You are much to young to have a baby. Beside you really don't want to be a single parent, which I am sure you would be a good single parent. but wait until you have found a man who will be with you all the time to parent that child. A good age would be 30 then you are not to old nor to young to be a parent. Do you have friends or family member with babies or young children that you can sometimes babysit to see how it is to care for a child 24/7?

i dont think that i will end up being a single parent. i love with my bf and his family and he has told me that we will get married and i know that he will be here for me no matter what.

I was told that there is never a right time to have a baby, so just go ahead and have one anyway and things will work out because you want them to. That might have been true in the 50s when life was sweeter, but don't believe it today. You need preparations: medical insurance, life insurance, steady employment for you and your husband, a stable marriage, family support, safe home environment, furnishings, reliable transportation, knowledge of child-rearing, contacts for emergency situations, ... Don't even think about having the baby until all the related conditions are satisfactory. But when they are, then you can proceed with confidence that you have brought another soul into this world and given it the blessing of mortal life. This is why we're here.

wow thanks for all that. i guess im really not ready for a baby. the thought is good but in ral life its probably not the best idea. i will have to work on all that you just told me. thanks :)

u what im 23yrs old and i want a baby too i think all the time that its not a good idea oh i havent foud the right person or that guy just wanted to screw or just have a boring gf life u know what just do it if u have someone u care about go ahead cuz i know that once u have it u will so happy good luck

Only you really know whether you're ready for a child. Examine your capacity and desires. Do you want a baby because you want love or because you're ready to sacrifice all your time and energy to another living thing? Do you feel you're equipped with the knowledge and experience you'd like to pass on to a child? Are you ready to spend the next twenty years of your life giving up time, friends, opportunities and personal luxuries for a child? If your answers to these questions satisfy you, then you may well be ready to bring a child into the world. Keep in mind that raising a child through the age of 17 will cost about $180,000...after all your other living expenses. If you decide to have a child, good luck in your efforts.

WELL GIRL IM MARCOS AND IM 20. MY GF JUST HAD MY BABY, IF I WAS U I WOULD HOLD ON THE BABY DREAM. BECAUSE IS REALLY HARD. WHEN THE WOMAN IS PREGNET IS NOT HARD AT ALL. THE HARDEST PART COMES IN WHEN ITS THE DELIVERY TIME AND WHEN THE BABYS CRYS BECAUSE HE/SHE WANT TO EAT OR THERE DIRTY. TRUST ME GIRL HOLD ON.

If i was you i would wait till you are married that way you have a partner to help you raise the child. I understand your case because you probally really like kids and are stable with your life and feel ready. You probally are also really mature and ready for a child. its in the best interest of the child to grow up with two parents raising them. i would say wait a few years continue your job save money and see.

well i admire you pasion for a baby but if you have a good boyfriend/husband you should go for it

Diaper changing. Interrupted sleep 2 a.m. feedings babysitting costs colic crying trips to the ER in the middle of the night to find out it's 'gas' No life outside the baby finding a guy that wants some other guy's kid. Weight gain stretch marks.

Personal perspective here, but at 19, you are spelling "because" as "cuz", there may be some self learning time before you are ready for a child. Just because you want a baby, does not mean that you are ready to commit the rest of your life to bringing another human into this world.

NOO!!!!!!!! Dont' do it... having a child changes your ENTIRE LIFE!!! WHY do you want a baby? Just because you "have a job" doesn't mean you are entirely ready to raise a child... think of the reasons WHY you want a child.. are you lonely?? Bored? In a relationship that you want to keep? And what will happen to the father>>> does HE want a child too??? Try doing something new like a hobby, take a class, join a group, do SOMETHING ELSE> I can relate, I am 26 and have been where you are, wanting to get pregnant, but I am soooooo glad I waited.... GOod luck

Yay for your honesty. But remember, you won't want to be working when you're preggers (depending on how much it affects you, of course) plus what's the point of having a baby if you're always working and don't have time (or ENERGY) to look after it? I usually say you need a hubby (too easy for boyfriends to run away at the drop of a hat) and he needs a well paid job so yous can all survive with no financial stress (biggest cause of divorce you know, despite all that "money can't buy love" crap that the sheep keep bleating about.) Besides, what's the point of bringing another slave into this world? Checked out the price of houses recently? Ever done a fantasy budget? Or even a real budget? The fact is, if you do things sensibly then chances are you'll never have a baby. 1. You definitely need a hubby. Sure you can live without one, but several people on this planet live without limbs too and I can't say that's a good idea. 2. You need to find religion. Sorry. I try so hard to keep religion out of it but in this case, the way I see it, the real world doesn't add up so you need all the help you can get. I'll make it as simple as I can for you: Forget EVERYTHING you know about religion. There's too much out there to confuse, worry and stress you. Just believe that there is a God out there and that he loves you. He made you desperate to have babies so he must be providing the means. Ask him to provide you with a GOOD husband and to protect you and your family. Sorry again, I'd rather give a 'better' answer (so much for my 'faith', eh?) but as far as I can see, trying to bring up a family doesn't add up (yes I know there are millions out there proving me wrong but they do seem to work way too hard ...) Financially, 30-35 years old is probably a better time to have a baby but biologically 19 is probably better. No one seems interested in addressing this problem. Sorry I can't be of more help. Good luck.

Me and my fiance spent around 20,000$ on our son the first year and still living in the lower income bracket. Its really tough and changes absolutely EVERYTHING! But having my son did change me and my fiance for the better, though I could of never done it without him.

Let me move in with you. I promise to act like a baby, only thinking of me. I'll cry when I'm thirsty or hungry, cry when I need to change clothes, wake you up at night, and shower you with affectionate kisses when you treat me nice. Then I'll throw up on you.

I'm 22 and can really identify with your dilemma. About 2 years ago I fell pregnant by accident - having never wanted kids, the thought terrified me. However, I miscarried at 4 months, just when I was starting to get used to the idea of being a mother, and ever since it's all I want to have a child. However, I'm still in university, and I'm well aware that I have many years ahead of me in which to have children, when I'm better off financially and emotionally. Trust me hun, I know how you're feeling. But on average, you have roughly 35 years left during which you can have kids. Enjoy being a teenager while you can, wait for the mythical 'Mr Right', rather than sleeping with 'Mr Oh-So-Terribly-Wrong' with the sole purpose of getting pregnant - look at the guy you are trying to get pregnant with, and take a long hard look. Can you picture him changing a screaing baby with diarrhoea when you're both exhausted? Or waiting at school gates in the rain? Or not complaining when, yet again, he can't go out with his friends because you can't get a sitter? If the answer to all these is yes, then go for it (and let the rest of us know where on earth you found this angel) Whatever decision you take, always remember that it is YOUR decision, and not a child's. Too many parents who weren't ready forget this, and blame their children for their lost youth.

OK you want the baby, so surely it can't be such a bad idea to have one?

Turn 21 see what fun it is to go all the time and then decide if you want to give that up. Do you like buying new clothes, makeup, shoes like most 19 year olds.

I had my child at 19 and I'm having a hard time. I'm in the military and I don't even have to pay for half the stuff you will have to pay in the civilin world. Wait until you have a considerable amount of money saved up, and it helps to have a spouse as well. Listen to yourself. What is your heart telling you?

is your job guarenteed for the next twenty years,did you for even a week to take care of a baby 24 hrs aday and see whats involved,the responsabilitys,hey you like to party,cant do it no more,you have a baby,mid night babys crying get up and take care of him,3.00 am babys crying get up and take of him,5,00 am babys crying get up and change his or hers diaper and probally hungs again,7.00 am trying to get dressed to go to work ,the babys crying got to stop to take care of him,oh shucks late for work,to many times no more job,hey i had to take care of my baby,or the babys sick had to bring hin to the doctor had to miss work to many times of this no more job youre not dependable as for as they are concerned,to you the baby comes first, what i am trying to tell you is you will get a lot of different answers to the question what i just said is true and happens but if you want the right answer pray on it and get the answer from god his is the best good luck by the way babies are a beautiful gift from god so let god answer you on yours

I feel the same way and im 22. at first i thought it was because everyone was having one family , friends, famous people... but hey.. forget everone else. if your ready and you feel you can give that baby the world then go for it.. but if you have a single doubt i'd wait.. you dont get second chances with kids . .

sounds like you already have...

I'm 21 years old, my husband and I just got married 4 months ago, I found out I was 4 weeks pregnant 4 weeks ago... we're not ready for a baby and we're having to find more jobs to work so we can afford it. If I was 19 I wouldn't want a baby yet... you need to convince yourself you don't "need" a baby right now. Wait for that special someone to share your "need" and "want" for a baby with... someone you can spend the rest of your life with and be happy to watch it grow!

Also what if the child has disabilities or is born with complications? It's reality. My granddaughter is autistic. She looked perfect in her ultrasound photo. Children are a lot of work but worth it. There is nothing that compares to it.Remember, your a mom for life. You will know when you are ready and will not even need to ask. I am raising my two young granddaughters and of course hire an occasional sitter. She is 17 and said " how do you do it? the girls are 4 and 6. The oldest severely autistic.

Your only 19 you should be out parting and traveling and enjoying life cos once a kid comes along all that is no more for a very very long time

I would put it off for a few more years, and you didnt mention a boyfriend or husband. It will be even harder going at it alone. I am 26 and would love to be a 19 year old with no cares in the world. But I'm not, I have 4 children. I love them with all my heart and they are my world, but I missed out on a whole lot because I had all of them so young. (had my first at 16) So yeah I would wait.

I am 19, and I AM NOT A CHILD. I got kicked out at 18 and now I have a job,apartment and pay my own way. I have thought about having a baby before and i still do, I want to say that everything will work out but I cant. I love to party every other night, club, shop for fun stuff and go on wild vacations 18+. Partying and being a nineteen year old is fun but it leaves only enough money for rent and bills. I love babies, I want one real bad, I can't wait to have one. I love thinking about it, now I have to think about reality, and my future. I want my baby to have the best possible future, good schools, trendiest outfits and and the best chance at leading a successful life. I don't even think that my man would be able to help much and i have no family to turn to, so I think I will wait until I have mature maternal instincts before bringing a helpless child into my world. Your circumstances may be different but I know that at nineteen, I enjoy going out, partying, and living it up before I fully grow up. Best of luck to you in your decision making, just don't get yourself into more than you can handle.

If you find a good husband and want to be a supportive house wife it might be a terrific idea! I want a dozen and that can't happen if you start at 40.

Why do you want to have a baby? Can you support him/her? I have 3 kids & i'm 33, it's hard for me & i'm married! Make sure you know "why" you are doing this! Don't be selfish, a child is 24/7, forget going out with your friends, & day care is very exspensive! I stay home with my children everyday, ....It's very hard being a mother...I don't think anyone is ready at the age of 19!

I think it already shows maturity that you are able to think it might not be a good time for a baby right now. Now just take the full step and hold off until it would be a good time. In the mean time, there's so much fun planning to do! Well, I think planning is fun anyway, especially when it's for something you really want. That way, when you are finally ready to have a baby, you can be the very best mother possible. Also, you won't ever look back and regret your decision. One way to plan is to increase your knowledge. There are so many different kinds of pregnancy books out there that take a different approach -- some are very medical, some are more naturalistic, some are spiritual. They all have some benefit to them, and if you read a wide variety, you will have a more thorough understanding. Do the same thing with child care. Read medical/first-aid manuals. Read psychological manuals. Read Early Childhood Education texts. Read "problem child" books -- even if you don't have one, the information can come in handy when relating with your childrens' friends (and friends' parents). This doesn't have to cost anything: your local public library should be stocked full of this kind of stuff. You can also browse baby stores. Not only will you learn about where the best deals and products are, but you can treat yourself every once in a while with an object you fall in love with -- the cutest onesie ever, etc. Are there good second-hand stores with a focus on children? Find them! What about the best places to bring your kids in your city? Find them! You can also start saving money. If you have a lot of money coming in, you can put it into different savings accounts -- one for pregnancy leave, one for a future education fund or something, etc. Where will you want to live when you have a baby? What size apartment, what area of town? These are things to consider and look into now. Have fun!

I'm 18 and just had my baby girl in February. I had a hard time doing the things I wanted and putting a child first in my life wasn't a concerned when I was pregnant but pregnancy is way different than being a mother. Since I'm still going to school I was overwelmed. Like some people have said there is never a right time to have a baby, and its true and all but a baby can make you realize reality and manage your time and focus on important things. I never will regret having my baby girl she made me the happiest ever. My mom wasn't all that happy with my important news but she knew that abortion wasn't an option, I'm against abortion but that's beside the point. All I'm trying to say is when your ready you will have a perfect life for your child even before he/she is born. You will mature during pregnancy, and your state of mind won't be focused on if you want a baby it will be focused on your child's life. You will be ready when you are only pregnant yourself.

A baby is a HUGE financial expense and, as the 1st commentator said, if you have a baby off some random guy, other men are less likely to want to date you in the future. Men have a very strong instinct against taking care of other's children. Don't do this to yourself. You're so young, don't do it.