If you are a Christian I think you need to define adultery. Most denominations appear to define it as sex outside of marriage, in which case having intercourse with your fiancé(e) would not be OK.

hey im a christian to and it does not matter i read a book on christian life and they said it was encouraged

you have to remember, engaged is not married. biblically speaking, marriage is the only time sex is acceptable. "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." Hebrews 13:4

NO! Do that and you will catch an STD, probably get AIDS, she'll get pregnant and abort it, your morals will disappear, you'll both become ugly and dress in nasty clothing and you'll die early and rot in hell!! Um. Maybe. I think. If you've gotta ask, you're probably better off waiting. You've waited this long yeah? Plan a really good honeymoon to catch up on lost time... ;-)

If you were a serious Christian you would know the answer to this question. You need to go back to basics and start reading the Bible.

If you want it, go for it. Only you can make yourself feel guilty over spilled milk (or spunk).

Do you believe in the Bible? Is it your guide to what God requires of you? It say to abstain for the things set aside for those placed together by God. That is sexual relations and married couples. If you have done it before, that is fine. As long as you repent. Wait til marriage, the apple is sweeter when there is no doubt about whether you should eat it. At the same time, this is coming from someone who is slightly removed for Christianity at the moment. So take the advice or leave it. The strong suggestion I have is to read your bible and ask brothers and sisters in Christ.

well i personally think that sex before marriage is wrong because thats what my bible tells me in corinthians the bible says that fornication is wrong and we know what that defination means, you are not married to your fiance yet thus for you to have sex will be completely wrong, coz you know what it sometimes and i said sometimes happen that you guys might break off the engagement and tghen by then it will be too late coz you already would have had sex,so yu know what premarital sex is a sin before God's eyes

I was in the same boat...Honestly wish we would of waited...lets say that is kind of the wedding gitters and the excitement that trully makes making love to your husband for the first time AN AMAZING EXPERIENCE..JUST wait, you have waited this long already, I know is hard trust me but you can save yourself and your relationship a lot of stress, if you and your partner will feel guilt and resentment afterward!!....

This is what I don't understand about Christians. Why do you always have to ask other people's opinions about the most intimate of things? If you feel it is right, go ahead and do it. Sex before marriage is supposed to be a sin as far as I know. And yet you are asking about sex after baptism? Wonders will never cease.:)

It clearly defines in the bible that sex is only for marriage however, marriage back in that day was only defined as sex with on person and not sleeping around with people. The thing is that it is between you and your savior, and it is not a sin to sleep with someone you are in love with as long as it stays between you and your partner. As well in regards to the comment that the other person said about waiting to have sex until you are married, there is no certainty that that piece of paper keeps you two together. read Proverbs 5:15-21, 6:23-35, Corinthians 6:13-20, Colosians3:5, Hebrews 13:4. I hope this is of some help and it clearly states that sex is only wrong with many people.

The Church (you know, the one established by Christ in Matt 16) authoritatively teaches that what you described is not OK and, materially is the serious sin of fornication. Remember, what Christ said about the Church in Matt 18 and about the people He gave his authority to in Luke 10:16. Christ established a teaching Church to be our inerrant guide regarding moral issues like this. This same Church gave the world the Bible. As you can see, this is why a private interpretation of the Bible is not enough. If it were, you would not have had to ask the question in the first place. http://ccc.scborromeo.org.master.com/texis/master/redir/?u=http%3A//www.scborromeo.org/ccc/para/2353.htm

Yes, why would you buy a car without test driving it first? (meaning: why would you jump into marriage without knowing what your getting into sexually) Let the d/r's begin.

The fact that you got your head dunked in dishwasher water makes everything ok

Maybe U should read this if U are asking this Question U need to "Re-Think a few things! Enjoy!!! John DOCTRINE OF RIGHT MAN AND RIGHT WOMAN A. The right woman is the oldest and one of many grace gifts to man. 1. There are three prominent grace gifts from Christ to man delineated in Scripture, and these are the order in which they occur in the human race: a. Right woman, He built her, Prov 18:22, 19:13-14. b. Salvation, He did it. c. Doctrine, He thought it, 1 Cor 2:16. 2. In all of human history, right woman is the oldest human gift, for Christ brought the woman to the man, Gen 2:18. 3. The fall of man did not change their relationship. B. Attacks on the gift of right man/right woman. 1. Reversionism, especially phallic reversionism is an attack on the concept of right man/right woman. 2. Life in the cosmic system is an attack on right man/right woman. 3. All mental attitude sins attack right man/right woman, SOS 8:6, 8; Prov 27:4, 6:34. 4. Negative volition to doctrine is an attack on right man/right woman, Jer 15:8-9, 15-21, 16:1-2, 17:9-11, 12:7-9. Negative volition to doctrine destroys right man/right woman relationship. 5. Scripture: Prov 5, 6:20-32; 1 Cor 11:3-16; Jer 31:22; Eccel 7:26-29. 6. No disaster, pressure, or unfaithful act, can destroy personal love between a right man and a right woman. 7. The greatest attack on right man/right woman comes from the soul: scar tissue of the soul, emotional revolt of the soul, and reversionism. These attacks are accompanied by fornication and promiscuity. C. Perversions of Right Man/Right Woman. 1. Auto-erotism, masturbation, or self-response to self. 2. Homosexuality or lesbianism, Lev 18:22; Rom 1:26-27. 3. Bestiality, Lev 18:23. 4. Fornication, Ex 20:14; Prov 5:20, 6:32. D. Analogies of Right Man/Right Woman. 1. Right man/right woman is used to teach many types of doctrine since it is one of the most common relationships to the human race. 2. The Lord and Israel, Jer 2, 3, 13; Ezek 16, 23. 3. The Lord and the Church, Eph 5:26-33. 4. Operation Z, James 1:19-22. 5. Christ, the shepherd and bishop of the believer's soul, 1 Pet 2:25 cf 1 Pet 3:1. 6. The mature believer is the glory of God, 1 Cor 11:7. E. Right Man/Right Woman Related to the Laws of Divine Establishment. 1. Monogamy is designed to remind the human race that there is only one right man for one right woman and visa versa, 1 Cor 7:2-4. 2. Under these laws marriage becomes the second divine institution. 3. Marriage is still the protection of romantic love, Heb 13:4; 1 Cor 7:9; 1 Tim 5:14; Rom 7:2-3; Gen 2:24-25; Eph 5:22, 25, 28, 31, 33. 4. Marriage forms the basis for stability in society, and rejects the theory and practice of anarchy, promiscuity, and communal living. 5. Marriage is also protected by the third divine institution, family, where parents have the responsibility of training their children. 6. The husband is the authority in the marriage, Eph 5:22. 7. God protects the woman from tyranny by the training of the little boy by his mother. His mother teaches the man respect for womanhood, and keeps him from becoming an animal. Prov 31:1-2. 8. Once the couple is married, the doctrine of right man/right woman no longer applies. Now it is a matter of honor, integrity, and impersonal love which must provide the power for the marriage to work. F. The Man and Woman's Relationship at the Fall. 1. After the Fall, God confirms the fact that the man's authority is not changed, even though he responded to the woman, Eph 3:16b, 5:22. 2. In Gen 3:6 we see the reversal of the roles of the man and woman in the Fall. 3. Until the Fall, sex had been a total pleasure and an experience of perfect happiness. After the Fall, a secondary role is added: it is the means of perpetuating the human race. Without children they had only themselves to consider. But with children a second authority develops of parents over children, and this develops problems and complications in the right man/right woman relationship. 4. Therefore, the woman bears the children, Gen 3:15, and through her comes Jesus Christ, Gen 3:16. G. The Recognition of Right Man/Right Woman. 1. Personal love is recognized by both parties. 2. Right man can always tell the mood of his right woman by her voice. The right man's soul will have a total understanding of the right woman's soul, emotions, moods, etc. 3. The right woman may love or hate her right man, but she cannot stop thinking about him. Right man/right woman can never be just friends. 4. You won't be adjusted to people until you find right man/right woman. 5. Every time right man is with right woman, it is a blessing to him. 6. The man cannot work to get his right woman; it is a grace gift from God. God always brings the right woman to the right man. Grace takes up the slack before you find right woman. Doctrine is your right woman until God leads her to you. You don't need to date others while waiting. 7. If a woman doesn't recognize God's authority, she will never recognize her right man's authority. Long hair on a woman is a sign of the right man's authority over her. Wearing long hair is a sign that a woman is waiting for her right man. 8. Your right woman will not react to you. Bitchiness in a woman is an indication of the wrong woman. 9. A wrong woman is always dressing to show off what she has physically. 10. With the right woman there is a period of waiting, resisting temptation, and a period of doubt before God brings the right woman to the right man. H. Right Man/Right Woman and the Soul Climax, 1 Cor 7:8-9. 1. When you find your right woman, physical compatibility is no problem; the difficulty is recognition in the soul. a. Right man/right woman are not ashamed or disappointed in each other physically. The right woman fits the right man perfectly in sex. The right woman's body is the most magnificent thing to the right man. b. You cannot make a woman your right woman by having sex with her. c. Right woman is a storm of passion when the right man makes love to her. When the right man makes love to his right woman, he satisfies her soul as well as her body. This gives her insatiability. The right man sees his right woman as personifying symmetry and beauty. d. Jesus Christ is the giver of sex as the total concept of happiness with one's right woman. e. Before your right woman comes along, you must have an affair with Bible doctrine by taking in doctrine every day until it becomes the love of your life. 2. When the right woman comes along, both will have a soul climax. a. Sexual burning is not a soul climax. This is an indication of wrong woman. Fornication excludes the soul, and therefore always produces wrong man/wrong woman. Shopping around is human viewpoint. b. The soul climax is the divine design of recognition of your right man or right woman. "Burning" has nothing to do with libido. It refers to when two souls have climaxed and are not yet able to make love because the two people are not yet married. No sex can compare with the sex between right man and right woman. c. Therefore, it is better to marry than to burn in personal love for right man or right woman after you have made the soul identification. The right man or right woman can make identification without touching. c. The right woman always emphasizes the soul of her right man when they first know each other. She is looking for his precious soul. The right man is the most precious thing to the right woman, but she emphasizes his soul and hunts for that soul. d. To recognize his right woman, the right man needs only to have the soul climax; no physical contact is necessary. There is no need for heavy necking before getting married. Heavy necking knocks out the ability of the right woman to recognize her right man via a soul climax. e. The soul climax is being out from soul control, because someone else so stimulates your soul. This is the only person who pulls you away from your own self-consciousness into being more aware of them than yourself. You become more thoughtful of them, interested in them, and more concerned and involved with them than yourself. f. A super-rapport develops where the two people cannot wait to share what has happened while they were apart. They enjoy conversation, and even their silence has super-rapport. g. Sex before marriage destroys your capacity to have a soul climax, Prov 6:32. Abstaining from fornication protects the soul, so that it can have a soul climax and the fantastic happiness Christ wants every member of the human race to have. God isn't trying to keep you from having fun, but from missing out on greater fun than Satan and his cosmic system can provide. h. Mentally this person becomes your frame of reference for everything. All memories are related to this person. Over a period of time your norms and standards change so that this person is the honorable one, while other people are insignificant. In your viewpoint, everything in life is related to that right man or right woman. From your volition, you adjust your life with pleasure to please your right partner. You dress to please them and omit things in life to please them. Your emotion has a fantastic response to them. i. If you are in emotional revolt of the soul, you cannot have a soul climax. j. The soul climax is that soul identification in every compartment of the essence of the soul, which stimulates total soul concentration on a member of the opposite sex. It is involuntary total soul concentration. k. Total involvement of the soul essence means that the climax of the soul as an identifier will cover every area of the soul except the old sin nature. l. The right man fulfills her norms and standards, principles, categories, provides soul stimulation, and gives reality to her romantic dreams. 3. The soul climax is the divine design for recognition of your right man or right woman. I. Identification of the Right Woman, Prov 31:10-31. 1. Verse 10 says that your right woman will have certain things for you that she doesn't have for anyone else. The man must recognize her first and be aggressive to her. The man makes the identification first. 2. In verse 11, the right woman becomes a home to the right man. The heart of the man is at home with the right woman's soul. The right woman regards the right man as her lord. The right man's right lobe has confidence in her. This is called love-security of the soul. The right woman won't flirt, tease, or think about some other guy. She is totally occupied with him when he is absent. 3. In verse 12, the right woman will do good to the right man, show him good, and cause him good. 4. In verse 13, the right woman makes decisions to please her right man. The right woman dresses only to please her right man. Her soul is so occupied with him that she is motivated to always appear in clothing he appreciates. She searches diligently to find clothes to impress him. She works with pleasure because it is for her right man. 5. Verse 14 says that she goes to extra effort to find things for her right man to please him, like his favorite food. 6. Verse 15 says that her mental attitude determines how things go around the house. The right woman places love for her right man above her own comfort and personal wants. 7. Verse 16 says that she pleases her right man in business, e.g., she is an aggressive business woman. 8. In verse 17, her soul and body are at his disposal. She responds to only her right man sexually, and anything goes. She encourages him with her arms. 9. In verse 18, anything she does related to her right man always tastes good to her. He always tastes good to her. She is stimulated by him and in a state of perfect human happiness. 10. In verse 19, her hands are occupied with those things which bless him. She gives him no cause for concern. She doesn't play games (cheat on him), nor is she vindictive and seek revenge against him. 11. Verse 20 says that because her soul is full of grace happiness from her right man, she extends grace to others. 12. Verse 21 says that the right woman anticipates certain kinds of disaster and heads them off. She prepares for disaster before it arrives and makes provision. Her instincts of love keep her concentrating on her right man. She no longer depends on parties, outside friends, and fun. She doesn't try to hurt her right man who is so vulnerable to her social or mental unfaithfulness. 13. In verse 22, the right woman makes herself beautiful around the house because her right man is there. 14. Verse 23 says that she is not a nag. The right woman makes it possible for the right man to concentrate on work and be away from home without worrying about her. She compliments and implements, but never competes with her right man. She turns him on, but never puts him down. She seduces him, but never belittles him. 15. In verse 24, the right woman supports her right man with fanatical loyalty and love. 16. Verse 25 says that the right woman is the glory of her right man and wears her glory in her soul, which includes having a sense of humor. She has beauty of soul. She is totally relaxed, giving her the ability to laugh at housework, office work, or whatever she must do. 17. In verse 26, when she speaks, the right man is thrilled because wisdom comes out of her mouth. Divine viewpoint and Bible doctrine is the basis of her conversation. She refrains from verbal sins. 18. In verse 27, she is alert in her soul and not idle. 19. Verse 28 says that her sons remember her with happiness. 20. In verse 29, she waits for her right man by taking in doctrine. For the right man only one woman surpasses all others: his right woman. 21. Verse 30 says that you should not use physical beauty to determine your right woman. Beauty is deceitful. Identification is made in the soul. When you get turned on by some woman's looks, then you missed your identification. She is not your right woman. Beauty, sex appeal, and a great body, is not the basis for recognition of the right woman. Once identification is made in the soul, you will find she has the most beautiful body. The woman occupied with Christ will receive praise from her right man. 22. In verse 31, the responsive right woman becomes aggressive with her hands and lips. No wrong woman can compare. You don't have to prove anything in public to others that you are right man/right woman; touching is private. J. The Responsiveness of the Right Woman. 1. When a woman is a true responder, she initiates her response from her own free will. Right man/right woman have true communication. 2. A woman in response is aggressive. She doesn't stand around and wait for the right man to be aggressive. He doesn't have to be the aggressor on every occasion. 3. The right woman can respond to an aggressive act the right man committed a year before. She is designed for compliments, recognition, and individual attention. K. The Submission of the Right Woman. 1. If a woman is in love, she is happy to surrender her volition to the man and he will care for it. Without mental rapport, there is bad sex life. If the woman doesn't give her soul, she is cheating her man. 2. Submission of the right woman is not slavery but fulfillment. Grace inner beauty in the woman is something which the wrong man sees which he cannot fulfill. A right woman may even change friends to please her right man. The right woman's norms and standards will become one with her right man's. One person's sins don't cause sins by the other person; the same is true for human good. 3. The man should never demand anything from a woman, because he won't get anything anyway. The man cannot demand volitional response or appreciation. 4. The right woman is never shocked by the good or bad points of her right man. Her right man is a point of doctrine. Because Bible doctrine is in her soul and he is a point of doctrine, he is always in her soul, and therefore she will always be faithful. 5. A woman goes quickly from objectivity to subjectivity because she is a responder. 6. The right man will always give her something to which to respond. She saves those things in her memory so that she can respond to them again. 7. The right man, positive to doctrine, will lead in spiritual things. 8. A woman has no security in life except the security of her right man. When a man comes along and is faithful to her and no one else, and she knows it, then that person has her attention forever. 9. When you keep a promise to a woman, it impresses her. She responds. A woman who is a responder to too many things in life also makes herself a reactor to many things in life. The more you respond, the more you react.

sex is a normal function of the body- if u r both of age and consenting i say go ahead and do the nasty - but use protection or your "virgin" partner may give u an std. or ther could be a pregnancy- ok - tell me how it turns out.

In terms of Christianity, no. In other terms, maybe.

You hit a gray area. Technically, it is a sin to have intercourse before marriage in the Catholic Church and other Christian churches. However, in today's culture sex before marriage is commonplace. It has to be a matter of conscience on your part.

Although the Bible is full of prohibitions of adultery (ie, for a woman to cheat on her husband) there actually is nothing about PREmarital sex. Some English translations have translated phrases meaning sexual immorality to include that however.

No. Sex outside of marriage is never okay. God is concerned with how we treat each other. We have been instructed to love + Our neighbor as we love ourselves + One another as Jesus loved us When we treat each other like sex objects, when sex is taking instead of giving, we damage the human dignity of both our partner and ourselves. True giving of yourself to another in a sacramental marriage is what love is all about. Marriage is a symbol of God's creation of the world in an act of divine love and self-outpouring. Marriage is a symbol of the love, commitment, intensity, and passion of Christ for the Church for which He laid down His life. Christians take sex very seriously because it is a glorious gift from God that lets us feel just a bit like God. We become lovers, givers, and creators. With love in Christ.

It's still premarital sex. What if you break up afterwards?

Your heart is good and right to be concerned about anything you may be doing - to seek whether God's will. Not having sex before marriage is very difficult, but The Bible says in I Cor. 6:18 Flee sexual imorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body...vs 19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not on your own 20 for you were bought at a price, therefore glorify your body and in your spirit , which are God's. Fornication means sexual relations among the unmarried and both adultry and fornication are considered imorality and are listed in Galations 5:19 (summarized) Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultry, fornication.... (going now to vs 21...of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, taht those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God...There is always forgiveness...but it also says in Romans 6 - those who have been baptizedinto His death...etc...should not continue to sin because we they are now under grace. People are not married if they are not married, even if engaged to be. You may feel comitted as if you were married...but things change and sometimes the only reason people keep it together is because they are officially leagally married. If not...when and if those things change, people often "break up". I said a prayer for you to know and undertand God's will in this and the strength to do whatever it is God reaveals you should do (or nt do). I think if you stop or wait having sex until after the marriage vows...you will be blessed beyond measure. Don't let Satan decieve you - deceit is his specialty and he uses it mercilessly to our harm. His goal is to hurt, kill and destroy. Online Bible help www.biblegateway.com and www. christianity.com In Him, with love, sharing your pain in this type of difficult decision...

It is never right....... though it is something God will forgive you for. If you mess up early in your Christian life that is okay. Just ask for forgivness and keep on pushing to be the best Christian you can be!

Here's a grand idea: Stop living your life the way a book of fairy tales tells you to!