorce courts over money and debt. If you want the marriage to last, think about not putting debt obstacles in its path. Love your boyfriend/fiancee, more than you love stuff or being queen for a day.
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It sounds to me like you are a little gold digger or in this case diamond digger! Any man who would buy a $1000 ring for a girl is either rich beyond means and likes to so it off or just plain stupid! The same for the girl as well! With divorce rate at 50%+ it is a total waste of money to buy someone a ring of that value. I am speaking from experiance as I had a ring made for my last wife at the cost of $1200 because I was "in Love". The marriage lasted 7 years. Today I am broke and in debt, retired and just making ends meet. Don't EVER count on a marriage lasting more than 10 years. (the average is 7 to 10 years) So there you have my opinion. and I have a belly button so I can have one...You just want to show off is all and if I were the guy I would say, "Thanks but no thanks....Good bye!"
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$1,ooo for an engagement ring is not a lot. Maybe he wants to surprise you with it. I was engaged and he bought me a ring that cost $4,5oo. I just showed him the style and he did the rest. I didn't give him the price of what it would cost or what I exactly wanted. We actually picked out a few and he picked out what he liked. I didn't ask for the $4500 ring, he did that on his own. I think whatever a guy can afford and as long as it comes from his heart he's a keeper. If he totally ignores you than he's not worth it.
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If he is more frugal than you want, better to know now then later- otherwise every time you buy something as his wife you will be explaining yourself. As far as the ring goes, some people are more materialistic than others and maybe he feels it should not be the most important thing between you. Can you find the ring that looks like that somewhere else for less? Can you have it made and buy the stone separately? If you are arguing over a material object now, what will happen when you start putting together the wedding with all the costs? Better have a grown up, calm conversation with him and ask him what is his real concern about the ring and why? Could he be having jitters about getting engaged and the ring cost is an excuse, like the ring makes it real and he is scared?
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I'm confused did he ask you to marry him already without a ring? If so did you say "yes... but only if you buy me a thousand dollar ring."? Or did he not propose at all and you said, "oh baby I want you to buy me a thousand dollar engagement ring,and by the way that means you're going to marry me."? Either way you don't paint to flattering of a picture for yourself. Either you are very materialistic and bling means more than love, or a controlling needy shrew.
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