My partner uses me to get our two year old son to behave as in " be good or I will get Daddy!" I think he is starting to see me as a scary figure, she says not to be so stupid, what do you think?
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i don't think it's right for her to do that if you object to it. she would rather be the non-scary parent and turn you into the person who has to enforce everything. she needs to tell your son to be good because it's right, and he is not good then she will punish him. i must say though, i have a two year old son, and they are much harder to punish than you think. i don't think my son understands half the things i tell him. good luck.
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I think that's not fair and she should discipline the child herself if that's what she wants done.
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i think she should start taking some responsibility for the punishment aspect of your guy's relationships with your child or else he will start to see you as being the authority and will not has as much respect for her, or he could become very frightened of you...and form more of a bond with her
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She is afraid to threaten the child's love for her, and has unfairly assigned the dirty work and the ill feelings to you. There is time to correct this. Parents should agree on standards they will enforce, and each should do their share of the discipline.
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While it is good to back your partner up in disciplining the children, it's not good to make one parent do all the actual disciplining. I have a son who just turned 3, and I discipline him by either making sit in time out or he gets a slight slap on the rear. He doesn't always take me seriously, though, so if Daddy is home I call for reinforcement.
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I think you are right.
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If its working, then yes you would begin to seem a scary figure, but if she has to use you like that, it means you arent there, you should help in the discipline =/.
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Think you should both go to parenting classes together. It will help you arrive at an agreed approach.
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I think it is very unfair or her to use you as a weapon against the child. The two of you need to sit and talk about what is appropriate discipline.
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