Two parter - this first, other later. IF you found out what was 'Wrong' with you - as in personality - would it help? If you HAVE ever made such a profound discovery - did it? We spend so much time trying to 'find' that answer...but is it a fools quest?
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What helps is to be able to see clearly into the details of your own personality and allow them to be just as they are. Just the simple awareness of what is going on -- what is driving your behavior -- that's all it takes. When one can self-observe without getting tangled up into judgments or "fixing" oneself, then something very important is discovered: YOU are not your PERSONALITY. That is to say, there's a dimension of BEING in human being, which has nothing to do with the details of my specific personality or your specific personality -- that dimension is the source of being whole and complete. None of us will ever be able to "fix" our personalities up so that they are perfect... what happens is that the more someone becomes "grounded in being", the more they're able to accept their personality as it is, and stop trying to mess with it, fix it, or worry about what's wrong with it. And that indeed is a profound discovery.
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I think its a fools quest. A person will only change if they are willing. You can guide, suggest, cajor, bribe and any other word to try and change a person but in the end the changing has to happen in that person when they are ready willing and able to carry out the task.
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Maybe we should realize that what varies from "the norm" is not always negative and instead embrace our uniqueness. there was a time when I would've given anything to be "normal". Now I think "normal" is boring.
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