This is just my opinion. I think people should seriously ponder how they are coming across to others. She may have been very serious about you but would not lower her standards in that way.

It is that serious because to some people it seems as if you or others rather look at people in porn rather than your loved one. lol I couldnt put it in any other way. On the other hand...some do watch porn with their loved one.

Yes it is That Serious. A woman has a need to feel needed and wanted. when the male in the relationship looks at porn he is essentially saying he doesn't need or want her because SHE IS NOT ENOUGH. Thus the need or want to look at other women. Also when you feed your brain waves things like Vidoe games and or porn you are creating pathways in those brain waves that Create Addiction. Once a pathway is formed and you continue to look at porn then the pathway only becomes stronger to the point you feel you "need" to look at porn.

It depends on the person. Just cause a man looks at porn doesn't mean he doesn't love his spouse anymore or doesn't find her attractive. Men are different than women. They are more visual. Porn isn't cheating. My man looks at porn and I look at porn and we look at it together. He's still and always has been very into me, finds me very sexy, etc etc, but he's still a man and it's normal. However, with everything, it can go over a line. If a guy is only/always looking at porn and becomes less interested in his spouse then obviously there will be a problem. Or if he can't have sex with her without watching porn during the whole time and only concentrating on it and not her. But it depends on the man. And simply watching porn doesn't 'create' an addiction. For example, just cause someone stumbles across a foot fetish site doesn't mean that just cause they've seen it they get turned on by it/it's their new fetish. If they do get turned on, it's because the attraction to it has always been there, buried deep, and now it's come to surface. Addictions and fetishes are deep implanted and simply looking at something doesn't necessarily create an addiction (ie: not everyone who drinks alcohol becomes an alcoholic) Some people have more addictive personalities than others. Anyway also as well on the woman's side, she has to realize the fact that men are different in regards to porn, he's only looking at it/the women as sex, it's not a connection or anything. Women should be more open to it and join in. And they also have to realize those hot porn stars don't look like that in real life and may not enjoy everything they do in the porn in their own sex life. I have a friend in the porn industry and believe me, there's lots of makeup and airbrushing etc, so no need for you to feel unattractive in comparison. Why not dress up once in a while to turn him on? For the women who are lazy and don't put any reasonable effort into looking nice then complain that their spouses seem to be disinterested, can you blame them? If the roles were reversed, would you be as-into him sexually if he was lazy/sloppy/let go of himself-like? Cause in some of those cases, that can be why the man has turned to porn, because of lack of interest of his gf/wife in him/sex. Anyway I've really gotten deep into this lol, I think you get my gist :)