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  • It depends... Have you discussed the question of monogamy in your relationship, and have you both reached an agreement about it? If you don't call each other boyfriend/girlfriend, that says to me, the issue about exclusivity might not be resolved yet. In that case, you are both operating from your own assumptions about what is right and wrong. Some people are "serial monogamists" regardless the discussion about exclusivity -- other people don't think exclusivity is required unless an agreement has been made about it before hand. Use this situation to discuss what kind of exclusivity you want with your non-girlfriend girl. It sounds like you are in a casual relationship... If she doesn't want to change it, and you don't want to compromise, then probably it's time to move on.
  • Clearly, she was cheating on you. I would suggest that you find someone else--some one that does not cheat and values you as a person as much as you value and respect her. Good luck!
  • Well, clearly in your eyes it was wrong, and in her eyes it wasn't- and therein, I think you will find, lies the problem. You haven't made the boundaries of your relationship very clear - you say you don't have the "title" boyfriend/girlfriend yet you've been seeing each other two years - this is even confusing me and it's not my relationship! Its hardly suprising that one of you did something the other wasn't happy with when you don't have any boundaries set. Both of you need to get together and talk about where this relationship is going: are you together? are you dating? are you just sex-buddies (decency prevents me from using the street term!)? Work it out so that you both know where you stand on what is and is not acceptable. Put this particular incident behind you and start from scratch. And if you find that you both want different things from your relationship, perhaps its time to go your seperate ways.
  • Well clearly she has a guilty concince and probably did something why else would her shirt be off
  • You need to talk about it and if you want a serious relationship with her, you need to let her know, and if she wants one, then set boundries of what's appropriate. As for the past, if she's into getting serious, let the past be the past, and let it go. Be sure you don't let what happened effect your relationship if you do make that step to be steady.
  • If you want a commited girlfriend, this is not the girl for you.
  • Well, you two sound like friends with benefits to me. No, I don't think she was cheating. It's not like you made any commitments to each other and agreed not to see other people.
  • Well technically if you are merely 'seeing' eachother then there is no commitment therefore she didn't cheat as you aren't exclusive. If you wanted more from the relationship you ought to have told her, how is she supposed to know how commited you are? Move on because I know you'll never forgive her for it even if she was within her rights to be with another guy. That's why I don't date, with relationships i know where i stand.
  • It sounds like you and she didn't really establish what your relationship was. I don't see getting upset at her for being with someone else if it's not clear you two were really a couple. It might be time to think about setting up guidelines in your relationship and finding out if she feels the same why you do.
  • If you don't consider each other boyfriend/girlfriend after two years then it's one of two things. Either a) it was your decision not to establish the relationship and you're a jerk for being mad at her for this or b) it was her decision not to establish the relationship and you're an idiot for letting it drag on like this and letting her do what she wants.   There is no establishment of relationship so there's no cheating here in my opinion. You either establish the relationship, move on or agree to have an open relationship. You can't have a permanent dating life and expect your date to be exclusive at the same time. Pick one or move on.

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