Well that's how the rules goes, once u get cheated on, even if it was 2 years ago or longer it's never the same, trust is gone forever and completely. Though he might just be looking at porn and not really think of cheating, but if u had to ask this question is cuz u still don't trust him, certainly not like before. Therefore, without trust, there is no relationship. I suggest u two go to counseling.

EDIT: Your update provides quite a bit of new info and in some ways changes the situation a little. The fact that he's never sexually cheated on you (as per my understanding of your post) puts a new spin on things. It is my experience that men who suffer porn addiction tend to be suffering from personal problems that include lonliness and lack of fulfillment in a relationship. The fact that he had so many things working against your relationship was not good either. If I may, I would recommend two books for you both to read, which may or may not come in useful. The first is called "His needs, Her needs", by Willard F. Harley. It shows that men and women have different needs in their lives that, if unmet, can lead to feelings of unfulfillment and relationship difficulties. The second book is called "Love and Respect", by Emerson Eggerichs. It is about the concept that men need to feel respected to be fulfilled, while women need to feel loved. While I don't guarantee that these (or any other books) will solve your problems, you may find that they can be of help in repairing and building up your relationship. I wish you both happiness and fulfillment in your relationship. ________ My main concern here would have been that he was in the temptation stage of unfaithfulness. While cheating may be spur-of-the-moment in some cases, there has to be some form of temptation, or else the act cannot spawn. In the context of a previously sexually unfaithful person, it would be warning signs that he is sliding back towards that kind of activity. In a person who has never cheated before, it is a warning sign that not all is 100% with the relationship. A man who is feeling fulfilled and satisfied in his relationship has no need for such things. Yes, there are people who view porn and the likes as a 'casual' thing - kind of like a casual drink, and just another form of entertainment; but there are others who resort to porn because they are looking for something. Since curious curious has posted more info, my original answer really became redundant, so I replaced it.

From what I understand he has not visited an escort, massage parlor or stripper before. However, I do find him looking up escorts, nude models, strippers and exotic dancers on the internet, including review sites that review the services of such sex workers. I have confronted him now, and he said he would not look at those sites regarding sex workers again. We have determined he has a porn addiction. He has abstained from porn for a month but relapsed for a week. However, he did not look at any sex workers. He says he would never go to a sex worker and I have no evidence that he has in the past. However, I do not think this would rule out the possibility he may cheat with a female who is not a sex worker. We have been trying to resolve the initial relationship reasons why he cheated (we were living in different states, always fighting, he had unrealistic expectations regarding relationships, stress at work, his mum was telling him to dump his wife). His cheating involved going on a date with a girl at work ONE MONTH after we were married (he did not kiss her or have sex with her). He then came home from the date, asked from an annulment of the marriage from me and then secretly asked for another date from her. Eventhough he may not have physically cheat he did try to date the girl whilst still being married to me and start a new relationship with her to replace the marriage. I still wonder whether he would cheat in the future. He said he would not because he has not done so in 2 yrs (but that is not a life time). Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Clearly, he is "cheating," just not physically cheating with someone else. Looking at porn and escort sites doth not make a good marriage. Your husband needs psychological treatment such as counseling because this lead to a sexual addiction or disorder. Furthermore, it can also lead to him actually having an affair because he'll begin wanting the fantasy to become a reality; then both reality and fantasy in his mind will be blurred. Bottom line: You both need marital counseling, in order, to help him with what can lead to a serious sexual disorder or addiction. Goodl luck with your situation because clearly this is a serious issue that if goes ignored, can lead to extramaritla affiars, and ulitimately a divorce, so seek help why you still have your marriage left.

What do you think? he is only look at escort sites for one reason and one reason alone