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Flirt with 'him'.
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The simple answer to your question is NOTHING. The more complicated answer involves me letting you know that you're not the cause of his cheating (that's what it is, cheating) and lying, and you don't need to try to change yourself since he's the one with the problem. It would also involve me saying I think there should be an ultimatum between yourself and him lying on the internet on himself and your marriage, but I don't think you'd listen to that part... My advice, honestly, is to let him know it's not acceptable and that you realize that this is a stepping stone. On the off chance that he hasn't met any of these people and he told you the truth about it, it's still disrespecting you and your commitment to him. Why, if all it is is a flirtation, would he feel like he needs to lie about his marriage status? Why flirt if he's happy? And if he's unhappy, why isn't he actively working on things with you to change his mental state?
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I am sorry that your boyfriend is acting like this. IMO internet flirting is no big deal. Lying about being single, though, is a recipe for trouble. If you have a problem with what he is talking about, and to whom he is talking. It IS a big deal. It goes to how much he is choosing to put into the realtionship, and how much he values your trust. This is subjective of the people in the relationship. I've dated guys who didn't care- so I would have a bit of a flirt in chat, or whatever. My husband doesn't like anyting like that, so out of respect for him and our relationship I decline from online flirtations and taboos. *After all, if it is just a bit of fun, why would I want to give myself a hard time in real life over some 'person' that may or may not be what or whom they claim?* Explain to him, that though it may not be a big deal in his mind, but it hurts you and makes you question what he see's in you, as well as his trustworthiness.
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If he is your partner, you shouldn't have to fight to be noticed. Tell him to choose between his online flirting or your relationship, make him take you seriously. Either that or you can get online and flirt too! Give him a taste of his own medicine. That should make him change his ways pretty quick. Good Luck!
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