My best friend never gives in(calls me or talks to me FIRST when we get into fights),even when shes wrong. i always have to be the one to do it. she says she cant. im hurt by it but w/e cause ive already told her.what should i do?
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Two choices: 1/ accept this as a character flaw she has which she will hopefully grow out of someday and remain friends; or 2/ recognize that this character flaw is a selfish one...no such thing as "I can't" - what she means is "I won't" and "I don't have to because you'll do it first" - in which case it is a power play and she is exerting control over you. Do you see that she is playing a dominant/submissive game here? Choose to call her bluff one time..and see how valuable this friendship really is.
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I know how you feel. My bf of 4+ years did the same stuff to me. She always told me it was cause she was always right and never did anything wrong. Being a people pleaser, I went along to avoid more fighting. I have grown since then and this is my advice to you. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. If she is really your best friend, she will do anything not to hurt you and try and make things better. If she continues down the same road, I would evaluate your friendship. I'm no longer best friends anymore with now ex-best friend, but I have realized how un-healthy it was to be the only one trying to fix a friendship. Its a struggle everyday to not go back to her cause I miss her terribly, but the constant abuse I endured stops me everytime. I'm sorry you are dealing with this, but maybe she really isn't your best friend and you will see that.
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well i think we all have some one in our lives that act this way. i am usually the who gives in and calls after a week or so. BUT i started trying something new. don't be so co-dependant. if you don't call her and she never calls you then was there really a friendship to start. she WILL call but it may take her longer than it would you. another thing is are you giving her enough time to miss you? space too apprieciate.
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don't be such a pushover. let her pick up the phone the next time. she will "if" she sincerely cares for you the way you care for her.
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You call this your best friend? She sounds like an enemy to me.
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