Why do people make you feel bad for not wanting to go out and party every single weekend? They just get drunk, every weekend the same, probably can't remember most of it. I like going out and having a good time but i hate getting wasted. It annoys me!!!
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bombal
ANSWERS: 13
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get new playmates - some where out there is someone who wants to do all the things you want to do
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I think they try to make you feel bad because they take your not wanting to join them as a personal rejection. They are also probably insecure. They also probably don't understand how they could enjoy something, and another person might not enjoy the same type of thing. (I find a lot of people assume that everyone else is just like them, so when someone says they don't want to do something they themselves want to do, they assume that person is lying or has ulterior motives or something, which makes them lash out at that person in a way.) My advice is try to invite these people to do other activities with you. Or incorporate an activity into the usual evening, preferably one later on, so that you can't just sit around getting wasted. (Like, plan to meet for drinks, and then plan to go to the midnight show at the movie theatre, something like that.) If that doesn't work, you may have to ditch your friends. Don't treat them badly, just try to explain that you don't seem to enjoy the same kinds of activities.
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nobody has the power to make you feel bad - the ownership is all yours :)
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Is it hard to make new friends?
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ignore them, just tell them you can't. Say you can afford it, or your tired of being hung over.
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I totally understand. You just need cooler friends.
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Maybe they do realize how asinine it is, and don't enjoy the idea that you would rather channel your stress away in different, most likely healthier means. It's something they see, and resent that someone may have found a better solution than they have. Not that the emphasis by most to get tanked isn't legit, on the contrary, and you'll never hear them say it, but I'm pretty sure that's why many adopt this weekend ritual. :/
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You should be proud of yourself..don't give in to them. I wish I could be like that, it would be a lot easier on my wallet and liver.
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They want you to be the same as them. You could say your doctor has told you to cut down.
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you say you like to go out so go out and just don't get wasted, I do, I have work, school and a kid and don't want to deal with feeling like crap in the morning so I nurse my two drinks at the club then switch to water and usually get home by 2 the latest and wake up feeling good with money in my pocket, plus I'm sure they will be happy to have a designated driver anyway I still don't go out much, but I live in Atlantic City and everything is overpriced and everyone is always going out regularly...
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You need to find some new friends, who enjoy the same things that you like. :-)
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Nobody can make you feel bad without your permission. You made a stand to not waste your weekend by getting wasted. That's a stand worth standing for. You'll be admired for being your own person.
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'Cause those people probably just want to drag you down with them or something.
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