Resist temptation.. and if you really cherish your relationship with him you will promise to him that you will NEVER cheat on him again. Build his trust from the scratch.

I am not sure what you're boyfriend means... it sounds a bit controlling - I get he's hurt and doesn't trust you. You need to earn it back and it will take a loooong time. Just be there and be honest and expect a lot of questions and distrust... time will mend if things are mendable. Your ages will be a big factor. (and, I deserve major pointage for "not going there"... cause I REALLY want to - this question is RIPE for mockery... LOL!)

I know you were wrong and that he has the right to feel hurt, but it sounds to me like he is starting to enjoy punishing you. Yes, you do have to make amends and re-gain his trust but this does not include crawling on bloodied knees and begging for forgiveness until the end of time.. If I were you, I would ask him to define 'above & beyond' for you; ask him what he expects you to do (& try hard not to sound pissed off and annoyed when you say it, however difficult). Be prepared for the response of 'You tell me' or 'You should know' - which will mean he doesn't. You have to ask yourself whether or not anything that you do to reconcile with him, will ever be enough to satisfy him. If he wants to repair this relationship and you to make amends, then he must give you the chance to do so, minus the comments. This includes endless discussion about it - tell him he can ask you whatever he likes but after the next conversation you will not discuss it again as it serves no purpose,. Do not let yourself be punished forever more. If you are to move on then you (as a couple) have to agree not to keep bringing up. He has to give you the chance to prove yourself and you must not behave in a way that arouses suspicion, at all. Finally, you would be wise to remember that cheating on him does not mean you are a nasty, bad person. You are still a good, decent person, you just made a poor choice, that's all.

o.k. you cheated, lied, and got caught doing both. Don't ask what's above and beyond, but ask what would he have to do , or how would i feel if it happened? It's bacisally you broke it you fix it. sorry

my boyfriend did what you have done to yours, to me and above and beyond i believe means you need to get your act together he would be feeling like the worst person ever. just like i am. controlling it may seem but i feel the same about my boyfriend he is not trying hard enough to make me feel better and i am trying my hardest to love him like i used too. i can relate to your partner unbelievably and all we want after this situation is to know that we are loved and that you are sorry for what you have done. we are trying to accept the lie and the fact that you wanted to be with another person for however long and we want to know that you want us back and that you love us and that you would take back everything if you could, yeah you can turn around and say it too us but if you dont show us you feel it then whats the point. Above and beyond is not exactly going out of your way but trying more then you would normaly to show us that your sorry!! and i wish my boyfriend could understand this himself. but he just gets offended when i confront him. his problem is not expressing it. he just feels it inside.

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THEN WORDS so show him he means the world to you and that you are actualy sorry. and dont do it if you dont mean it. you dont need to mess with his heart anymore then you have.

above and beyond means not cheating on your boyfriend.