I have 3 kids, just recently found out my husband had a year long affair with a foreign girl he travels alot. Since this i have found out he has a 2 year affair with a work colleague, he has since left this job. Do i try and work it out fo
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I'm assuming you were meaning for the kids? I wouldn't want to be with someone who has affairs, personally. I doubt it will stop. If you want to try to work it out, they give it a shot, but he'll have to honestly want to try, too. But, ONLY do it for the sake of your relationship and love....doing it for anyone else, even the kids, won't make anything better.
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A man like this is not the kind of example you want to set for your children. Especially if you have any girls, do you want them to grow up thinking that its ok for a woman to put up with a cheating man? This sort of behavior should NEVER be accepted from a husband. And remember, once a cheater always a cheater. His case is even worse because cheating with one woman wasn't enough, but he had to do it with two. DIVORCE HIM!!! For your sake and for the kids.
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He's going to do it again. I'd seperate and think about counselling (sp?). That's probably not going to do any good, though, to be honest.
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boy, seems like he has a BIG problem with infidelity. Are you willing to accept his infidelities and future infidelities... because you can't police him around everywhere he goes, and this guy doesn't seem to have a problem cheating on everyone. He cheated on you, on the foreign girl, and with his work colleague... so what are you willing to accept or are you willing to pick up the pieces and kick him out the door and start a new life not worrying about who he is cheating on you with now? The ball has always been in your court.
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honey, run as fast as you can and take the kids with you, no,,,better yet tell him to get the hell out.
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Women who stay with men who cheat are the most weak-willed possr-excuse-for-a-woman that there is. When a woman hides behind her religion and tries to act like her marraige is "saved" and "healed" and tries to come up with reasons that she stays with her husband after his affair--she tells the world that she is afraid to be alone, has no self esteem, and is a wimp that likes to be lied to and walked on. It makes you woder if the man had a good reason to step out on her to begin with. If she doens't even respect herself--why should he respect her? I am so sick of hearing the stupid advice columns try to appease wives by saying that they are not at fault for affairs, and that they are good enough and beautiful enough. Not true_-- men are tired of these frumpy min-van moms with stupid peter pan haircuts and flabby arms and asses with no sex drives. So, it is your fault and you need to get your act together in case you get in another relationship.
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children lern from their parents..if you have a bad relationship they will pick that up even if you pretend that you are happy..children know and they will only be unhappy to.i was 11 when my parents divorced and i was actually happy because knowing that they wouldnt fight anymore and they would be happier without each other...yes a divorce will upset your children but in the long run its better for them
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