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  • Follow your heart.
  • Move on, sorry, but its just not going to work out for you two, it hurts more waiting for something that never happens.
  • I just need advice from people who have gone through this sort of thing. Right now I feel the best thing to do is just see how things go. Be there for him if he needs me. He said there might be a chance for us in the future, but I'm thinking that it'll be more destructive for me to hang on to him when really, there might not be a chance for us. Should I just let go of our relationship, mourn the loss and move on? I dont think I should totally give up all hope, but at the same time, I shouldn't cling to it. Gaaaahhh. What do you think?
  • Oh man... this happened to me about a week ago. I would take that same time out that he's taking. Just walk away from each other, maybe talk once in a while... until those feelings of "us" are gone. It could take weeks, it could take years. I think that until you are able to get over those feelings, it will be hard to be just friends. The thing thats so hard for me to get over is that I'm in hell and he can run back to his ex and be completely happy. I don't know if that's the case here. You have to let him be happy if you love him, and if that means making yourself unhappy, then you will have to learn how to be happy on your own again. I wish you the best. Know exactly what you're going through if you need to talk.
  • Be his friend!!
  • This happened to me too.. only difference is that my ex LEFT me because he loved his ex and didnt really give me the explanation I deserved. All he did was say he couldnt be with me and had no reason to leave me. I had to find out myself it was because he still loved his ex. Look you never forget your first love.. but right now you are in dangerous territory, you will end up hurting more if you keep waiting for him because you never know if the next day you find out he stayed with her and had sex with her.. or is with her. Men use tricky words like "I need my space, I need time to think" in order to leave you waiting.. to see if things fail between them they will come back running to you..and you dont deserve to be a rebound. So move on and hopefully find someone who doesnt take you as a rebound. There's nothing worse than feeling like you are being a cure for someone else's pain
  • That beast doesn't deserve such a pretty princess as yourself. Give me a call and I'll console you over a couple glasses of Courvoisier. Ohhhhh yeah
  • I'd give yourself some time before you decide whether you want to be friends. However, I think it's very big of him to recongize that he needs some time to get over a past relationship. Most people would've just continued dating you while all those feelings are bottled up.
  • well at least he gave you the explanation and not the usual "i need space" if your comfortable with it be his friend but i wouldn't be like best friend material with him because that could turn into a bad situation of friends with benefits
  • I applaud him for being very honest and I think it was wise to break up so he could have time to heal, not as many would have done the same as you did. I think it would be best to remain friends for now until he's ready to jump into a "new" relationship..
  • let it go for now
  • yea girl follow your heart you would not like to be hurt. if he is still in love with the ex girl, just let it go cuz you dont to get hurt. dont wait untill it get deeper.
  • You should ask yourself if you can handle being just friends with him. If you're not sure you should then just ask yourself is having him as a friend, better than not having him in your life at all. If it was me and I still wanted a romantic relationship with him, I would stick around and hope he comes around and eventually wants to get back in a relationship. I hope this helps. Good luck! :)

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