No. But then I would take my sex drive to hand.... Relationships between two adults should have sex as the icing on the cake - an added thing that is not always needed for a "healthy" relationship. Lack of sex is a good reason for couple's counseling. In that safe environment the couple should be able to discuss and figure out "why" one is no longer interested in sex. Of course that requires a level of truthfulness which one rarely finds in modern relationships. I mean seriously how many men or women can honestly accept "Because you are fat I don't want sex!" without them raging on about other things? The honesty can be painful - however without it these kinds of situations can not be worked through. It is not uncommon for partners to go from love to loathing for "stuff" such as "your eyes are too close together" to "you've gotten so fat" even if its just ten pounds. Usually these sorts of things are just the "tip of the iceberg" and other minor annoyances are the underlying cause the "defect" that is pointed out or used is just a handy catch-all. Also boredom plays a huge roll as to how often sex takes place. There are lots of books on the subject of spicing up sex life - however counseling is still needed in many cases to figure out if boredom is one of the reasons. Cheating has never worked to save a relationship. If anything it drives a wedge that never goes away. Yes some couples are able to stay together, yet there is always doubt, always "issues" that fester beneath the relationship once cheating takes place.

I might in my imagination but not physically. Affairs are for people who are untrustworthy. If a person is truly wanting to step out of their relationship the person needs to speak to their spouse and ask to be released from the marital aggreement. Any other action is unfair to the wedding vow.

If you can help your spouse, you help both of you (and the kids). Amazing intimacy develops when you can be there for each other during these kinds of trials. If you have an affair, everyone gets hurt - even maybe you! I think sometimes we are a little to hard on our husbands. Sometimes I'll inadvertently criticize the little things like how he has loaded dishes in the dishwasher. This is really hard on men, I never realized how much until recently. He might be experiencing a lack of confidence, but luckily he has a partner that can help! Think how you can help him feel more confident as a man. Help him become your champion again! It easy for me to write about, but hard for you I'm sure. I'm pulling for you, and I hope you can get things worked out!

No, cheating and open relationships are never the answer in something like this. Doing this just makes things worse. I would try to talk to my partner to find out why he's lost interest. It could be something as simple as he's fatigued to our scheduals or life style to we need to change things up a bit. It could even be a very real medical condition. Some of which could be life threatening. No matter what it is it needs to be addressed as soon as possible. If it turns out it's because you really don't want to be together any more it's always best to part ways with out the anger and the animosity of cheating to get in the way.

Does that question mean he would be out having sex with someone else??? I would not have an affair, I would give him the right to pack and leave, having affairs is just not my style...

I have never cheated and I have been married twice. Once in my 20's and had four children with him but no sex for fun. Then he walked out cheating on me. Another husband of now 18 years and he is a dual diagnosed bi polar refusing meds but self medicates. He has had our masterbedroom for 6 yrs and I have to sleep in a guest room. No sex, no dates, no nothing. I was raised a good catholic girl and believe in the commandments but I believe he has broken his vows just like my ex and far too long. Now I am 55 and I wonder what being good has done for me except making me a neuter.....I want a new life and love and sex is a part of this I have been abusively denied. But at my age I have no where to go and fear rejection at my age. I do not call this cheating it is survival at this point.

snakelover has on her Grandma COAT: your beautiful friend probably told her husband "no" one too many times; guaranteed he has decided in his mind it is over and is waiting for her to bring it up (especially seeing that children are involved). Having sex that infrequently is far from normal...anyone with systematic failure will get themselves to a doctor for Viagra pretty quickly...it wouldn't take almost 3 years...

No, I would not. I would want to know why there was no longer any interest, though.

No. Try to work on the other aspects of the relationship the best you can, and get creative, and genuine about each other.

An affair would most likely destroy any real possibility of ever working out the kinks in their sex life. Work stress, financial issues, addictions and or kids can add pressure to a relationship that can make being in the mood very difficult. One on one alone time is at a premium in marriages especially the intimate moments that gets everyone in the mood. In any event, the only way to improve things is to openly discuss each others needs and work to find some middle ground to start with.