It is the time honoured "con", the relationship goes along very nicely and then one day BAM! she hits you with it "either we marry or we split", us guys don't want to split, we don't want to marry either. So the relationship splits- a couple of key things then happen, first thing (evertime) she goes out and gets her haircut in a new style and buys some new clothes- makes sure she is seen out and about, coincidentally in exactly the places she knows you will be- and then waits for the phone to ring- if you call you have to marry her- if you don't she slags you off to all her friends and that she is better off without you (the fact she was so desperate to marry she resorted to the oldest con there is, makes no difference)- marriage should be a joint decison not something you manipulate or force on someone you claim to Love.

Never. If you have to use threats and demands to get him to marry you, something is fundamentally wrong with the way your priorities and goals match up with his. Marriage will not fix this. In fact, it will exacerbate it. Find someone who shares your important life goals - including about marriage.

1) "Be frank without sounding like you want an immediate proposal. "David, I don't know yet where this is going to lead, but I want you to know the reason why I'm dating in the first place. I'm dating for marriage, and I expect that the men I see, including you, are also dating for marriage. What do you expect out of dating? Can you see yourself getting married -- not to me in particular, but to anyone you care about -- within the next year?" Encourage "David" to be truthful, and not to simply give the answer you want to hear." Source and further information: "dating a man who has a history of going out seriously with girls but never committing." http://www.aish.com/dating/advice/Dating_Advice_18_-_Will_He_Commit$.asp 2) "I think my answer may be something of a compromise between the others above. I have NEVER thought of myself as someone who wanted to get married but, despite my huge skepticism about the advice that "when you meet the right one you know", have decided I'm ready to marry my current boyfriend. Why? Because I just know. I am of the mindset of the first responder, who said "never ever bring it up." After I knew I was ready, though, I did bring it up. He wasn't freaked out like I thought he might be...in fact, he'd already thought out every last detail including who needed to be there, when, where, etc." Source and further answers: "How do you know if a guy is really ready for marriage?" http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_know_if_a_guy_is_really_ready_for_marriage

Eh, I'd say 5 years is long enough to play around. Time to make up his mind.

Never. I don't think a relationship should even start before both parties understand and know where you each want it to go. I'm old fashioned and think dating is for getting to know someone to see if they are who you would like to marry, so it is clear from the outset that you each are searching for a marriage partner. WHen you start a relationship for other reasons one of you may get a shock when you find out that they had no intention of marriage or they get clod feet or whatever. It's like going to look for car and you are choosing from what looks nice but you aren't choosing from ones that run.