leave him now. go to a shelter or seek professional guidance, but leave. talk to someone you trust, like a family member or friend and ask them to help you. YOU NEED TO LEAVE NOW. its been too long but it isn´t too late. good luck and sending you strength.

Thats what they do they make you believe you are nothing without them. Run and fast, your children will be confused butin the long run it will save them emotionally. Thats how you can leave think of your children, go to family, friends anywhere but with him...

Mr Dude....you're up! http://www.answerbag.com/profile/?id=170491 Explain to this woman how she should continue to be abused for the sake of an abstract institution. Explain to her how God wants her (and her children) to suffer physical, mental and emotional damage that may (and probably will) last her whole life. Explain to this woman how she is being selfish and immoral for wanting to actually live a life free of abuse. Ms. Baby --- find a battered womens' shelter in your area. Bring your kids with you if you can. They should have the resources to help you find your inner strength and knowledge that you'll need to take the necessary steps for reclaiming your life. Good luck.

You just pick up and leave. Take the kids and the money and just go to a friends house or even a shelter. ANywehre is better than staying put.

Quit worrying about the unknown and just leave, you'll figure something out. I grew up in the same situation and I absolutely despised my mother for the longest time because she was too weak to do anything for me or herself. It took me a long time to even remotely get over the damage that caused and my mother is still with the douchbag and he treats her the same. I get a sick feeling in my stomach every time I look at her and see she's too weak to stand up for herself, but it's out of my hands now, I've tried. think about the kids and what they see and hear.

Reflect on all the positive things in your life and things that you DO take care of alone...you wake up every morning and dress yourself...you brush your teeth and take care of your children...you kiss them goodnight and I'm sure there are a million other things. The point is, make a mental list of things that you CAN do and KNOW you can do - even trivial things - and use that as a reference to remind yourself that you don't need a man for everything. You don't need a man for anything. You are a strong, intelligent, attractive woman who deserves nothing but the best life has to offer, and allowing someone to tear down you down on any level is NOT okay. Think about this: Most kids take what they see in their parent's relationships and apply it to their own, and generally go on to have the same types of relationships that they see growing up (not in every case, but in a lot that I've seen). Do you want your little boy or girl growing up thinking that women should be treated in that way? You need to get out of the situation as soon as you can safely remove yourself and your children. There are shelters in every city, help lines, and churches (regardless of your faith, they generally welcome all). Look into your options and remember that you ARE strong.

when he goes to work pack get the kids some money whatever and get away from that fucking bastard as soon as possible he's probably a big frickin ass so goto ur mothers for while but make sure to lay low for a while

The how is not as important as the when. The answer to the later is immediately; the former, any way you can.

You CAN make it on your own. Seek help from family members. If you don't have that type of support, contact your nearest police station and have them give you the numbers you need for support. If none of those options are the route you wanna go, try the internet and look up your own information. Once you have children it's no longer about you alone. Don't let your life ruin your children's lives because you are ultimately responsible for their well being, physically as well as mentally. Seriously.

There are so many good ideas here on leaving this man. Find and make a plan to LEAVE - I did it. It was the best thing I've ever done for me and my children. I know it's hard, I suffered and stayed for way longer than I needed to and things just got worse every year that went by. I was weak and afraid for so many years and now I'm once again a confident and proud woman. I too NEVER thought that I could make it on my own with my kids. I'm living proof that it CAN be done. NO ONE DESERVES TO BE TREATED WITH ANY KIND OF ABUSE.

I know this may sound naive, but there ARE MANY women's programs that are available to help you get out of these types of situations. Many times, they will assist in getting you a job (if you don;t have one), help you pay rent, provide you and your children with clothes and food if you need. Of course these are all practical issues, the harder part is the emotional issue of actually walking out the door. That, you must decide to do on your own. Just think, "If I don't like it, I am going to change it." Take yourself and your kids and leave. Don't look back, and DON'T have any contact with him other then sending him paperwork for child support. Good luck- have faith in yourself, you are stronger than you think-I promise

I know this may sound naive, but there ARE MANY women's programs that are available to help you get out of these types of situations. Many times, they will assist in getting you a job (if you don;t have one), help you pay rent, provide you and your children with clothes and food if you need. Of course these are all practical issues, the harder part is the emotional issue of actually walking out the door. That, you must decide to do on your own. Just think, "If I don't like it, I am going to change it." Take yourself and your kids and leave. Don't look back, and DON'T have any contact with him other then sending him paperwork for child support. Good luck- have faith in yourself, you are stronger than you think-I promise

Pack up any medications you or your children need. Pack any paperwork you need to access your bank accounts, remove credit cards that have YOUR name on them..including the ones you have as a couple, if you do. Pack other paperwork such as your SS card and those of your children, birth certificates and such. Take your address book as well. Pack at least a change of clothing for each of you and something the kids can sleep in. If you have the time and space...take more clothes. Soap, Shampoo, BO Juice. If YOU have money in the bank, remove it. Do not clean HIM out, if you've been the homemaker and he works, only take half. If you work too....take ALL of YOURS. Savings and Checking (You might want to get it in Travelers Checks and not all cash if there is a lot, or stop along the way and open a new account at a DIFFERENT BANK, use a trusted friend's address or a trusted relative. LEAVE. You are a MOM...there is not anything you cannot help but be successful at doing...once you make up your mind...this leaving...is a walk through PUDDING! You've put up with a huge pile of crap for six years. This is going to be a slice of heaven not to have to listen to his big fat LYING sob story. When you leave, you either go to a friend's house that you've made arrangements with, OR if you are afraid he'll cause trouble...DO GO TO A WOMEN'S SHELTER. You can look them up on line for your town or city and call them ahead of time, get directions. Pack a snack for the kids and one for you and don't forget to grab a couple of favorite toys, at least one, so the kids have something to do. Get out...You know he's a lier, WE know he's a lier, and we don't even know HIM..but WE all know how BULLIES work...THEY LIE. Just think...what does this guy weigh? THAT'S HOW MUCH "FAT" YOU WILL LOOSE THE MOMENT YOU TURN THE KEY AND START THE CAR..to drive AWAY. I lost 325 pounds of ugly "fat" 7 1/2 years ago when I left MY abusive partner...(never gained it back either!) It was the BEST DIET I've ever imagined! (My blood pressure returned to NORMAL TOO and never went above normal since!) YOU CAN DO THIS....you've already decided you are not HAPPY and you are supposed to be happy...that's part of the plan...so now you know you want to leave...just do it...you will be better than fine VERY SOON after you get out!

save your money, and move in with a roommate if you have to...divorce is better than abuse...

There's always a way. Talk to friends, find it. Get out

Think about it! Do you really want your children to see this or hear it? You need to be strong and get out of there for you and your children! Do you want your kids to think that this is ok and live this kind of life when they are older and in realtionships?!

thats exactly where he wants you. he wants you to think u can do no better and he wants u to feel trapped. get some help from your family and leave!! trust me once you commit and get the nerve to do it and stay gone you will be so much happier!!!!!! and your children will be too

Get your children and leave. Get help from friends, relatives, and other people. You'll feel that wonderful freedom when your away from him.

get help..contact a women's center or crisis center for more information..you MUST get away from him..abusive relationships tend to get worse over time..You can do this but I'd suggest you have a well thought out plan first.

pack your and the kids bags ...open the front door and you and the kids walk....no brainer !....get on the phone and find a women's help line and get info as to where you can go in your area... then see a lawyer and start divorce proceedings and take the scum for every penny(and house) that you can ...he deserves no sympathy at all for what he has done .... be strong and go through with it ... you know you have to .. don't you for your and your kids happiness

Have a plan. Don't weaken while you're getting your plan together. Keep telling yourself that you deserve much better, because you do!

theres always a way out!my mum lived with my father in a "marriage" for the "sake of us,her 5 children",she suffered so we could grow up in a complete family,she said to me once..but at the end,she finaly found the strenght to walk away from all that verbal and mental abuse(physical was not involved so often)..now shes the strongest person i know! and plz dont call that a "relation"!!! u live in a zoo with an animal that u dont need to feed anymore!maybe u depend on his money,or a place to stay,but this doesnt excuse u from doing the best for You and Your kids!the abuse doesnt end at You,im more than sure,Your lil angels feel the same u do..if u were strong enough to ask for help,u made the first step!the next one will folow,but u have to do it!there is lot more out there that u will enjoy at the end..but one very important question:do u any feelings for him,whoever he is? i hope u find the strenght to do what is the best for all of You,wishing u good luck and sending u my warmest hug :)

You call a local Domestic Violence organization who will assist you with your starting over with out the abuser! We have a place called Unity House in our area. Make the phone calls, start making a secret plan to escape. The origanizations will be there to help you! You can do it! The door opens and you and the children can walk out and never never return! Get out before it is too late!

Seek the advice of an attorney be strong and just leave that is all you can do being scared is not going to help matters any when you want to go just get a officer of the law to be there at your house and see you out of there safe. Get an order from the courts to keep him away and protect yourself and those kids if he tries to danger you. No woman should have to put up with abusive men or cheating men there are some good men left out there..THe only reason woman stay in those relationships is because they want to..