If my ex-boy friend was horribly drunk and tried to force a less-drunk me to have sex with him... and succeeded for a couple of seconds, does that make me a rapist?
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Indigo- in the library with the revolver
ANSWERS: 7
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No, neither of you were rapists unless one of you said no. I'm guessing he didn't.
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who objected..that is the person that was raped.
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Hi Indigo- He sounds like the aggressor and forced you to have sex, irregardless of his sobriety. If anyone, he is the rapist hun.
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no, that makes you a hooch though
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I have always wondered how married women and women in committed relationships could say that they had been raped if the act was against their will, but now I truly believe that the word rape could be taken literally. We should be allowed to approve of who and when we choose to share our bodies with.
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No - it makes you the victim of rape if it was against your will, the fact that it was a couple of seconds is immaterial.
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Indigo, Technically, he's the rapist. I don't think that makes things any clearer for you, though. I think you were going with "I was less drunk and knew more of what I was doing".. but that isn't the case especially if you still feel for the guy. He'd still be taking advantage of your feelings for him. It's normal with any breakup to be ambivalent at times, it doesn't help when you're both under the influence. I think at this point you may want to take a break from hanging with him, especially if he or you have been drinking to sort through how you are going to interact and what you feel for each other. I wouldn't worry about slugging him either if there is a next time, any physical pain to him would be more than balanced out by any trauma he gives to you. If he feels badly for what happened, I think he would agree. {hugs}
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