What do you do when you know you're going to emotionally lose someone?
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Indigo- in the library with the revolver
ANSWERS: 6
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Now that I'm older I understand that I can not make anyone love me. If they don't want to love me then they don't have to and they can go. Trying to force them to have feelings that aren't there is just futile and would be deconstructive. I would let them go.
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Admittedly the uncertainty of never knowing if this will one day happen often leads me to being on a constant heightened sense of alert for an indication that I'm going to ''emotionally lose'' someone, but it's futile and counter productive. I suppose I generally mourn the loss I feel and then cut the person off as soon as I'm sure I'm losing them, so it's on ''my terms''. At least I'm not hanging on to the end in pain. Sometimes if I feel as though I can save a relationship before it's lost, I try to talk it through first and resolve it before I cut them off. This doesn't have much of a success rate unfortunately. Even if it helps in the short term the relationship always seems to end after a while anyway. The sooner it's over the sooner I can move on, goes the theory. Except having done this with several people over several years, I'm figuring it isn't really a good method in the long term. It has certain excellent benefits but major psychological drawbacks too. I still prefer it to hanging on 'til the end though.
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I tie them back up and place them back into the pit for a week or two. At least long enough for me to stand in front of the mirror doing the tuck.
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Remind myself that life goes on without the person no matter if you think at the time it will not. Learning to live without someone is hard but life is full of people coming in and out of our lives and the sooner anyone realizes this is the way it is suppose to be the sooner that person can come to grips with the loss.
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If it is inevitable accept it, there is nothing else you can do and emerge from the situation with dignity.
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Prepare yourself to wx the storm. Most people will say "stay busy"! when in reality, you need to grieve the loss and then like the Cliche says..........time heals all wounds.
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