I saw my friend's boyfriend hit her and broke her nose..then I jumped in and beat the boyfriend up.. was I wrong for this?
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Freaky_Chick
ANSWERS: 100
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I would have done the exact same thing, I don't know if it was right, but I know that I would have done it.
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Nope. If I'd have been there, I'd have done it. (I've seen it happen to a complete stranger and although I never resort to violence, I decked the guy. The situation obviously calls for action in this case.)
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I'm not a fan of violence, but there are times where it is justified. I'm not condoning what you did, but . . did you break HIS nose?
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You have truly earned the title "Freaky Chick". Any man who would beat up a woman and break her nose deserves to have the smack put down on him by another woman.
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I also do not condone violence, but there are some men (those who beat on women) who don't understand anything but a good old-fashioned ass-whooping!! You GO, Girl!! Now help your friend take the next step and END this relationship immediately!!
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I don't think it was wrong. Hell, I probably would have done the same. Of course, I barely even need an excuse to beat the crap out of someone, but in this case I think you're clear.
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I think you are brave. You probably should have called the police and then went ahead and protected her like you did. I wish I could hear his story to his friends how he got beat up. Good job.
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He deserved much worse so why not?
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You should have kicked his ass and then called the cops citing that he tried to attack both of you and you were able to defend the both of you.
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Violence is never the solution, however in this case, I would've done the same and a kick in the balls for good measure. Then I'd drive the friend to a hospital.
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I would have done the same thing in that situation, but in retrospect, violence doesn't solve anything. I think calling the cops and getting him away from her is the priority. Good for you for standing up for the girl. No offense, but your 'friend' is a bastard. I think you just need to get them separated, or at least, there's gotta be a way to press charges. Or convince her to do it. :( Good luck. Situations like that are always heartbreaking.
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no you weren't. you were protecting your friend from a big bully who likes to knock his girlfriend around. He deserved everything that came to him. you are a good friend to have.
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Not wrong at all. It seems like a pretty normal reaction to having seen someone break his girlfriend's nose.
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I am not condoning violence, but in this case, you are my hero. i assume you only used enough force to retrain the bully.
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I don't advocate violence, but in this situation you did the right thing. You know the first thing is the broken nose, next time it could escalate and you could end up losing your friend, so kudos to you for stepping in. I'd suggest your friend do something to end the relationship NOW. Also on another note, violence is primal and it is human, you'll never be able to completely get rid of it.
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Good Job:)
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No you weren't wrong! I commend you for jumping in and protecting your friend :)
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Technically, YES, it was wrong. ATTACKING anyone for any reason is always wrong. The guy that hit the girl was also in the wrong. Stopping the nose hit in mid strike (so he does not touch her nose), using a very destructive, single move, defense, that breaks a wrist AND elbow, then calling the cops (let the cops call the ambulance AFTER they arrive) and charging the guy with assult ... would be well within the law and not wrong at all. If you allow the guy to punch her nose, then all you can legally do is call the cops ... striking back, after the fact, make you just as guilty of assult ... interupting his attack is the way to go ...
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Oh now I would have lost my cool with that one. I am assuming you could not stop the blow. I fear I would have lost my cool and thumped on him. then taken my friend to the hospital. Unfortunately, both you and the boyfriend can go to jail. Him for assault and battery on her, you for assault and battery on him. I hope it does not go that far.
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After you beat him up, did you let her get a few kicks in... preferably in the face? Hopefully, HE IS NO LONGER HER BOYFRIEND!!
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I don't think you were, the law may look at it differently. I would commend anyone for sticking up for someone who was being bullied.
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you did the pefectt thing :) she broke up wit him rightt?
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Morally, you did the right thing in defending her. The only problem would be that he could sue you for assault. I hope you and she reported this incident to the police and your friend has taken out an AVO against him. She needs counselling as to why she stayed in a clearly abusive relationship (this would not have been the first time he had hit her, I am sure). Make sure she gets that counselling, or she will keep finding these worms.
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Hell no! My hat is off to you for protecting the innocent. And since you're female, the bully will be less inclined still to see women as weak, so double kudos there.
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I would have help fighting him also and i think you should tell your friiend to break up with him because if he does that infront of you imagine what he will do behind closed door.
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If this was the only way possible to protect your friend, you had no choice. The problem here is that violence breeds violence,and violence is probably what this guy thrives on. A call to the police might have been the best first step. What you risk in beating on the boyfriend is that he will transfer the anger and blame to his girlfriend, which perpetuates the cycle of violence. Now that the immediate danger is controlled, your best role is as a friend and advocate for your friend so she realizes she deserves to be treated better and that no one deserves to be physically abused.
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I don't think so!
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Well you did good.I am proud.
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That'll learn him!
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I'd like to say good for you, but that was assault that you commited. Anyways, I probibly would've done the same thing...are her parents going to do anything, like report him?
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I would have done the same thing.
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i totally agree with you. I would've helped ya! ;)
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To put it short and simply: Fuck no.
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No, I don't think so! You did what most of us would have, given the situation. Why do men STILL hit women? Is it because that's the only people they can "whup", (tho', obviously NOT, in your case, LoL), or what? I don't get it!
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Yeah. Not smart. I bet she went back to him and I bet she got beaten up even worse then she would have had you not stepped in. In situations like that, you really have to make sure she is completely away from him before you beat him up.
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I used to step into abusive situations when I would see either party being physically assaulted, but I have learned that it causes you more problems than it would help them! People who stay in these types of relationships have a deep inner need for this abuser and they will not leave this person until they are damn ready to...no one will ever make that decision for them. I think that what you done was courageous and very respectful... but, I am almost certain that this lady is back with the abuser right this minute.
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no not at all. whats right is right and whats wrong is wrong! I"ve been there. GOOD DO!
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what else were you expected to do? you reacted under a very traumatic event and in my eyes quite correctly. i hope your friend is far away from that guy.
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Good for you!!
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no,I'd say that she's lucky to have a friend like you.
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No! you were defending your friend and your friends boyfriend probable had it coming :)
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NO!! And i would get your friend out of this relationship, there is absolutely no reason to break a woman's nose, my ex broke mine and all i did was say hi to a friend of mine... sometimes when you are the one being abused you feel like you deserve it, but sit her down and see if she will listen to reason, if not take her to an abused woman clinic and show her what could happen over time.. I hope she is not still with the guy.. You did the right thing.. Good luck!
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That is funnier than all get out. I think it's perfect.
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I think that you may have over reacted a little, but i may have done the same. I don't think that i could have watched my friend get beat. I don't think it was wrong but it was not the worst thing, i can't blame you.
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Good call. Did you kick the f**ker a few times too?
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Id a given the kid a butt kickin he'd never forget. So no, you did nothing wrong.
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Way to go!! Lets hope she learns soon, incase your not there. Thumbs up from me!!!
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H#LL NO! I hope you beat the living h#ll outta that sorry piece of sh!t!
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you hurt someone for hurting someone .. doesn't really make much sense to me .. it could have been handled differently .. but it's your perogative
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Edited Absolutely NOT
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ABSOLUTELY NOT! If you hadn't stepped in she could've been in so much worse condition. Violence is never the answer but you had a very good reason. Who knows what might've happened if you weren't there? She could've died for all you know. Thank goodness she has a friend like you. You should seriously talk to her about this guy because I am pretty sure she doesn't want to get pushed around by him. You should call the police about him. Good luck to you and your friend!
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you kidding!!!! of course not!... you should have broken his nose...
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NOWAY! You completely did the right thing. Your friend could have been hurt more. I'm actually jealous to say, I would never have the courage do that. And I'm glad someone in this world does.
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Im just glad she had a friend like you to be there for her. If he was so angry that he broke her nose theres no telling what else he may have been angry enough to do. And i would have done the same thing.
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No sir, you were a CHAMP!!! And the best friend anyone could ever have. Female hitters are sorry cowards who don't have the juevos to hit men!!! Way to go Mr. Chivalry!!! She should dump him for you or another just like you. The Doctor
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no he was beating up ur friend.good job!!!!
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No, and you should have called the police and explained that the boyfriend fell while trying to escape when you caught him attacking your friend.
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Yes, you were wrong. You should have just shot him and saved the poor woman who marries him/his poor future children lifetimes of agony.
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Hell no you weren't wrong...you did the right thing. Maybe next time he'll think twice before he does something so ignorant...if not, hopefully there's someone like you around to offer correction to his way of thinking, so to speak.
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Hell no!! you did a great deed my friend...=)
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IF YOU FEEL GUILTY THEN YOU ARE IF YOU DONT THEN YOU ARENT. SO DO THINK KNOW THAT YOU DONE THE RIGHT THING IN PROTEDTING HER OR WAS IT YOU ALSO HAVE AN ATTRACTION FOR HER AND YOU WOOOED HER BY HER DEFENSE THROURG YOU
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Nope I think you did the right thing.
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Nope you were there in time of need.....And that what FRIENDS are for..........Plus 5
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I saY you did the right thing... But She probably should have done that, I would have felt weak if someone did my battles
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Yes. You sank to his level. Enough that you jumped in to stop any more injury...then your best bet would have been to call 911 right away. Learn from this experience. Your heart is in the right place.
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I would have done the same thing... wether it was wrong? I don't know.. but I sure as hell wouldn't regret it.
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You were ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. I commend you for your courage. I only wish I'd had that kind of courage five years ago. Could you spare some? I could really use it now as much as I needed it then. Let's be clear. I did eventually get out of that relationship, but not before a miscarriage and world war 3. I'm now married with a beautiful daughter and couldn't be happier, but I had no support to get out of that at the time. And before I was married I was in a couple more abusive relationships, but thankfully none of those after the miscarriage were physical. But they were equally abusive in a different form. Emotional and verbal. Now I have a hubby who loves me without abusing me. Now I feel like the luckiest girl in the world.
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Nope. Only thing wrong with this is that the police didn't come to arrest his butt!!!
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no, i wish i had friends like you when i was in an abusive relationship, they just stood and watched him do it.
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I think not. He needed to be taught that you can't beat someone up just because you can. And I'm hoping you knocked some sense in his dumb ass.
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you werent wrong at all. that is good seeing as you were sticking up for your friend.
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You beat up a guy? Wow! Will you be my friend?
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I would say you taught him a good lesson that not all women are as stupid as your best friend. But in the end it would have been better if you stay out of it after all there's a good chance that they would get back together and pretend nothing happened and your best friend can dislike you for what you did.
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Maybe you are a bit overacting because she might not wants u 2 be involved in her affair but it is a courageous act. I admire your friendship and caring for friend. Let her judge u herself but u shouldn't be ashamed of your act.
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Hell no. You did as any real friend would. If he still has both nuts, you failed us all, though.
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No you were not wrong for doing this..You were protecting your friend. I hope she broke up with the jerk.He is only going to get worse.Take it from a female who was abused by her exboyfriend and ex husband
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Nope.. I would have killed that jerk! I have a blackbelt in AIKIDO, and one punch to the right place would have killed that sick in the head.
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Not saying you are wrong cuz i would have beat his ass too.. but you have to think of it like this. How would you feel if she went back to him after that happened? PRetty pissed right? i had a friend who's boyfriend use to tear into her ass. And me and him fought too then she would run back with the whole he says he sorry he loves me shit and now she is dead because of him. dont let that happen to your friend. Tell the police or tell her to tell them because if somethin ever seriously wrong happens he will be on record. Trust i wish i would have done that along time ago. hope that helps
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If you are asking if you were morally wrong the answer is No, you weren't wrong. Any man who hits a woman needs to be shown that he is a coward for hitting a woman. What you did even intensified the fact that the man is a coward. It is time that people stand up to idiots like him, rather than just walking away and shaking their heads in disgust.
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yea i would've stepped in too. u did the right thing.
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I would say yes just because she can now direct her anger and confusion towards you. Since he is abusive to her and she hasn't left yet, your actions might make her cling to the lies she has told herself to stay in it. You also might have lost your friendship with her or at least burned some bridges. Sadly, she is the only one who can convince herself the truth of the relationship. One of my best friends (who i don't talk to any longer) is marrying and is currently pregnant with an abusive boyfriend. None of my late night talks with her convinced her and she clung to her lies that he would change or that it was her fault. Good luck trying to stay by her side and hopefully she will see the light!
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No. Not wrong. But not wise. For all the reasons that Desiderata has said. You may think you know the depth of their relationship, but trust me, you do not. If she sees him as "her man," she will resent you, and your friendship will be in the toilet. Ask any cop about interfering in a domestic quarrel. The man may have broken the woman's nose, knees, and ribs; but lay a hand on him and she will stomp you to a jelly. If you can get her away from him for more than a few minutes, she may come to her senses and listen to reason. But don't expect it. If you can't get her to leave him, see if you can get counselling for her. If she's young enough, her parents might be able to prevent her seeing him; but again don't expect it. Failing all that, kidnap her and tie her up in your basement. [ADDED] And call the cops on him. Do that anyway, no matter what. Assault is a crime.
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..morally hell no..legally..unfortunately yes..
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It wouldn't even matter to me if I knew the couple or not. If I saw a girl getting beat up by her boyfriend(or any guy for that matter). I'd step in no matter what. Good for you, for having such courage to intervene!
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Not in the least.
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Not promoting violence but it should be used as a last resort to protect the ones you care about. Good 4 you. I would've done the same.
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Bravo.....
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No, obviously not. But you got a lot of AB points out of the deal!
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Im surprised that asshole did that right in front of you! Really in my experience The friend gets back with the boyfriend so I dont act out. HOWEVER I was with a man who started getting abusive I damn near ran his stupid ass over with my car! I dont kick it with girls in relationships like that cuz they are bad news. I end up getting all caught up and they stay with the asshole and defend him. One girl bailed him out of jail!
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nope! i wulda done the SAME thing
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nope
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yes, you were v wrong. It is not your realisinship and the man is right! I LOVE STRONG MEN there soo sexy!
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u did the best and most right thing u could in the situation u were in. ur a great person for helping ur friend and tht guy got wat he deserved. KARMA! what goes around comes around
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Although I totally admire your bravery and willingness to help your friend, as a victim of spousal abuse myself, I have to urge anyone who wants to confront an abuser to be very cautious and aware of the possible consequences of your good intentions. Since most abuse originates from the abuser's lack of self-esteem, even if he seems to back down, that kind of public humiliation could very well result in a good pummeling for the victim as soon as they are alone, or possibly a plot for retaliation against you. Your intervention could also cause your friend to turn on you, because victims of long-term abuse suffer severe psychological damage, including a skewed perspective in which the abuser is elevated as the only one who cares enough to help her become a better person by punishing her "bad behavior". In most situations, as long as the victim's life is not in immediate danger, of course, the best response would be an anonymous call to the police, or a private, heartfelt offer of support and help to the victim.
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You go girl . But yeah thats a sticky situation . but you only did what you thought was right at the time of the incedent. She has to make the decision to leave him though and you could be of help for her with that.
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You were right on the money. I hope you broke his nose too.
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I just wish my daughter had a friend like you ! They constantly say they will BUT they never do. I'm ready to pay someone he runs from me. She stays w/him because no one else wants him. He wasn't a jerk at first. He has her living on the street cause NO one will hand him a job or give him a car or an apt. It's killing me Everyone says I cant do anything about it. How can u watch your child live like that? I CAN"T wish we had u for a friend YOU ARE THE BEST KIND OF FRIEND! and i dont believe in violence and we have no one like this in our family? where did i go wrong?? shes so beautiful and wasting her life.
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Some people just stand there and watch. You did the right thing.
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You did the right thing man and i hope your friend dumped his ass!You are a gr8 friend!
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You did a Great job!!
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