Have you ever been do drunk you had a homosexual experience? My friends husband claims he was just having fun I say he's just gay
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lizizhere
ANSWERS: 8
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You are somewhat correct but you are making a false distinction. The terms 'straight' and 'gay' are not an either/or proposition. We are all essentially bisexual, but somewhere on a continuum between 100% same-sex desires and 100% opposite-sex desires. The vast majority of us are close to the 100% mark one way or another, but maybe your friend's husband is closer to the middle of the continuum. Under circumstances where he felt uninhibited enough to explore that aspect of his sexuality, he "went for it". An entirely separate question is did he do this before his marriage or during the marriage. If during, regardless of the gender of the fling, he still cheated on his wife. I hope this helps.
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I would say this is something that your friend's husband has been thinking about or wanting to do on a possibly subconcious level. We tend to do things when we are drunk that we would never consider in real life.
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I have been "falling-down" drunk and "puking my guts out" drunk, but I have never even entertained the thought of being with another man. It made me a little bolder when approaching women, but most of the time being that drunk makes me unable to do anything, anyway. I'm glad I don't do that anymore. But, I have had friends that were totally different people when they were that drunk. I suppose that a little bit of suggestion could of made them try anything. Alcohol does affect most people differently.
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The thing to bear in mind is that having a homosexual experience in itself does not mean you are gay. It may be you were simply experimenting, or acting out some "tendencies", but you are predominantly straight. Old Schools's answer regarding the continuum is a good way of putting it.
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I am already gay, but I have been so drunk or messed up that I had a heterosexual experience- and have come close several other times. Usually it was with a girl who I just met or had a strong friend-connection with. I am a very affectionate and friendly person and regular hug/kiss my female friends and they sit on my lap and stuff. Adding alcohol just confused things temporarily. When I am sober sex with a woman never crosses my mind. So, my answer is yes- I do think your friend's husband could be just playing around, but still straight. It is also possible that he has gay tendencies. It's hard to judge without knowing him and "seeing him in action." (That sounded bad, I know.)
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Have you ever heard the phrase "Liquid Courage"? I think he may have been interested in possibly having a gay experience, also know as bi-curious. It doesn't necessarily mean he's full on gay, as there's many, many, many shades of gray in between and it's really only for that person to label their own sexuality. I've never had to be drunk to have a homosexual experience- any that I've had were all sober. I just think he used alcohol to take advantage of the experience, and then use alcohol as an excuse, because he hasn't come to terms with his sexuality, whatever his sexuality may be. For a we know, he hated it, and now knows he's totally straight- or that was his foot out of the closet. That's for him to decide and to go through.
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Alcohol lowers inhibitions, but doesn't change underlying feelings. If he is married, he would most likely have an opposite sex attraction but by having a homosexual experience he would appear to be bisexual.
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He is gay, no question at all.
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