If you're in a relationship and all is going well how long should you wait before you get engaged; if you do, how long should you be engaged before you get married?
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This depends entirely on the two of you -- how long do you want to wait before you are sure you want to proceed to the next step??? Many relationships go through turmoil after 7 years -- so I don't think 7 years is too long to wait. This also depends on if you believe in the "until death do us part" thing -- that's pretty serious, and I wouldn't rush into that. In my view the only reason to get married is to have kids, tax benefits, and legal protections for the unexpected death of a spouse. So if you two are ready to have kids, you are ready to get engaged.
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I guess it depends on what you want out of the relationship. I think that if you both believe strongly in marriage, what is the reason you are waiting? I waited for one year between engagement and marriage, but it was because I wanted to be old enough and really know myself. I was 18 when we got married, young for most people I think but we had known each other for 4 years and we were very sure about what we wanted, our goals, and values were similar. We've been married for 34 years. We're still sure. But if being married isn't a priority to you, then you need to ask yourself what is and where are you going, how are you going to get there? Do you have religious beliefs? Are legal issues important to you? How about kids? Finances? There is no right time, only your time and it should be decided on my the both of you. You both should know where this is going.
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