Would you rather be honest and hurt someone you love or lie so they wont get hurt?
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PerfectlyFlawed.
ANSWERS: 16
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It depends on what the subject is. If it's a new hairstyle I don't care for, I might say it looks ..uh..fine, but if it's something very serious then lying would only make it worse in the long run.
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I would tell them the truth. Being hurt is what helps us grow and mature as human beings. During the healing process, we become stronger.
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I would rather be honest and hurt them now, than lie to them and hurt them far more when they find out later.
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thats tough to hurt someone with the truth, especialy some one you love, I would have to tell them the truth, but gently. (better hurt them a little now than alot later)
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The truth if you get hurt either way.
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It very much depends what the subject matter is. This has been a very important topic for me recently...I've found myself being honest with several people, somewhat against my better judgement, but knowing I needed them to know what I was telling them. Each person involved had said they'd like me to be honest with them, so I was. Afterwards, they all pretty much retracted that and asked that I spare their feelings in future. I won't lie...so with those people I'll just skin over certain topics in future, neither telling the truth or telling a lie. Eventually I think the truth tends to get out anyway, so if it was something major, like my friend's husband had been cheating on her, I'd most likely tell her now rather than wait and let her feel even more betrayed. If it was something like my sister asking if her bum looked big in a pair of jeans, I might suggest to her she finds an alternative pair.
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I would be honest, lies tends to reveal them self in time, when the other person finds it out later it causes bigger damage where the truth would have set you free in the first place!
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I may dent a feeling or two being honest but a lie will crush the trust I had earned.
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It depends on the lie...if your friend is dying and looks awful, you wouldn't say "you look awful"..if you see your friend's boyfriend/husband fooling around with another woman, you tell her..it will hurt her, and she may make you pay for it in one way or another, but you tell her. :)
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I think there are ways to say truth without inflicting the pain of blunt truth. Some things will hurt like a needed operation for the time being but if it is needed to get well, then you do it but try to do it with tact and tenderness. If it's not necessary to tell someone, then don't do it just because it is the truth. Do it because there is a need for truth, and never lie. The kind of pain or wound that a lie makes scabs over and is always like something that gets picked at and the scarring gets worse and worse and ugly.
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I think that depends upon the situation. In general, I tell the truth. It usually isn't me that is hurting them, it is the events that I'm relating to them that hurts. For instance, if I tell a friend that his/her partner is cheating, I'm not the one causing the pain. The cheating spouse is. Preventing others from knowing the truth doesn't protect them from the reality of that truth. It just lets them live in a fantasy land that will, eventually, burst. However, I'm not going to tell someone with cancer that they are barely recognizable after the chemo or something similar. I'm going to emphasize the similarities for that person.
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Honesty is the best policy. So, I would take the chance of being honest to someone I love at the risk of hurting them.
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I believe in honesty.
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Lies hurt more than the truth. Therefore I choose honesty. Another reason I choose honesty is that honesty is morally right and lies are morally wrong.
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I would rather be honest but say whatever i would in a very gentle way ,,,trying and being careful not to hurt the person I love :-)
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I belive that you should always tell the truth no matter what. Sure the shock of what you have to tell them will hurt for a time, but if you lie you just make it even worse. It's like pouring salt in the wound. Especially if they find out the truth from someone else. Also lying just ruins your credablity and takes the trust and respect out of the relationship.
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