ANSWERS: 9
  • I'm not sure what you mean by "live down the bad things"... the past is gone, yes? So what remains? Usually, what remains is our own decisions about ourselves and what life is, and some conditioned or habitual ways of thinking about what happened. So the question I have is "who is fighting what"? Where is the "enemy"? Any time we set up our lives as a conflict between ourself and something or somebody, we're asking for suffering. We must make our peace with what is. That doesn't mean not working to make things better, it means not suffering by being in constant opposition to the way things are. Without knowing more about the details, it's hard to provide specific suggestions. But awareness, learning to let go of expectations and righteous attitudes, and a willingness to treat each thing as worthy of your full effort -- are all good tactics.
  • Try being positive and not let the bad things get to you. If you acknowledge how much of an effect something bad is getting to you, then it'll happen more often. Just keep your chin up, have a positive attitude, and just get through bad stuff and start over.
  • I think every negative thought has to be replaced with an empowering thought to grow and improve. Otherwise, you will be eaten alive.
  • That is because people (Like my husband) keep bringing them up evry chance they have. If people didn't bring them up all the time, you would after a well forget all about the bad things that happened in your life.
  • None of us are angels. Accepting we are less than perfect goes a long way toward healing mistakes from our past. Embrace the good and the bad. Find the lessons and walk the path that is uniquely yours.
  • Personally I came to a point that I realized I could not change things that happened and I'd have to start LIVING. This is NOT easy to do. Took me 43 years but I can't waste energy on it anymore. I have my own life to live and I refuse to let someone else define it.
  • I think it's because you know that you messed up, and even when you've tried to coorect it, it doesn't feel like it got totally fixed. Trust me, I have dealt with this feeling many times before... but its an uphill battle everyday! You'll pull through this, just be patient with yourself and focus on how you can prevent yourself from doing the bad stuff again!
  • Leave the past IN the past. All it is now is just a 'picture' in your mind. Don't bring the past into the present, or you miss out on what you're doing now. "Bad memories" have no power over you except what YOU give them.
  • You must begin by forgiving yourself. This is a huge first step which is a critical obstacle to overcome. Only when you can forgive yourself, can you move past what has been. Unlike other commentors, I don't believe that you should leave your mistakes in the past, as they are a reminder to never repeat your previous actions. If you forgive yourself, you will see things for what they were, mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes; our measure is how we rise above them.

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