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  • Only you can truly answer that question. I do find it interesting that you say you've been engaged for years. Engagement is not a state of existence; it's a very temporary stepping stone to marriage. Why is it you haven't been able to finalize the deal? Did you possibly have doubts before the appearance of this new man? Then again, we all have our heads turned once or twice during a relationship. A new interest is fiery, exciting. Someone is seeing you with new eyes and devotes total attention to you without the comfort of a worn-in relationship. Be careful not to confuse that passion with real love. All passion burns down to a low flame after a while. You need to assess what you have and compare it to what you want. Only you can make the right choice in the end. Good luck.
  • I think this could be the 'thrill of the chase' at play - temptation - adam and eve and the apple, kind of stuff. When we're looking at committing to someone for what would ideally be life, it's only natural to have wandering eyes (even those who say they don't, actually do- well, that's my belief anyway) - you're looking around and seeing those who will be off-limits from now on. I think you should stick with the one you've been with to for YEARS. Also, in what way has this new guy made you happy? Is he just playing around because he believes you won't leave your fiance therefore it's safe flirting (or more) with no consequences? It's like having the perfect girlfriend for some guys. Think long and hard and don't make any rash decisions because if you start cheating and leave, you're only adding insult to injury if you try to get back together with your fiance if you change your mind later.
  • Cheat on your fiance and see if you like the guy more. If yes, dump your fiance. If no, just forget about the other guy. GL!
  • Better to try new waters now, than later. You may have just met Mr. Right. Before making any major decisions, sit down and talk to your now fiance and explain your delima. He will not understand, but at least you have been honest with him.
  • If you're really a teenager as the category indicates, WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING ENGAGED TO BEGIN WITH? ARE YOU STUPID? Dump his ass and don't get with anyone. Period. Get your own life together first before you even think about anyone else. You don't even need to be DATING PERIOD.
  • I have the same problem. I have found a great guy and my fiane and i keep aarguing and im so tempted but i won't because i know that if or when i have been with the new guy for a few years, i will be in the same position again. Ride it out or cheat and try to live with the guilt of knowing you were led astray!

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