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  • Downing the guy isnt going to make her feel better anyway. Let her cry and vent and rage. Whatever it is she needs to do just be there for her. Im very sorry for her loss.
  • Believe it or not, ehow.com has some good tips at this link: http://www.ehow.com/how_62_handle-breakup.html You can also find many other sites that can help. Most of them will say things like "Be there for her" "She needs your company now, more than ever" and "Let her do most of the talking, be a good listener". My advice, don't give her advice, or talk about him, but let her talk if she needs, or help her find distractions you can both enjoy.
  • Apparently he told her that thier life together is over. Only they really know the answers why but to be by her side to comfort her I am sure she would appreciate it.If he is gone perhaps take her to her family physician and have her Dr. give her something just to help her out for a while. Drugs are not the answer to all problems but there is medication that will make her feel a lot better about things while time has a way of eventually helping out. She is lucky to have you as a friend.
  • What a tough one this is. I'd suggest focusing on practical things - do stuff. She probably needs to do some grieving for their relationship and that is going to take some time.
  • I've had several friends and aquaintencses go through the "20 year ditch". The is a good book, I think Dr. Sonja Friedman called what every woman should know about love and marriage that discusses in detail. With my firends, it was an announcement that he didn't love her any more, there wasn't anyone else, he's been unhappy for a long time, and would rather be alone than unhappy. In each case, the woman was completely devastated. One couple worked it out, but the other 4 divorced. The place where I might offer advice is that each of the woman who divorced ended up being happier unmarried than they ever were married. When your in the middle of the worst experience of your life, I don't think you would want to listen to anyone who told you everything would be allright. Just be there for them and listen empathetically.

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