Let's say your partner suddenly stopped showing you affection/love. No sex, cuddling, hand-holding, kissing, hugging, gifts, favors, anything. But they still said they love you. What would happen? How long could you stay with them?
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I would think they still loved me but lost the passion and excitement. I'd talk to them about it that something needs ta change and if they did nothing to improve the situation then I'd have no choice but to leave.
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God, sounds like your talking about my boyfriend at the moment :(
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Then we'd be pretty much just friends. So, I'd find somebody else.
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it has happen and no, we didn't stay together. Closet gay who won't admit it.
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Sounds like time for a trip to the Counselor. Oh, Ms. Troi!
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I require a lot of attention, so he'd have to have a good reason for holding out. Like say he just got back from Iraq and has PTSD. Then I'd be patient. It's also possible he could be in a depression, but those don't happen suddenly. Aside from that, if his behavior just started to change, I would suspect an affair and would probably leave him.
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I'd think they were cheating.
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I am not a high maintenance person but without those things what's the point staying with them. If they did those things before there should be no need to stop unless the love is gone. I wouldn't be able to stand it more than a week ( to see if things change).
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We would talk about it. Why? We have a rule that neither of us is allowed to "hold out" on the other. Sex, within reason (i.e. if the other has a 102 degree fever, that's a little unreasonable, but a headache is not an excuse, and "not in the mood" is curable) is always available. A change like that would break the rule, and would have a reason. What the reason was would define the course of action. Counseling would not be out of order if it were a major sort of problem. Under no circumstances would I "move on" to someone else.
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I'd assume there was some infedility going on. Get a PI and some counseling to get to the bottom of the issue. I don't know how long I could continue in that kind of relationship... not long probably. You can still ove someone, but not be in love with them anymore. It is a complicated place to be especially if you are married.
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Not for very long. I've a very affectionate person and I expect the same in return from my partner. Besides, if they do love me, why wouldn't they hug me, hold my hand or have sex with me? It would make me feel as if something was wrong with the relationship.
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Hmm I think eventually when you are with someone for a lengthy amount of time, things are not always as they were when you first started out. I mean you should still at least kiss even if its a good morning and goodbye kiss... As for sex I think that sometimes eventually the amount of sex you get when your in it for a long time declines.. I just think thats natural .. As for the hand holding I think that alot of people do that to look cute, and thats more of what younger couples do, and happens lots in the beginning of a relationship.. I dont think I would last too long if someone didnt show they appreciate me as their partner..
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I've been through this, and I can tell you its one of the hardest things to go through because you question your own worth (what am I doing wrong? what is wrong with me?) I ended up separating from him because I was so desperately unhappy. There's not much you can do because threats and crying don't really work with someone like that.
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I might first of all supsect that something had happened to them, along the lines of rape or serious sexual assault. This is probably the most common reason for this type of situation appearing very suddenly. I would certainly talk over their feelings and try to be as supportive as I could. There is always a way to sort a problem out, even if it involves getting professional help from a trained counsellor. If they were unwilling to tell me what happened and were showing no affection at all, then I might suggest that there is no point continuing with the relationship, if they cannot open up to me. If they would rather end the relationship than open up to me or tell me what the problem is, or even get help by themeselves, then I would have to consider whether the relatiionship had much of a future anyway.
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I cannot tell you how devastating that would be. There must be some reason, so I'd try to figure it out. Obviously, you can't feel love-the-noun for someone if you have no desire to love-the-verb that person. Clearly, something is up.
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this happened to me... but my partner was just going through some stressful times. we are still going out and have gotten over the rocky time in our relationship. it just needed communication and some time.
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this is a complex question because i think that one of the partners were not in love or in lust or in fascination or whatever other lighter feeling and after a few times or months one of the partners feels obliged to continue because although she doesnt love him she has feelings for him for the kind man he is, for the things he ha given up for her, for moving ot her home town and for being the nicest man she has even know. He,on the other hand, realizes something is wrong but is afraid to go back in the dating circle of people in the 50's...he needs his woman and he doesnt have the strength to leave and the other doesnt have the heart....i think both of them would be happy with someobdy else. I AM THIS PERSON, I am the female, and this is happening to me for the 4th time and I feel desperate...I have a way of being that makes a man wild for me and then I lose interest, i am not stimulated in many aspects and boredom sets in and I feel like going to another planet.
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two seconds
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Try to regain the spark...refresh your love BUT if it does not come back, let it go and move on!
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I would kneel down and pray to God!
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