There is a huge number of non-gay people who were abused as children. Why do people try the argument that we are gay because we were abused?
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My main guess would be ignorance and a cop-out to explain something they don't really want to understand themselves.
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I don't know, ML, what do you think? Those who do are probably the same ones who still think, like Freud, that we all started out wanting to "do it" with our parent of the opposite sex; that a little boy represses the desire out of fear that papa will cut off his willy, and that little girls think they have already had their's cut off, so they go for guys, so they can at least "share" his. And he will give her a new willy of her own in the form of her child. Considering how many naked apes still buy this crap, you should not be surprised at anything they "propose".
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Probably because it's impossible to understand something that you haven't experienced. But only a tiny minority of people think that way; far fewer, in fact, than the number of homosexual people who ask questions like this almost as if they feel the need to justify themselves. I would just get on with my life and stop bothering about what other people think of me and the way that I choose to live my life .
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On the "Love Line" program with Dr. Drew and Adam Carolla, they talked about two different precursors for being gay, one was being born gay. The other was being "made in the laboratory", someone who was forced to choose between gay and straight and being "helped" in the decision by being abused, either sexually or emotionally. The second type was a person who never gave much thought to their sexuality until the event happened, and that was the catalyst for change. I was raped as child, and I grew up straight. But I am sensitive to those that are abused, raped and violated. Those that do this are the scum of the earth and I make every effort to make their lives hell.
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If you want the truth it's because those people who say that are jackasses
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I don't think anyone believes the only reason someone is gay is they were abused, I think it merely says that some people who are gay were severely abused as children. Not totally sure how it all connects, but there are statistics statig the same. I think what they are trying to say is that extreme external factors in youngsters could alter many aspects of someones life, not just being gay or not. Just how abusers were often abused themselves, alcoholic parents to alcoholic kids, etc. If any of that holds any water, then being abused by a gay man as a boy may make you do the same at a higher percentage I guess. Not claiming it is an absolute, just trying to stay consistent with the issue.
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because they need an exuse... they don't want to face the truth so they will use it as a crutch
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I would guess that the ones who pander that idea are looking for a reason THEY can find acceptable that we have turned from the 90% and into the 10%. I agree that FEAR is a big part of THEIR problem with US. If they can convince themselves that we are "only this way" because of something truly horrific...then they can justify their own feelings, insecurities, and logic with it. I would bet you that "these people" were not molested or sexually abused themselves...or they might have a different point of view...they are shooting off their mouths, without loading their brains.....
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Fear, ignorance, lack of education are a few reasons I can think of. what I have never understood is why, without bothering to even try to get to know us, they prefer to believe in lies, assumptions and lame, generalizing stereotypes rather than the actual truth? why can't they learn facts? do they not want to? or is it just blind, ignorant bigotry? because, of course, the truth about anything they don't understand always proves any of their bigoted b.s. to be a the complete load of crap that we know it to be. I have known people who were abused as children, both male and female. 99.9% of them grew up straight...even married and had children. as for women growing up hating men because of abuse, that's also a load of crap...just from speaking to women who have been. Nor do lesbians "hate" men. I'm simply attracted to women, not men. I have a lot of male friends.
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