ANSWERS: 18
  • It depends on the mistake. If it involved other people and the mistake upset them or did something to make an unpleasant change to their situation, then I will beat myself up over it for the longest time. Even if they accept my apology or were never upset in the first place, I always find myself thinking about how badly I messed up. If it involves just me, then I am able to move past it and see it as more of a learning experience. I guess I don't really see it that way with when I mess up around others because I really hate having to be a a downfall for someone to run into and worsen any reputation or impression I had left on them.
  • A long, long time. Some of the mistakes I've made will continue to haunt me for years.
  • Certain ones are minor so they pass quickly. Others I can and do dwell on forever. Some haunt me to this day... I always go "What if I...". It's almost sadistic.
  • I'm a dweller. Sometimes I even remember things that I did as a child and then end up upset at myself all over again! It's crazy!
  • I'm a perfectionist and hold myself to very high standards. I am more than happy to flog myself for ages over past mistakes. The interesting thing is that I give advice to people that is the exact opposite. I tell them to be kind and forgiving to themselves. Say, is there a mascot for masochism?
  • I put them behind and move on, all in one unbroken, fluid move toward the future. :)
  • I dwell for ever I can never just let things go.
  • It depends on the nature of the mistake. Screw up a computation, no big deal. Do something stupid and hurt someone as a result...dwelling on that one.
  • I'm not someone who dwells on my past mistakes for a long and sustained period of time. I do remember them from time to time, then regret them for an hour or two, then I move on again. Usually I feel those moments of regret when I'm not doing anything. That's why I always try to be busy.
  • I tend to dwell on my mistakes and keep beating myself up for making them.
  • I often dwell too much & beat myself up. Feel like I'm the only one to ever ge it wrong! Probably my reactions all in all disproportionate to the actual mistake!
  • i tend to think about them almost obsessively and not able to forget it.
  • i've learned not to dwell on them..mistakes are how you learn
  • Although, I hate admitting it I'm a dweller.
  • I know it's bad. But I dwell. I silently kill myself with guilt. It's not good :'(
  • I'm a dweller, and I beat myself up for mistakes, try not to, but find it hard to change.
  • It depends on how the mistake affect me or others. Ones on myself, unless they are completely stupid, I can say oh well and move on easily. But if they badly affect others, I feel guilty for the longest time.
  • With women, a loooooooong time! ;-)

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