Is he tired, stressed, depressed, etcetera? Maybe the old boy can't get it up and is embarrassed to talk about it? If you do not know the problem then that is one of the problems here. Have you talked to him about it? If not then coming here will do no good. There are many reasons why someone may not want sex - in order to know one must ask. Most likely you too have been married to long (Hey you live together it is the same thing as marriage) and you have already entered into the long dark tea-time of the relationship - it happens. If you two can not talk about this without help then get couple's counseling - if he can't talk to you he may be able to talk to a stranger a doctor. Don't go down the road of How can I marry a man who...... Because that way leads to the end of the relationship.

Have you talked to him about it?

dontask her to wait tile shes okay with it

oh dear... could it be he is ill? it can be a condition affecting his sexual organ or it can be depression. Do not think of the worse as it will show in your behaviour, which will only make him withdraw even more. Do not rush him into a conversation. When he is ready to talk, calmly and gently ask him what is wrong. When he is talking, listen patiently and try to help him from there.

A man does not just stop, in mid-stream. There is a reason for his actions. Its best to discover his reason for no sex, BEFORE you two marry each other. Does he have aids? taking new medication? These are questions you need to ask him NOW, not after you are married. There is something going on his life, that's different than before. Find out.......what it is.

neither does mine.

Hello dear lady, since he is your fiance, my guess is you have tried to talk with him about this matter, and it gets you no where- except with unanswered questions or in an argument. i'm sure that he does love you and does want to marry you...however, consider some, of many, reasons why this is happening...please hear me out no matter how negative it sounds at first... he is gay - in denial or wants to marry for comfort and appearance, or doesn't want to live that lifestyle you are beautiful to him, but he is not attracted to you in that way anymore he is using you - for companionship, for money, for whatever OR sex to him is not important to him anymore, maybe when he was younger, but not now different, more ususal things turns him on, but he is not comfortable telling you that it is difficult to have sex when he loves someone for some men sex is easy, easy to get off, but sex with love, and love making is very difficult, even if you did at first, now that he is in love with you, it is difficult he has no desire or much of a sex drive anymore too much work for him, too much effort, therefore a little lazy and uninterested in the whole thing now stress, pressure to have sex with you medication depression religious reasons - sure you've had sex at first, but now that marriage is in the scenerio, he wants to wait till your married whatever the reason or reasons are, you need to decide if this is how you can live the rest of your life. it may never change. advice: if you can't do this anymore...you can't marry him. you will always wonder and feel insecure about who you are and in the same process damage your attractiveness that you have for yourself and self esteem. so you need to leave, no matter how much it hurts. if you decide that you can live with this... then you need to try and not take it personally. this is after all his problem. yes it would be ideal if he would talk to you about it and give you the direct, honest answers that you need, but that may not happen. he may not know exactly himself, or be to afraid to tell you... nevertheless, you need to try and not internalize the feelings of rejection and insecurity. enjoy the time you spend together, have fun with each other, try new experiences together, and love each other. but then love him...for the way he is. try not to start fights about this matter. sometimes fights are about other attractive women, or seeing other people being intimate on t.v. or wherever, then you get angry and hurt because you don't have that with him. but you need to not do that if you decide to stay with him. he is who he is. it will probably not change. unless maybe you two go to couples counseling, or he figures it out and talks to you about it in the future. good luck in whatever you decide, and remember... keep talking to him, but not persistently. let it go for quite some time and see if things change on their own, or leave if you can't live this way. and please remember... it is not you. best wishes, jessika

you know it may be he's very stressed out with work and all or other things is bothering him. Or it may be a problem too.