I always want my bf to give me 100% of his attention, I hope aside from his work, he wants to spend all his free time with me. If he choose to do things himself rather than spending time with me, i feel that he does no love me at all. Man, can u help!
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JaneLee
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That sounds pretty needy to me. My suggestion is to ween yourself from that slowly but surely. Everyone needs time away from each other. Don't you ever want girls night? Also it sounds like you have some trust issues. Maybe you think he'll run off if you let him out of your sight. Trust that he won't and he most likely won't. If you smother him, it most likely will. It also sounds like a little bit of self esteem issue. You think that people need to spend every moment thinking about you or they don't like you. That's a very narcissistic approach on life. I know because I am very narcissistic. Work on your self esteem, remember that he loves you even if he's gone to the bathroom, and that he's not going to run away. Some people are so afraid of something happening that they make it happen. You are so scared he's going to leave that you smother him to death until he leaves! Think about these things. It'll help.
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Personally I think you are going the right way to make him feel very claustrophobic and suffocated. That is not the best way to keep a relationship happy. Everyone needs friends and space, if you do not show him some consideration and trust I think you will lose him. Nobody wants to feel that they are owned body and soul. I am sorry to say I think you sound much to selfish and demanding and will not be happy until you start to consider your boyfriends feelings as well as your own.
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In any relationship each needs to be able to enjoy time doing things they like, without their partner. If you do not allow it, you will soon find yourself totally alone.
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Try to figure out where you got this idea from, that you two should spend just about every waking moment in each other's company. It most probably comes from your early teenage years, when people commonly start falling in love with love and start daydreaming about how wonderful it's all going to be when they find the partner of their dreams. Trouble is, you are only one half of the couple and the other half has different ideas about how they want the 'coupleness' to work. Once you trace and analyse where this romantic ideal came from and compare it to couples you know who are getting along great, you will probably realise that none of them are actually behaving like your ideal. As long as he is not cheating or engaging in criminal activity when he is doing his own thing without you, I would just back off and find things of your own to do without him. As others have said, your behaviour is more likely to make him feel smothered than loved. Good luck!
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This is a classic mistake and all it says is that there is no trust from you. I love my partner but would not comprehend spending 100% of my free time with her, I still want a little bit for me to pursue my interests. This does not mean I will cheat on her, it does mean that there is mutual trust and respect in our relationship (of 19 years). I could not think of a more stifling situation. Take a good look at yourself and realise that if you exhibit this controlling behaviour to somebdy you claim to love, you will smother them. Absolutely guaranteed. When do you spend time with your friends?
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Listen to my warning, please. You're too clingy. You might end up pushing him away.
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Honey if you plan on keeping this man, then you need to loosen the chain a little.
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There is a book called The Five Love Languages that I recommend. It will help you recognize what you perceive as love vs. what others do. If you need his 100% attention and he is willing to give it, maybe you can get away with that in your relationship, but there are other ways to express love besides the currency of time.
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