Coworker got offended because my parents disrespect and mistreats us as adults. Coworkers got offended when I said if I get disrespected I won't tolerate it even if it's my parents. I told her I don't allow myself to be mistreated. Who's right?
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ANSWERS: 4
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You are right.
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You are. Don't know why you got DR'd, have a few pts..
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When you ask 'Who's right?', do you mean your co-worker who got offended about your parents' behaviour, your co-workers who got offended by your reaction to your parents' behaviour, or you who won't tolerate being mistrated? You are all right to a certain degree. You shouldn't tolerate mistreatment, but you shouldn't respond in kind. Don't use profanity, don't yell, don't pay them back in their own coin or you lose the moral high ground that you are trying to hold on to. As soon as the disrespect starts, tell them, in a calm voice, that they are out of line and that you will walk away if they don't stop - and walk away if they continue. Leave the house if you have to; if you live there, spend as little time as possible in their company and if you live away from them, go home as soon as they start the unacceptable behaviour. Unfortunately it sounds as if your parents have taught you to act just like them and the vicious cycle is hard to break. At all cost, STAY CALM, even if you don't feel calm; they will get the message sooner or later.
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You are correct, but you shouldn't have used profanity in the workplace. Aside from that, everyone earns respect, even parents and you have the right to tell them so and stand up for yourself.
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