Why is it people who are so interested in getting to know you and ask you questions but then they always forget what you tell them? Or is it that they aren't really interested in getting to know you and are just making conversation?
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It does seem very rude when people forget the things you told them about yourself. maybe they do not have a very good memory or they have many other things on their mind. or as you say maybe they are just filling time with conversation.
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I think that it's usually just for the sake of having a conversation. People ask about you just so you'll have something to say.
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People start out trying to find out if you share any interests. As they come to realize that no interests are shared they back off mentally and stop paying attention.
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I really hate when people forget things I have told them in conversation again and again. It basically means they haven't been listening to anything I have been saying and have just been wasting my time. Nobody likes feeling unimportant enough to be listened to. My advice is this: If you're in contact with someone/s who do this very often, don't waste time on them. Friends talk AND listen.
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I have a very compartmental memory... sometimes it takes me a minute to find your 'box' (memory box!!). I usually don't forget things more than once, except for names :(. I do know people who have diarrhea of the mouth and just make conversations without paying any heed to whom they are speaking. I feel kind of sad for them not really getting to know people.
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things happen that cause people to forget things, but I'm guessing in most cases its not that its not important enough to remember because there is a lot of stimuli out there that takes our interest. With me, the more the person became important in my life, the more info about a person I'm interested I can recall.
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Good question. I think that it might be a little of both. Some people ask questions and then just don't really listen to the answer. My father had a photographic memory, and could remember most anything. I am not so lucky. I have a very poor recollection of things heard or seen. Tests in school were always a worry for me. I have been tested to find a reason over the years, but no answers yet. I have always had a hard time remembering dates, places and things that have happened to me let alone anyone else. I try to find ways to remember things about new people I meet, with associations and other tools I have learned, but I mean no offense when I ask something more than once.
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I know. I hate it when someone will purposely ask you something about yourself, you tell them, then the next time you see them they ask you the same exact thing. The say "oh yeah, that's right".. and you just know they're not listening AGAIN! Those are the ones I just say hello to (maybe) and keep walking.
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A few possible reasons I can think of, someone with ADD, (hard for them to pay attention.) or it can be someone who is acting interested in what you have to say, just making conversation. It could also be someone with all their brain cells fried.
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Some people don’t have a great memory.
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Here is a possible reason..they are really friendly, outgoing and interested..they have 100 people tell them stuff..they forget who told them what...that happens you know..unless you are the only one in their universe, that happens..chances are if they are friendly and outgoing with you, that are like that with everyone..I wouldn't take it personally. :)
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Two possibilities in my mind: Genuine forgetfulness or lack of genuine interest.
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i think sometimes they do it for conversation, and sometimes to get higher in their points quotation.
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