Why does love hurt so much?

Love doesn't hurt, on the contrary, it is amazing! It is the absence of mutual love that hurts.
Love is a bond between two people that goes beyond logic and reason, one that overwhelms the mind and senses enough to do things that are aporiable. But when only one person out of these two have this emotion they might not realize that the other might not reciprocate and it is this naiveity that blinds them from the plain and simple truth that they might get hurt as if they were in a relationship that doesn't mean anything what so ever! When/if they do get hurt then they can't understand why this person, who apparently loved them, did what they did. The answer is quite simple: Either that other person doesn't reciprocate or they need reminding that what they are doing to those that they love the most is in fact hurting them! If they change their ways, at least enough to show that they desperately want to try, then they love you back. If they don't then they don't love you back.
Unfortunately the word love is used far too often or perhaps the bond associated with that word is perceived to be far stronger that it actually is.

Love is very a powerful and yet beautiful emotion.
Life without love is meaningless and empty; However whenever we love someone there is always a chance the person won't love you back or they just don't feel the same way as you do,that is when love HURTS. You can't stop caring about that person b/c you love them and yet you don't get anything in return.
Love Hurts but it makes me feel alive.

Love, in and of itself, does NOT hurt so much.

Unrequited love (when you love someone who doesn't love you) DOES hurt, since they don't feel the same. It's the basis of millions of poems, songs, books, movies, and TV shows. It hurts because they don't feel, or don't even want to try to feel, the same about you as you do about them. (Actually, it's probably not "love", since they don't feel the same. Even so, it FEELS like love to you, and it hurts.)

When a loved one cheats, falls OUT of love with you, or dies, it hurts, because your trust is broken - that they won't cheat, that they'll love you forever, or that they will live forever. In this case, you have to go through a grieving process. The former two, you may have to deal with the former love and until you get to the acceptance part of the grieving process, you will hurt. And, when they die, it's kind of the same thing, except it's that you will NEVER see them again. In many cases, the latter is easier to deal with since there's no way you CAN see them again, except in pictures. Even so, many have loved so strongly, that it takes a long time to "get over" a death.

The main thing to KNOW, is that you are NOT the only one who has ever, or WILL ever, feel this way.

And, you need to know the grief process can take time - from a couple of weeks to months to years, for some, to go through. Many probably won't feel that much better until they find others who have been through the same thing, or find another person to love. The sad thing is many people don't keep their minds and hearts open for new experiences and new love. They fall into the habit of giving themselves "pity parties" all the time, and can't seem to find a way out.

For myself, what's helped me through situations like this is writing - poems, songs, stories, letters that will never been sent, etc. - about how I feel, how I WANT to feel, and about how I wish the others would feel. The funny thing is, as you are writing, you will notice that it becomes much more hopeful.

Give writing a try... And keep trying to keep your mind and heart open. ;-)

Love is something dangerous but love is a part of life that hold it make everything complete you may get hurt again and again but then when true love walks in on you trust me you would feel its a beautiful thing morethan anything theres nothen more stronger that loveing someone or being love by somebody love hurts because without experincing it on your own what pain is then you wont understand love if it was perfect and I know its not you know it would be boring but yea nobody wants to get hurt for my situation right now am so inlove with my bf we been together for about a year ad 7 months but am putting my guards up because im trying to protect myself but honestly I realize you cant protect yourself because love will always be there no matter how much you want to get rid of it without giving it a chance sometimes then you would just wonder what did I just miss what kind of chance did I just love because it go to the point where that could somebody you could spend your life with everybody wants it to end like a fairytale but yea theres no such thing coz you make your own fairytale love is pain apart of life sometimes something that hurts in the past some point you gonna have to let go and that if you open up to a new relationship you cant hold yourself back or cant blame that person who's not fault of your past which is not a part of them at all because you never know if that person didnt come to make it worst and they came to make a difference

We all have these trials. We learn from them and get stronger every day.

i just broke up with my gf and it feels like this pain inside me i want to cry but it wont come out she told me she didnt want a boyfriend but early that day i asked her if she loved me and she said yes then later that day she told me she didnt want a boy friend it hurt me so much i could die!!!!!

becasue you put your heart and soul into loving someone and when they hurt you it hurts you all over, no matter how hard you try to not let the pain effect you it will and always does, but on the plus side things can and usually do get better!

When the person you love doesn't love you back.

Because it's matters of the heart and the heart can be touched very easily. And touched the wrong way hurts a lot.

http://www.selfcreation.com/love/love_painful.htm

It doesn't hurt. It's the lack of it that hurts.

because you love that person so bad you will do any thing for that person
love hurt when you cant be with that person you want to be withthat person

i think that love is one of the most powerful emotions one can experience,so it's exected to hurt because of the great importance it has to our lives

The pain of love is so terrible because the joy of love is so great~

becasue people trump up excuses to try and make "love" fit into thier own selfish wants and desires, rather than just waiting until they are mature and selfless enough to feel real love.

Because one is emotionally invested.
Curiously, psychopaths don't get hurt, but are able to inflict hurt on others

Why does falling off a bridge hurt so much?? It might crack your head or your heart open:):)

because as long as it has a start...it has an end!!

Mismatched genitalia LOL

Wrong hole.

Love sucks and is the most wonderful thing at the same time. The heart is easily fooled especially when you mistake other emotions as love, like lust and pity and fondness.

Love shouldn't hurt unless it's being damaged.

Love, when it's going well, should be warm, comforting and enjoyable.

Pain only comes with love when it's been damaged... unfortunately love sometimes can fall into the same pattern as other things that we take for granted. Sometimes we never realize the joy until the joy is gone.

When it is gone, the hole left is huge, so huge that we cannot imagine life without it being filled again. Don't wait until love hurts to realize it's something that you should cherish.

Because if love didnt hurt then how would you know you truly love that person. you have to hurt in order to realize that you love this person, that you're willing to make anything work. its just like fighting with your loved one, if you dont fight then you dont care. love is very beautiful, but to reach that stage you have to walk through needles and broken glass, and if you do, you're in love.

'love' is afterall a word. how one may interpret, show, express it will differ from person to person.. however, there remains a constant.. this topic will remain to baffle and confused the human species til the end of time. it is not the love that hurts so much, its the threat of losing the love that hurts the person.

though, I beg to differ that love is a choice, but it is a choice to show/express such a thing. a person is a fool to think that he/she can be so egotistical to control themselves when pertaining to this subject. such a strong feeling is not meant to be kept hiden within.. and to those who do so, the only person you are trying to fool is yourself.
-ree1nvented

In asking,
"Why does Love hurt so much?"
Offers a clear indication that you, like many people, do not understand (or have been misinformed about) what Love truly is.
Love is the action to choose unconditionally in the process of offering to another human being the qualities of: Affection, Care, Concern, Respect, Thoughtfulness, Forgiveness, Compassion, Trust, Joy and many other positive emotional expressions of value and worth toward ANY living being as being Loveable and valuable.
Let's take a look, now, at what is opposite of Love, or what Love is not:
Love is NOT a feeling.
The opposite of the above positive qualities (actions) are as follows:
Each of the following are choices. Each have either a positive effect or a negative effect.

POSITIVE NEGATIVE
Affection - Disregard. To ignore.
Care - Careless. A lack of compassion.
Concern - Indifference. Impassivity.
Respect - Contempt. To despise.
Thoughtfulness - Thoughtlessness. To be inconsiderate.
Forgiveness - Bind. Possessiveness. Greed.
Compassion - Inhumane Ignorance. Brutal.
Trust - Betray. To delude.
Joy - Sorrow. Grief.

The opposite of Love, is Hate. Again, Hate, too, is a choice. Many people will disagree with this definition of Love and Hate being choices and not feelings. But it is time, then, to rethink the definitions of old thinking and accept a new working definition that does not promise false hopes, nor any misleading confusions about what Love and Hate truly are.
Many people mistake Love or True Love as being a series of emotions that equate to an intrinsic summation of justifiability. In so doing, the very foundation of ANY relationship is bound to fail when the expectation of the intrinsic value falls short of what was anticipated. Therefore, on the basis of a false pretense that True Love is anything other than a choice, an illusion is created. Thus, when True Love is literally the premise behind what IS true, the illusion can never be supported by what is false.
True Love, therefore, IS an action and very much a choice.
When you ask,
"Why does love hurt so much?"
Ask yourself,
"Is Love Truely responsible for the pain that I feel?
Of course it isn't.
Now ask yourself,
Is Hate Truly responsible for the pain that I feel?
with the new Working definition of what Love and Hate Truly are...
Yes. Hate, is responsible for the pain that you feel.
Therefore, all things being true... DO NOT HATE.
You must let go of Hate in the absence of Love and learn to Love again. Suddenly, you will no longer feel the pain. You will choose to Love and BE loved now that you know what Love actually IS and is not.

Quit whining, the handcuffs aren't THAT tight! :D

I don't think that LOVE hurts at all. I think the removal of love and the fear of losing it hurt.

its a lot like a drug. having a lot of it can feel like the best thing in the world, but withdrawl from it feels like the end of the world.

Love doesn't hurt!!! If it hurts its not love...:P

i dont agree that when they say love dont hurt ause it really does...

find yourself in the situation im in..

we both feel the same way .. we both love each other so much...

but when others dont approve to where its keepin you too nt together it hurts...

theres no absence of love its there. but knowing you cant have that person is what hurts and lovein them is causein that pain...

cause if you didnt love them it would hurt

True love does not hurt or should i say should not hurt!

cuz love is a disease

because right from the start we have those 'rose colored' glasses on and we only see and believe what we want to believe no matter what 'red flags' we see...and later, when we are proven wrong it is heartbreaking and it sucks...but we do it again and again

Many views on that here:
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/39899

because you are giving your love to someone who doesnt love you the way you deserve to be loved. It wouldnt hurt if it were right.

Because you have fallen?

Yes it hurts and feels wonderful.....

It doesn't ...unless the love isn't returned that is

I am trying tpo figure this out. We are in a nasty court battle for our daughter. Although he seems uninterested in her, I believe it is his ego that is at stake. He has not treated us the best in the past and seemed uninterested in change when we tried counseling. I was upset at first and now I am so hurt and in pain because I miss him so much. I have full custody of our daughter. I do not know what to do. I want him back so bad. But I do not think he loves me anymore.

Because you let love hurt you! But thats part of growing up and moving on and makinhg mistakes

cause thats when you truly expose yourself to somone and your at your most vulnarable and sometimes it gets thrown back in your face

I think we expect too much in a relationship. If the other person cannot give what you want or need then you feel like you are being ignored or denied of your rights. Then the pain of rejection comes in.

Because it's the best feeling in the world when it happens.
It's the risk we have to take.

Because it's in our nature to love

I think love is a beautiful beautiful thing. But it can also be something that can hurt you because the person you love may not love you back. and even if they do its hard for you to recognize it because they show it in an completley different way than you. they express their feelings in other ways that you may not understand. love can make you do crazy things as you should all know or at least have grown to know. for me its a struggle maybe because im young but its definatley hard. i love the man im with with all my heart and as much as he tells me he loves me i just cant always see it. im unsure about us alot but im trying not to let my slefish actions get in the way. im not gonna let him go but im not gonna hold onto him if theres nothing holding us together love being what i want is not always gonna come. thats what i think about love!

love hurts and u will never get over it no matter how hard you try it will always eat away at your head be in your dreams in your thoughts it will never ever leave you in peace no matter how hard you try to get pver it

Because no matter how badly we might want to, we have no control over how someone else feels.....

love kills, but its really worth it.
it must hurt so much because we invest ourselves in it and besides that growth is always painful.

I wonder the same question. Me and my boyfriend just broke up. It was my idea, because my daughter didn't like him. I had no idea it would hurt this bad. I did him wrong and now he won't speak to me. I don't blame him, but it hurts soooo bad. I can't function. I just want to lay and die. I can't eat, sleep or move. Just barely able to breathe. I have managed to let my daughter manipulate me into losing the man I loved. So whenever someone figures out how to fix a broken heart, let me know.

love is something that can be seen in 2 ways which are negative and positive, it’s beautiful when its going good but when it goes pear shape between the 2 it’s a feeling between dying or living. The most painful moment is when the relationship is no more and you spent your days, nights, minutes, seconds and hours thinking about that person and you, when you both were together, the beautiful moments you both spent with each other, at that time you have a graving feeling you just want to snatch that thing off and have it to yourself and not let it out of your sight, it really hurts, thinking that the person is not with you anymore and that he can be someone else’s just like that and not just belonging to you anymore.

Love Hurts

Did you ever love someone so much,
you thought you'd die.
You sit home alone all night,
and just cry cry and cry.

He looks at you but sees nothing.
You look at him and yes, you see your world,
your hopes, your dreams in a place inside his chest.

You tear yourself apart inside,
searching for reason to care.
He doesn't care about you.
Loving him gets you nowhere.

This time you got to learn,
to say goodbye to him.
He couldn't care less about you,
so neither should you....


in short learn to say goodbye love should not hurt